Why do people think Im gay since Im shy

[dcguy18]

I always seem to be hit on by guys. Three times Im in the street minding my own business guys come up to me and ask to fool around with me.

One time I was walking to the libery this guy was calling me over I paid him no mind and walk the the street he pull to the side and started ask me thing and then ask to give me a ride.

No thnaks but he kept on pushing it so I ran away. The second time again another guy mistake me for his freind but ask If I want to fool around. No me saying it uneasy.

And tonight this guy bum a cigar off of me and started making small talk and then ask If I want to have fun. No Im going home and I have fun on the weekendwell have a little now man in a sensual tone. I walked away quicky. Im tired of getting this assumed vibe from me.

I dont want to start with the people in school in the past.
Awhile back my mom had a talk with me asking is it because I act shy if im in the closet and ashamed to come out and told me about my dead uncle who died when I was young who was gay.

Im a quiet person who wear glasses and now thinking this is a factor on why no girls notices me. So what can i do to change this?

[sushiboat]

I've had a similar problem in the past. When people knew me for a while and saw that I'm not hitting on women, dating, in a relationship, etc., they thought that maybe I'm gay. (Recently I'm getting a little better on the dating front, though I still have a long way to go.) But I've never been hit on or mistaken for gay by gay men.

In your case, I think there's more going on. I think that there must be some physical thing that gay men are seeing that makes them think you are gay too. Hair style, clothing, voice, and body language are some possibilities. You might ask someone you trust to help you figure out what it is.

[sadsadsoulTheOverman]

sushiboat said:

I've had a similar problem in the past. When people knew me for a while and saw that I'm not hitting on women, dating, in a relationship, etc., they thought that maybe I'm gay. (Recently I'm getting a little better on the dating front, though I still have a long way to go.) But I've never been hit on or mistaken for gay by gay men.

In your case, I think there's more going on. I think that there must be some physical thing that gay men are seeing that makes them think you are gay too. Hair style, clothing, voice, and body language are some possibilities. You might ask someone you trust to help you figure out what it is.

[razzledazzle]

i get both women and men looking @ me, its pretty funny really...but whatever.......i used to be very shy....now im not too bad....the problem with shy people is they think too much about everything and seek approval from others when we shouldnt care what others think and just do our own thing

[Cassava]

Yeah I've had a few people think I'm gay just cos of my lack of success with the ladies. No one has ever hit on me though.

[Medici]

I have been hit on by guys too. Actually they were good looking guys so I wasn't offended, but I had to tell them that I wasn't gay. This hasn't happened in a long time though. You never know exactly why someone will take a liking to you, but its something about your looks and mannerisms.

This may be a little sick to say but in my case I think the main issue was my youthful, boyish look. I have always looked younger than my years and that may really appeal to some gay men. Ok enough of that *erase images from mind*

Luckily it also appeals to some women and as I go into my 30's I'm starting to look more manly which I hope will broaden my appeal with the ladies.

[shyusa]

Yup ive been hit on by guys too its weird. but ive been hit on by more women so thats a good sign.

[Jarous]

I don't think this question is answerable - do you know why we fall in love? No one knows, it's not something you decide to do, it just happens. We were made this way and there's no changing the fact...

It has to do with male x female mentality. Perhaps as many women as men are are attracted to you - but it's expected that the man makes the first move - and so he does You never learn about the women because you do not move first - pity, isn't it?

And yes, the fact that you do not have a girl-friend (and I guess do not show much flirting/dating activity) in your case obviously seems to indicate a wrong kind of sexual orientation - pity again, but why do you mind so much?

[lsdima4]

do you know why we fall in love? No one knows, it's not something you decide to do, it just happens

www.sosuave.com/articles/infatuation.htm