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Post by Lloyd on Aug 24, 2003 12:41:00 GMT -5
Hi guys. I've just been reading through a few of the recent posts on this board. Shy people being labelled as gay has come up time and time again. I have suffered from that all off my high school life. To add to my woes, I also have an effimenate voice. Every time I enter a class it would be gay boy this and gay boy that. Anybody else been through something like this?
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Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 30, 2003 14:18:53 GMT -5
It's easy to see why some people get labelled gay when they're shy. It's because of their quietness and sensitivity. It boils down to ignorance at the end of the day.
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Post by M1chael on Oct 21, 2003 1:53:13 GMT -5
Yeah, I have the feeling some people i know think im gay. Like shane said, its just ignorance.
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Post by johnadams on Oct 24, 2003 8:42:41 GMT -5
When I was in high school, it really wasn't so much your voice or your terseness that earmarked you as "gay" in the eyes of ignorant jocks. From my experience it was purely a matter of whim, with a few other factors. Examples: Can you score three touchdowns in a row in flag and/or standard football? Are you promiscuous to the point of courting syphillis? Do you work out more than you sleep? If you fit these criteria, you're an average, red blooded, virile American male. If not (and this was my title many a time) you're a "faggot".
I agree with the consensus of the responses to your post. It's sheer ignorance that dictates every action and thought process of most of the high school "in" crowd. Personally, though, I would rather be a pariah than live up to a standard set by those idiots. Stick with it, is what I'm trying to say. You're shy, and you're surrounded by self-righteous jerks, and everyone reading your post has experienced as much. In the end, it's a question of surviving this with your integrity undamaged.
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Post by spiridon on Oct 24, 2003 13:19:53 GMT -5
Johnadams has a great point. I'd like to add that the beauty of the humanity is in its diversity. Can you imagine what would happen if everybody in the world was a pumped-up athlete with a brain the size of a brazilnut? We would still be living in caves and die from cold.
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Post by spitzig on Oct 24, 2003 17:26:02 GMT -5
For me, I think it's just been the absense of women. I didn't have my first date, or sex, until my senior year of high school. I had one person in high school ask if I was gay. Since I was on relatively good terms with him, I do not think it was intended as an insult.
I also had a good friend tell me he did not want to know if I was gay. It was said in a way that was somewhat joking, but guys DON'T joke like that. I think he said that because I did not go out with or have sex with any women since I'd known him--at least 3 years.
I've heard similar questions about uncles who are rarely seen with women--no dates to family get togethers, etc. These questions are not made in their presence, so obviously not intended as insults. Also, most of that side of the family seems cool with another uncle who is gay.
I think men are just always assumed to want to date, and particularly have sex with women. If it doesn't happen that often, sexuality is questioned.
It's not just high school, although that type of bullying generally doesn't go on after high school.
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Post by lassie marie on Nov 7, 2003 13:13:36 GMT -5
It's just stereotyping. Not all gay guys act gay, not all straight guys act straight.
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