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Post by lonelyheart on May 14, 2005 7:16:24 GMT -5
I guess I have a few friends, would like to get to know them better but I guess I feel that something is holding me back. I feel that they will think that what I'm asking them or talking about is boring etc... tends to be more of my female and 'confident' friends.
Anyone else feel this way?
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Post by pnoopiepnats on May 14, 2005 7:21:28 GMT -5
I guess I have a few friends, would like to get to know them better but I guess I feel that something is holding me back. I feel that they will think that what I'm asking them or talking about is boring etc... tends to be more of my female and 'confident' friends. Anyone else feel this way? I recall talking to you one time in chat and you didn't seem boring to me. |
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Post by lonelyheart on May 14, 2005 7:52:41 GMT -5
I guess I didn't feel threated by you!  |
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Post by carly on May 14, 2005 10:43:30 GMT -5
i feel that way mostly when i just met a person. and thats where i fumble cuz sometime ill just talk like an airhead or just trivial matter. gettting to that deep part is hard and really uncomfortable depending on the person. like if you have more in common and can relate to each other, it may be easier.
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Post by lonelyheart on May 14, 2005 18:48:53 GMT -5
Well my problem is that if I meet someone and feel intimidated by them, my voice will be all quiet and 'strange'. I will fumble my words too.  Usually around people in my peer age group. I guess being given a hard time during school didn't help. |
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Post by theinfiniteabyss84 on May 14, 2005 22:51:46 GMT -5
I have the same problem since...forever. I always felt odd around people my own age, I never talked to them. I still feel a certain level of uncomfortablity (is that a word? heehee) around them. I feel intimidated. I feel like I have nothing to say, my mind goes blank. Or I have something I want to say, and I almost, almost say something, but I get all flustered and I end up not saying anything. I hide behind a book so noone will talk to me. Especially if I like someone, I am to scared to talk to them and to scared that they might talk to me, so I read a book and hope they don't talk to me. I talk to a couple people in 3 separate classes, and I don't know what makes them different, that makes me able to talk to these two people. I guess they are similar to myself, so the level of comfort is greater. It is so gosh darned complicated! ::sigh:: ~I.A.  |
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Post by Richard Cunningham on May 15, 2005 6:24:18 GMT -5
i always seem to relate to people either on a really superficial level or a very deep level, never any half measures. either people are able to go the distance with me, or they never get to know me at all, because my tendency is to always go deep, i always want to penetrate the mystery. I think both people feel more when you go deep. Superficial sucks nut. |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on May 15, 2005 7:00:03 GMT -5
i always seem to relate to people either on a really superficial level or a very deep level, never any half measures. either people are able to go the distance with me, or they never get to know me at all, because my tendency is to always go deep, i always want to penetrate the mystery. I think both people feel more when you go deep. Superficial sucks nut. deep penetration is good |
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Post by Paulinus on May 21, 2005 17:56:29 GMT -5
LonelyHeart I feel the same way aound people may own age. I think it boils down to the fact I was not popular at school, and disliked many of the kids around me, and so now harbour a deep mistrust of people my age.
At uni I talked a lot more to the older students rather then people my age.
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Post by streetworm on May 24, 2005 20:49:33 GMT -5
It seems like I behave differently in a variety of classes and I have no clue why.
There were some classes at school where I was very outspoken and I had no real trouble talking to anyone in the class (Spanish I,II and Phychology).
Then there were some where I'd generally talk to a small group of people. (usually the english classes as well as Math classes)
Then there are some where I just don't talk to anyone. (Government was one of these because I was one of two seniors in a class with juniors and sophomores) I absolutely hated it because I knew that everyone thought I was just really rude and snobby, but I just couldn't talk to anyone at all unless they initiated the conversation. Just a really sucky situation.
Funnily enough I've never had much of a problem going up in front of class for a speech or anything. There were only two times where I completely broke down...I kept on fumbling around with my words and stuttering (which I never do) and I just plain couldn't concentrate, it really sucked.
Other than that...I guess I usually shake quite a bit but I try not to be too self-conscious about it. I remember about half way through a 10 minute presentation I was holding a paper that had all my notes on it and I looked down at my hand and it's shaking all over the place...it was almost funny really because I hadn't noticed it that much until then. I ended up just setting the thing down and walking behind a podium to make it less noticeable.
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Post by annaa on Jun 25, 2005 20:43:48 GMT -5
I wish I knew people on a deeper level.
I wish I could have deep, meaningful conversations with people..
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Post by traveler on Jun 26, 2005 4:28:28 GMT -5
i talk more with people younger or older then me. not sure why.
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Jul 3, 2005 16:19:53 GMT -5
LonelyHeart I feel the same way aound people may own age. I think it boils down to the fact I was not popular at school, and disliked many of the kids around me, and so now harbour a deep mistrust of people my age. At uni I talked a lot more to the older students rather then people my age. Yeah, same here Paul. |
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