Blah
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Holy socks Batman! It's an ALIEN!! ARGH!
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Post by Blah on Mar 25, 2004 23:02:58 GMT -5
You're chatting with someone in a chatroom and you think everything's going well, then you exchange pictures. They abruptly end the conversation and claim they're busy or have to do something?
This has happened to me more times than I can count. It confirms what I already know, I'm ugly, have a low self-esteem, lack confidence and blah, blah, blah. I'm only looking for friends because I don't have any in real life. I know that sounds pathetic. And you know what's worse, I already know how the conversation will end. When they see my picture, I know what they're thinking, "God, he's ugly. Why would I even want anything to do with him." And I hate when I always say "Do you want to keep in touch and exchange e-mail addresses?" after we have traded pictures because I know how they'll respond, but a small part of me is hopeful that they might actually want to keep in touch. The usual reply is always "You can always find me in the chat rooms." I'm just like, "Why do I always do this to myself?! The same thing happens over and over."
It's so much easier to talk to someone on the internet than in person but even online, it's hard to make any friends. I just wish I could overcome this shyness. I hate it so much.
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Ghost
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Post by Ghost on Mar 26, 2004 6:31:58 GMT -5
I barely did any chatrooms and I only like once showed my baby pics to someone. Besides, my scanner ia not hooked up anyway. So, no people haven't done that to me.
Also I know I don't look too bad. Sure, there are things I don't like about me, but it is easy to cover up and my face ain't bad, not gorgeous, but ok. But still, I don't show pics. People tend to judge on looks before they even know you well enough. So I refuse. I have had penpals who asked, but I polite said no. If the opposite sex asked for pics I tend to become suspicious because some people on the internet are kinda looking for a girl/boyfriend and I was not interested in that. Neither did I needed to knew how they looked.
It doesn't mean you are ugly Blah. It just means you do not live up to their expectations. They may had been looking for more then "just a online friend". And people have high standards. If they want a girl, she has to be a mix of Shakira, J.Lo, Britney, Hilton sisters and a inflatable doll to be their dream lady. If they look for a guy, he has to be a mix between Orlando Bloom, Johhny Depp, Brad Pitt and if possible a pinch of the "tall, dark, handsome, rich" to finish it up. Yes, I exaggerate, but I just try to show that people aim sometimes too high in what they look for in people. Like everyone, they should be able to accept some aspects who do not live up to their strict rules.
I always make jokes about not having a life. I guess I am quite content with not being a social beast. Don't taking myself always too serious is a good thing too. Back to you now. Most people have the longing to have friends, or just a buddy. It's support, feeling loved, wanted and not alone. At the general forum there is a topic on top where you can find some links for help with shyness and anxiety, books, websites, etc.
Why don't you try penpals? There is here a forum where you can post for it. The people who come here are in general less demanding with those things, because they cope with the same and/or understand.
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Post by ShygirlOz on Mar 26, 2004 6:52:44 GMT -5
Blah
i will be your friend, and i don't need a pic
you can find me on yahoo or AIM
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Post by Alecto on Mar 26, 2004 9:24:22 GMT -5
I haven't been in a chat room in probably over 3 years, just because I couldn't stand them. I've even gotten to the point to where I only let people on my buddy list IM me, because 80% of the messages I get are:
"H3Y Baby, U wont 2 cybr with M3?"
*hits head on desk*
Anyway, I'd still like some friends to chat with. So, if you want to send me a message or email, that'd be cool ;D
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Post by Boblouie58 on Mar 26, 2004 12:34:05 GMT -5
Blah- give me a shout at my email as listed. I'll chat with anyone on any subject except music. I'm not much into music other than having it on a background noise. So, I'll chat with you or anyone else on shy u for that matter.
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Post by Jarous on Mar 26, 2004 14:57:44 GMT -5
blah, you seem to relinquish the main advantage of online communication - the anonymity - too easily. Thanks to the internet it doesn't matter a bit what size or shape you are, only your opinions, character and wits count.
It also sounds pretty imprudent to show your photos to a person you've only just met. And it surely is superficial to end a conversation because of that. I am not advising you to do that - just to show the pointlessnes of it all - what would happen should you show a false picture? The superficial person would talk to you, but would it make you any better? Consequently, posting your real 'you' doesn't make you a bit worse. Try to postpone showing pictures until you know the receiver better. If you can show him your considerable qualities before that, he certainly won't abandon you because of mere physical look.
I don't like chat rooms, but if you want, you may e-mail me.
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laura
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Post by laura on Jun 14, 2004 15:26:45 GMT -5
thats the reason y i never put pictures on the web
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Post by CaryGrant on Jun 15, 2004 10:04:41 GMT -5
There are moblogs where people are accepted primarily on the basis of their contributions. Yes, pretty people get lots of attention, but anybody who is witty or quirky or deep is appreciated, too.
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Post by 2_Shy_4_My_Own_Good on Jul 3, 2004 19:57:56 GMT -5
i'll be your friend ;D
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