Dorm problem with cliques/girls

[AnonYGiRL]

Okay. So I am busy a lot. Correction: All the effing time. I want to get good grades, and I have to sacrifice getting to know people to do that.

So I met these girls a few weeks ago. . . . and we talked and they were close to each other. Then there was a dorm activity and I didn't talk to them because I didn't know what to say. They didn't talk to me. And they were almost in a clique of their own (which is how they were b4 I met them)

Now, it is like we try to avoid each other's eyes. Today it was so bad that I was opening my door and one of them, the friendly one, used the drinking fountain as an avoidance device. She drunk until I entered the room. Saying hi is awkward for both of us I think because it is like, dude we already said hi before...

And one morning, I was coming to the room from the bathroom, and a girl from the "cliquey thing" had just gotten up, and I kind of looked at her in that "im not lookin at u" type of way and she was not smiling, etc. And once I tried smiling at them first when all this began, but I got bland, neutral expressions.

This sounds stupid, but I don't know it is like we both feel the need to do this. And another person that I know, who doesn't talk to the girls, I think hates me and we feel obligated to say hello. . . but I can tell she wishes I didn't exist. When she is with other people they don't ignore me but she takes that as an excuse to do so.

is this just the general social structure of things or is this an antisocial thing that I can remedy.

Bottom line?

[glow=red,2,300]I need something to say I think!?[/glow]

[carly]

If they feel shy/awkward too...I think you could maybe just say, "Hi, How are you?" or "What are you doing tonite?" I think girls feel safe in their cliches and tend to exclude people without even thinking about it. I lived in a dorm for two years and pretty much got to know the girls across from me, but then we didnt talk. It is weird cause you meet these girls and then instead of everyone getting along, they need cliches. Do you have the joy of having a roomate?

[AnonYGiRL]

Yeah, I have a roommate, but I know I'll get a single room next year b/c of my ap. It's really funny. We don't talk to each other--at all. Hi is way too awkward because she doesn't want to say hi. But I'm fine with it because I'm studying and stuff. Which is why I'm getting a single. And the way she looks at me! You can tell that she either thinks I'm weird or she REALLY doesn't like me. But the problem with the others is what concerns me more.

I'll say hi, but I don't want to inconvenience them and then have them mutter hi just because. But heck it's courtesy. I once said hi to someone and they acted like I didn't exist. But I'll do it. Thanks.

Even though when you are the only 2 people in the hallway it is prelude to a conversation. Eeeek. I have nothing to say to them, and if I ask what they are doing tonight it might be like I'm wanting to join when I can't, or that I'm asking out of default necesity. . . I guess I'll deal with whatever happens and stuff.

[carly]

Yeah, I totally relate. My freshman year roomate didn't tallk to me either. The first day I met her family and all, but she acted like she could care less I was there. As if all I did was take up half the room. I'm not kidding, she had every gadget/electronic thing you could think of. She was a sophmore so I attributed her indifference to that. She was a private person, and really there are worse. So many girls on my floor didn't get along or fought with their roomate. Though it was so awkward when the phone rang or I had to give her a message. But just like you said...we never even said hi. It was so weird. Luckily I met my one friend on the floor and we ended up rooming sophmore year and then I moved back home for my last two years (on my last now). But hey, all I'm saying is you never know. Good luck with everything!