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Post by shypsychologyguy on May 15, 2005 15:49:31 GMT -5
last night at my friends house while he was talking to his girlfriend on the phone I was talking to her online. I was having a blast since I dont usually talk to people. I was acting so different that it creeped my friend out and made him wander what was going on. His girlfriend ended up talking to me instead of him. I can understand how that would make him angry. He said he does not know the real me anymore and that I should figure out who I am. He compared the situation to me turning into a werewolf and his girlfriend being the full moon. he wants me to be like that more often but he is afarid it will get me in trouble because it was as if I was having a manic episode or was high. I think ive always been comfortable and crazy online so its nothing new. I was sad and lonely all weekend since i got my date offer refused by a girl and we went to the mall and around so many girls I could not talk to.So is this a bad thing to go from one personality to another so quickly? also how do I know who the real me is ? i think its me when im most comfortable.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on May 15, 2005 16:16:28 GMT -5
last night at my friends house while he was talking to his girlfriend on the phone I was talking to her online. I was having a blast since I dont usually talk to people. I was acting so different that it creeped my friend out and made him wander what was going on. His girlfriend ended up talking to me instead of him. I can understand how that would make him angry. He said he does not know the real me anymore and that I should figure out who I am. He compared the situation to me turning into a werewolf and his girlfriend being the full moon. he wants me to be like that more often but he is afarid it will get me in trouble because it was as if I was having a manic episode or was high. I think ive always been comfortable and crazy online so its nothing new. I was sad and lonely all weekend since i got my date offer refused by a girl and we went to the mall and around so many girls I could not talk to.So is this a bad thing to go from one personality to another so quickly? also how do I know who the real me is ? i think its me when im most comfortable. Is it wrong? Ive had an online persona for quite a few years now. It had a place during some of my darkest years. If you are using it to harm people then it probably isnt a good idea. I dont think it was a good idea what you did to your friend with his girlfriend. You said you knew it would make him angry but you did it anyway. Why? She wasn't any better for going along with it.
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Post by zaab on May 15, 2005 17:34:56 GMT -5
UNLESS a person has a mental disease, then this is almost always the case. You don't take on the same role in church as you do in school or at work. You don't act like the same person around a girl you like as you do around the guys. You take on a different role entirely around your family and you are probably yet a different person alone. Everyone is like this and it is entirely normal and healthy to be like this. All the roles you take on are all parts of the same person. I don't think we have to identify one and say "that's me." And as you grow and learn and age some roles fade away and others start to predominate. So there isn't one stable entity that's "you." Its something that's in constant flux.
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Post by shypsychologyguy on May 15, 2005 20:34:52 GMT -5
That is actually how I feel for the most part. in gen psych my proffesour said that he didnt belive in labeling personalities because it changes constantly. My issue though is that when Im most me and creative no one sees it.
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Post by zaab on May 16, 2005 5:03:47 GMT -5
when Im most me and creative no one sees it. i can relate to that. that's what happens when you're quiet and inhibited. no one sees who you are. If you're lucky, someone will see it regardless. If I like someone, I'll look.
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