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Post by shygrl on Jun 24, 2004 16:45:29 GMT -5
Hi there,
I am a 29 year-old Canadian girl living in Eastern Ontario. I am of course quite shy and have moderate to intense social anxieties depending on the context. I have self-esteem issues that I have been working at since early childhood. I have just emerged from a severe depression that lasted almost two years (most recent episode, I have been depressed before!), and am putting the different pieces of my life back together.
I am engaged to a wonderful guy and plan to marry in '05. The idea of having a wedding in front of other people frightens me. I spend almost all of my 'social time' with my fiancé and his group of friends who seem all to be outgoing and socially confident by nature. I feel lucky to be in this circle of friends, but in many ways (including interests), I am quite different, and can feel lonely in this group since I am the 'quiet one'. I don't think it is entirely healthy for me to 'tag along' in this group all the time and I would like to cultivate some of my own friendships.
I find it hard to make friends and I figure that cultivating some online friendships (or pen-pal-ship!) with people who are facing the same challenges of shyness would be a good start. I don't expect miracles or even to find 'best buddies', but I think just having a place and people that support each other makes the world a much friendlier place.
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Post by shosho on Jun 24, 2004 18:45:52 GMT -5
Hi, there! Im new to the group but I'd love to email with you. Your situation sounds quite similar to mine. My hubby has some great friends and just has the ability to reach out and build meaningful friendships. But you know, he's such a gem that he picks his friends well, so I've come to realize I can trust them too like brothers/sisters. I've suffered thru depression and many other problems for many years now. Social gatherings are still always a huge ordeal for me. I've always been shy and have self esteem problems too. But when we got married in 1990, I know I had to come out of my shell by myself to make sure the day was enjoyable for everyone. I reminded my self that day is a once in lifetime event and just had to make sure it went smoothly. Well, if you want to email me you can at: shosho8884@hotmail.com
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Post by missanxious on Jul 31, 2004 14:10:41 GMT -5
Hello!
I can relate to you all...I'm 20 and someday soon I will get merried... to the man of my dreams he! he! the whole family and friends thing at wedings are a big thing, specialy for really shy people with social anxiety disorder like me. Ever try CBT groups or read and try any positive thinking strategies? They help a great deal!
Your welcome to email me. Click the email folder on the left.
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Post by leeanne172 on Sept 19, 2004 0:42:28 GMT -5
Hello I'm Lee Anne and I am also from Ont, Toronto to be exact I am 35, married and you talking about feeling out of place because your the quiet one is very much myself .. I feel like I am in the way sometimes and if I just leave nobody would notice. If you would like to email me please do at leeanne172@yahoo.ca
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