Do men change in a relationship??

[HydratedBeatle]

Can someone, preferably a guy, tell me whether all men change during a relationship? Are any men born liking cuddles and kisses - or is this a short term thing that can only be expected at the start of a relationship? Also why don't men talk to you anymore in a relationship? Is it that they are too lazy or have nothing to say?

[SpathiEluder]

never been in a relationship, so i wouldn't know... i would think a relationship would change me for the better rather than the worse.

also, since i hardly get a chance to talk to people, i would want to talk a lot in a relationship, since it would give me someone to talk to...

[Naptaq]

a good relationship 4 me is definetly gonna change me for the better.. if it's not then i must say it a day and quit cus im not caring enough 4 that person.. cus it should definetly be a positive thing 4 me.. so that i try and do the best i can a be the best person i can be
but hey that's just how i see it right now
about the cuddling thing.. i think it dependes on the person but in the first few years i think everbody cuddles (well if not all then most of couples) & kisses
about talking.. i think in a good reletionship communication is very important

[CaryGrant]

Your former guys probably think you changed, too.

Relationships go through a honeymoon phase, in which guys are much more in touch with, and feel safe sharing, their feminine side (sharing emotions, talkative, etc.). Similarly, women are more in touch with and open about their masculine side (openly sexual).

Once the honeymoon phase ends, however (as we realise our partner is not perfect, that their love is not unconditional, and as our own insecurities creep back in), we close down.

It's a natural process, but not necessarily permanent. Books like Men are from Mars and many others seek to show couples how to keep the love alive, but it takes both people being willing to overcome their fears to make it happen.