"You're too Quiet", "You're too shy"

[Jim]

My guess is that some of you people here have been told "You're too quiet" or "You're too shy". To me, it's one of the worst thing that can be said to me and it totally devastates me. Pointing out something like this about me in which I am trying to change. It's really bad when they say this to me. It's like if I were crippled and then if someone were to say to me everyday "You can't walk" when I am trying to walk. It's horrible and makes me resent the other person's insensitivity who says this to me. In recent times I've gotten so hurt and angered by this that I've told the person who said this to me that I didn't appreciate it. Sure it's uncomfortable, but I got my point across and feel better satisfied about it. I just didn't take it. some people tell me to joke about it and accept this comment that the other person is trying to get me to join in and talk more. Yes, I understand that, but still I find it rude and insensitive form someone who might point this out about me. I am very taken aback.
What do you people think? How do you feel?

Thanks.

Jim

[glenn miller]

it has happened a few times lately. people would say u got to talk more. and other things. i tell them it is harder then u think. but they dont understand. when i was little it happened more. since i was real shy then.

[Placido]

At our Christmas dinner at work, it came to speeches, and everyone got the mickey taken out of them a bit.

So of course I got ribbed for never saying anything - this time last year, it would have been fair enough, but these last months I've been making an effort to change, a real, painful, effort, and it just hurt that no-one seemed to have noticed - I was still the 'quiet guy'.

[J]

I'm not suggesting you do this. But have you tried drinking coffee? Sometimes when I drink strong coffee, this allows me to act a little more hyper and hopefully more talkative. Also, if it really hurts you alot, maybe it's time to confront the people who say this about you and tell them you don't appreciate their remarks. Just suggestions.

[dawn]

im always getting told this, my x bf, things there is something up with me wen im quiet, he didnt know me as been a quiet person, since i starting goin out with him i was quite noisy, i met him online so he didnt know the real me

it annoys me wen people keep saying to me go to the pub on my own to make friends, like someone said its not as easy wen u r shy and dont like speaking to other people u dont know