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Post by DarkPotty on Mar 23, 2005 15:16:15 GMT -5
Hi, umm... ok, if u like someone (possibly, well...maybe even... love), someone who is seeing someone else, someone who more than probably isn't interested in you in that way, you shouldn't tell them, right? Even if it eats you alive from the inside, and it feels like your heart is being torn apart everytime they talk about their dear love and so on, you should keep it to yourself, right? Cause you wouldn't want to make things weird if you are friends, right? Right??? I mean, what's the point of telling someone that it's for them you live and die inside everyday if they don't feel the same way back, and the only thing it would do is make them feel bad and unconf'table... It'd be kinda selfish to tell them, right?
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Post by DarkenPotty on Mar 23, 2005 15:29:15 GMT -5
Umm...yeah, it was supposed to read "This love is sadly unreturned therefore this love shall remain untold?"
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Post by DarkerPotty on Mar 23, 2005 16:19:50 GMT -5
Hey, I guess you're right... maybe I shouldn't live with the "what if's"... anyway, thanks
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Post by lsdima4 on Mar 23, 2005 16:30:41 GMT -5
Then go back and tell her
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Post by wagnerr on Mar 23, 2005 17:02:26 GMT -5
Hi, umm... ok, if u like someone (possibly, well...maybe even... love), someone who is seeing someone else, someone who more than probably isn't interested in you in that way, you shouldn't tell them, right? Even if it eats you alive from the inside, and it feels like your heart is being torn apart everytime they talk about their dear love and so on, you should keep it to yourself, right? Cause you wouldn't want to make things weird if you are friends, right? right? Is this a man or woman you're talking about? This part is isn't clear. Personally, i wouldn't tell them. If they're already involved with somebody else, this revelation of your feelings would ruin your existing friendship with them. And then, it would turn sour anyway. This person would never again look at you the same way again. Uh Uh. Try to find someone else. These love triangles are very dangerous to get into.
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Post by DarkPotty2 on Mar 24, 2005 15:47:38 GMT -5
Thank you guys. Yeah, I'm a guy. Well... that was...a lot of different opinions...you all make good points though, that's the hard part... Yeah sometimes I feel the urge to let it all out and tell her, but then again I don't want to ruin our friendship... And just the thought of it makes me wanna piss my pants, yeah, I'm a coward... I just don't want to be selfish and put her in an uncomfortable position...It'd be beyond awkward. And bloody hell, "it's a compliment" sure, maybe, but I'm not gonna go and pour my heart out to her just so she can only feel flattered... I'd rather go for the 30 girls...AND tell her about it yeah, I think I'll do just that! Thank you for making my day!
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Post by wagnerr on Mar 24, 2005 16:42:33 GMT -5
Yeah sometimes I feel the urge to let it all out and tell her, but then again I don't want to ruin our friendship... And just the thought of it makes me wanna piss my pants, yeah, I'm a coward... I just don't want to be selfish and put her in an uncomfortable position...It'd be beyond awkward. "Being afraid to do something and then being afraid to do it makes the prettiest type of man" from Roger Louis Stevenson. This is Courage, man. Being afraid is nothing to be ashamed of.
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Post by DarkPotty2 on Mar 24, 2005 17:28:24 GMT -5
"Being afraid to do something and then being afraid to do it makes the prettiest type of man" from Roger Louis Stevenson. This is Courage, man. Being afraid is nothing to be ashamed of. Thanks, dude, finally someone who appreciates fear!
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Post by DarkPotty2 on Mar 24, 2005 17:34:35 GMT -5
the point i was trying to make is that such a thing should be taken as a complement, not as a bad social mistake or something. it's a good thing, not a bad thing. but i'm sure this issue is somewhat different from a girl's point of view than a guy's. you sound like you know exactly what you want to do. so go for it! Yeah...I guess, you're right, she can't hate me for loving her, can she?
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Mar 24, 2005 23:15:36 GMT -5
I had that problem through high school. I had a crush on a girl that I sat next two for three years in a row in band class even in bands outside of school. I never could get past the thought of how I would manage to sit so close to her everyday if she said no. Ironically we ended up sharing a leadership position together but I avoided sitting down with her and calling her to talk about things when there was lots of things to talk about like how to deal with my best friend not listening to us and insulting me. oh well such is life
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Post by DarkPotty2 on Mar 25, 2005 7:14:02 GMT -5
i wouldn't think so. you said you were friends already. if i had a friend who had fallen in love with me and i was making him uncomfortable by talking about another man, i would want to know because i wouldn't want to do that to a friend. yeah, it might be weird for awhile afterward, but ...nothing ventured and all. besides, who knows what could happen if you tell her how you feel. this guy she's seeing could be history before you know it. and if you go hit on 30 other girls first she might not still be around or available when you're done. but i'm weird so don't go by me. apparently love doesn't exist and one woman is the same as another, so what do i know? Don't worry, I'm weird too, yeah, sometimes I wonder if there's such thing as love in the first place...maybe's just a bipolar disorder like depression... Anyway as much as I like to think that she would leave her boyfriend if I told her, I just don't think so...There's something I..well...forgot to mention, you see, they've been dating for more than a year now and...they're engaged... </3 Well, thanks for the encouragement anyways..
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Post by DarkPotty2 on Mar 26, 2005 8:20:48 GMT -5
I guess...
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Post by zaab on Mar 26, 2005 13:10:36 GMT -5
but i'm weird so don't go by me. apparently love doesn't exist and one woman is the same as another, so what do i know? I can get away with being indifferent for a while, then inevitably someone really cool comes along (and it doesn't happen often) and everything goes out the window.
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Post by zaab on Mar 26, 2005 20:38:53 GMT -5
true passion has been so very rare in my life that it makes it all the more compelling when it does happen. I felt this deep affinity about four times in maybe twenty years since puberty. So its not an everyday occurence. The last one was the strongest--this amazing combo of intelligence, sexiness, humor, sensitivity, talent, adventurousness, sophistication, and I could go on. By the time I dated her she was off to Germany a couple months later. That'll learn me.
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Post by DarkPotty2 on Mar 27, 2005 6:39:41 GMT -5
Hey, even though she's engaged, do you still think I should tell her...?
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