Who is anyone to tell me how I act around guys?!!!

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So I'm really pissed now.. I was talking to my friend online, and she's complaining how she doesn't think she's attrative and everything. I'm like, "Well, you have more guys after you than I do! Then you must think I'm ugly!" She said, "No, you're not ugly. You just have to be more open." She told me that I'm not open enough with guys and I'm antisocial with them.

Now I admit that I am very quiet. But when it comes to guys I like, I am NOT AFRAID to go after them. And my anger is even more heightened because of the fact that I have a really big crush on a certain guy at the moment, and all I want is to see him again, but I don't know where I can possibly find him. All I can do is wait to see if he comes into my workplace. And if he comes in, I know I won't hesititate to flirt. Screw her, I hope he comes in tomorrow and then I can prove to her that she's wrong. I DO know how to flirt with a guy if I like him. And if I wasn't open with other guys, would it even matter anyway? Because they're not the ones I WANT. She's like, "Well that's how you come across." That's a bunch of bull, I'm sorry. As long as the guy I like knows I like him, I guess it doesn't matter really what anyone else thinks.

But don't you just feel like no matter how hard you try, you can yell so loud the whole world would hear you, yet you're still doomed to being considered QUIET?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I like this board because I know everyone relates so well to the feelings I have. Thanks for listening guys.

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I'm like, "Well, you have more guys after you than I do! Then you must think I'm ugly!" She said, "No, you're not ugly. You just have to be more open." She told me that I'm not open enough with guys and I'm antisocial with them.

Well, you kind of invited her comment when you said she must think you're ugly. She simply disputed that theory and told you why she felt the way she did. I don't think she did it in a mean way.

And if he comes in, I know I won't hesititate to flirt. Screw her, I hope he comes in tomorrow and then I can prove to her that she's wrong. I DO know how to flirt with a guy if I like him.

From what you told us, she didn't say you didn't know how to flirt. She just said you didn't open up that much. Someone can still flirt but act somehwat reserved.

And if I wasn't open with other guys, would it even matter anyway?...She's like, "Well that's how you come across."

Why would she make that up? It didn't seem like she was trying to insult you. Sometimes shy people like us don't realize how shy we are until we find out how more out-going people perceive us.

As long as the guy I like knows I like him, I guess it doesn't matter really what anyone else thinks.

I agree.

But don't you just feel like no matter how hard you try, you can yell so loud the whole world would hear you, yet you're still doomed to being considered QUIET?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

But that's because we are quiet most of the time!! At least, I am. The few occasions where I'm out-going don't really balance out the 90% of the time that I'm quiet.