Re: How should i ask him if he likes me? HELP

[shy 777]

If he is looking at you enough for your friends to know and tell you it then you already know he likes you. Make a move on him if your brave enough. Ask him to do something with you sometime. Or have your friends ask.

[mr man]

i think you should try boosting his self confidence or something. i recon he likes you but just cant imagion ever being with you. he proberly has allways liked you.
i donno what to say, "its a bit of a tricky one". sorry that wont help. um just get to know him better, dont say "do you like me" cos he wont know what to do. very slowly right, try to get him "out his shell" it will take some hard thought/work but it will pay. get him to kinda follow you about for a day, then go do things with him he likes to do.
the only problem is this guy has a whole lot of defences he has invented because of the way he's been treated perhaps, so all you do is prove to him you only wanna get to know him better.

my brains a bit foggy today but i done what i could. hope i havn't confused you more.

anytime

[Max Power]

Guest-mr said:

i think you should try boosting his self confidence or something. i recon he likes you but just cant imagion ever being with you. he proberly has allways liked you.

I agree.

This is... eerie. I am going through the same exact thing, but you have a better situation because you know this guy whereas I do not even know the girl I like.

I don't know how to approach this. How often are you around this guy? Good news for you is that your friends see him looking at you, so maybe he's thinking the same exact thing you are. When I was in second grade, many moons ago, there was a girl that I liked for about a few months. Then one day her friend just came up to me and asked me if I like her, and I freaked out and said no, even though I did.

But on the other hand, now that I'm older and wiser... ok, just older if the same thing happens today and a friend asks me if I like her friend and I do, I'd say yes in a heartbeat and take it from there.

If I knew how well you know this guy, I might be able to offer advice that makes sense.

[red]

Best thing to do is try to become his friend. Get him to hangout with you after school. Eventually indicate that you like him by complimenting how good he looks in those jeans or something. It won’t matter what you say to a guy. Say whatever you want and be as clear as the daylight. We don’t get offended by lines like girls do. Once he gets to know you and is a little more comfortable with you, slowly start touching him in sensual ways and see if he reciprocates. If you even get the slightest hint that he likes it, don’t stop! Keep going because he might shy a way a little. Besides if he really doesn’t want you doing that he would stop you himself.

P.S.: It won’t really matter what you touch either since he likes you. Hahaha and I am serious if you can’t tell. Again, even though we are shy and have a hard time initiating things, we are not like women – we still live for this stuff!

[reallyconfused2004]

thanks for all your help you guys umm i walked with him afterschool the other and i was not obvious that i liked him but we just talked about a bunch of stuff.....
But he kept giving me 1 - 3 word answers is that normal for exremely shy people i even tried talking about his favorite hobby and he still was quiet but we did walk for like 5 minutes togther and he coud have eaisily crossed the street but he didnt so i think that is a good sign cause he normally walks on the other side of the street but he walked on the same side as me and then once i got to my car he crossed the street
well thanks for the advice
if you have anymore fell free to write it ;D

[shy 777]

Yes we shy guys like to give answers in only a few words because when we are uncomfortable talking. Keep at it, I think he likes you. Do what red said and become his friend first to make him more used to you then flirt with him very strongly and clearly by complimenting him and trying to touch his arm or whatever. If you get the feeling he wants to ask you out but is too shy to then you may have to do it.

[reallyconfused2004]

ok i get what u guys r saying that i should become friends with him but when i am talking to him he answers in 1 - 3 wod answers and u said shy people do that cause they r not comfortable but if the guy likes u y r they not comfortable
thanks for all the advice
if u have anymore advice on anything about this topic feel free to write it
thanks again ;D

[shy 777]

Because we don't care what a guy thinks. We are not attracted to guys so we don't have to worry about saying the wrong thing. Plus just being around a girl I like makes me nervous.

[reallyconfused2004]

o ok i get it now since your shy i have another ? for u what do u do when your around the girl u like compared to other girls r there certain body langauage signals shy people give?
thanks for all your help ;D

[shy 777]

Hmmm….. that’s really hard to tell and may differ from one shy guy to another. However, the difference in the way he acts when talking to a you and a male stranger that’s not his friend is what you should really try to clue in on. If he talks to you the same way he talks to a guy, then he probably views you as a guy and that’s not what you are looking for here. Although, if you see him talking to some arbitrary person that’s a guy that is not his friend and then you see how he talks with you, you should notice that he is more uncomfortable talking to you that he is with the guy stranger. That is a sure sign a shy guy fancies you. IOW, If you cause him to be more shy when around you than he is with males that are not his friend then he likes you.

Other things to look for:

a. Blushing – especially after you give him a compliment that indicates you like him or just blushing uncontrollably for no reason
b. Staring at you only when you are not looking; if you look, he immediately looks away – usually down first and then you should see him acting somewhat embarrassed as If he is thinking “oh no I got caught! What do I do?!” He may act and seem more uncomfortable as if he just had to say a word or two to you. Sometimes he may hide in his shell and be afraid to look at you again until the effect wears off the next day maybe. However, if he lowers his eyebrows, rolls his eyes or does something else to indicate discussed, then he doesn’t like you. After this, he will ensure that he doesn’t look at you anymore because he would want to look at someone he doesn’t find attractive.
c. Sometimes he might not try to show anything, as if he doesn’t want you to find out because he is afraid of “what do I do?” as I said before. If you can somehow tell this, it might look like he is trying to hard to make you think he doesn’t like you if that makes any sense. lol. In this situation, he might try to pretend he was leering at a wall near your line of sight and then stare in that same direction for a minute or two until he thinks its safe not to.
d. If you talked to him before, you can try to find out what he remembers about the little 30 second exchange between you two as long as he fit a word in every 5-10 seconds. (see below) You may find that he will remember everything because he analyzed it and went over the conversation a billion times in his head.
e. If talking to you he may have a hard time focusing and listening to you if what you are saying lasts more than 5-10 seconds because he may be thinking “how pretty you are; is she somehow giving me signals?; I wish she was but then again, who am I kidding, I wouldn’t do anything about it anyways…” If he finds you pretty you will make him lose his concentration whereas if it was a guy, he would not be thinking about this and might actually be able to listen.
f. If he is extremely shy and you get uncomfortably close to him, you may notice him starting to have a panic attack, having trouble to breathe, etc. That is a sign that he is extremely nervous around you and therefore likes you.

[reallyconfused2004]

wow thats a lot of stuff thankyou so much!!!!!!!! for all your help umm he does most of those signs i am guessing that he likes me but i know if i ask him then he would freak out......... plus i dont know if i mentioned that ia m really outgoing and he is extremely shy but ya i tried asking him to the movies but he seemed too afraid to go plus i dont know if i mentioned but because he is really shy no one really knows him accept the 6 people who r in his "crew" but people who r really good freidns with him when they r talking to me cause in each one of my classes i have at least one of his friends and they always try to bring up his name one time i even told one of his friends that i liked the guy but he never believed me
thanks again for all your help...........
if u have any more advice on anything dont be afraid to put it
thankyou again ;D

[shy 777]

The biggest hint is the constant staring. Since he does this as your friends are saying he does and especially if you have caught him doing this more than once then he likes you. If you are thinking about asking him out, the best position to do it would be when you two are alone with no one else around, not even his friends. For shy guys 1 on 1 situations are the easiest to handle. As you add more people to a group conversation, the more shy we get.

Do even his friends acknowledge that he is shy? Since you are outgoing, I suggest coming on to him when both of you are alone. I personally am even more intimidated by outgoing girls so I would bet he is too. lol

When you asked him to the movies, did you make it clear you like him? Maybe he somehow has doubts. lol, I remember when I was in high school I was oblivious to many girls liking me. I doubted it because I have never seen some of the clues before. Now that I look back at those moments, I think about them quite differently. Drop him a line; who cares if you treat him like a piece of eye candy because I wouldn't if a girl did that to me and I doubt any guy would care. lol

So get him alone, give him clear stated compliments, then ask him to the movies or something.

[razzledazzle]

if a guy keeps looking @ you he likes you, or you have a piece of food stuck to ur face

[franklin]

Go for it (it is the 21st century after all) there should be nothing wrong with that.
Sometimes getting the friends to break the ice can be a bad disaster waiting to happen.
Just get to know each other a bit first -im not saying take 12 months but know a little about each other and a little time can go a long way. Sometimes doing that can mean alot to both people.
I think what everyone really wants is just honesty and consistency -it feels better if you know the other person is not sure than say one night stand one minute big argument and ignored the next.
Just maybe listen up if he says there are things he isnt talking about -sometimes us blokes need female mates (we arent sleeping with) we can talk to (plutonically) as much as ones to sleep with.

[franklin]

Sometimes if a bloke seems a bit distant -he might have bank account or other problems on his mind. As opposed to be just ignoring you. If in doubt and they arent being irrate, drunk, bossy or moody ask -they might appreciate the concern.