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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 2:35:41 GMT -5
I'm new to this forum and this is my first post, but looking for some good advice. Heres the problem... One of my friends broke up with a jerk earlier this year because he was controlling and the night she did it she sent me a text message telling me about it. She has always been there to reasure me that i am the guy that all women really wanna date and that chiverly isnt dead. Since they've broken up I've seen her a handful of times (not by choice cause im in the military). The last time I saw her was June 1st where i took her out to a nice dinner then to shoot pool cause thats what she wanted to do. At the end of the night all I could do was give her a hug and not wanna let go because i didnt know when I'd see her again. Since then I haven t been able to keep her off my mind and think ive fallen in love with her. Any advice on where to go from here
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jun 24, 2005 5:36:11 GMT -5
I'm new to this forum and this is my first post, but looking for some good advice. Heres the problem... One of my friends broke up with a jerk earlier this year because he was controlling and the night she did it she sent me a text message telling me about it. She has always been there to reasure me that i am the guy that all women really wanna date and that chiverly isnt dead. Since they've broken up I've seen her a handful of times (not by choice cause im in the military). The last time I saw her was June 1st where i took her out to a nice dinner then to shoot pool cause thats what she wanted to do. At the end of the night all I could do was give her a hug and not wanna let go because i didnt know when I'd see her again. Since then I haven t been able to keep her off my mind and think ive fallen in love with her. Any advice on where to go from here How far away are you from her? I would say just continue to email, call her, etc. |
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Post by Samantha on Jun 24, 2005 6:30:29 GMT -5
Welcome to the site jjmcrun  Well getting advice about relationships from me is a bit like getting advice on desert survival from an Eskimo but... I reckon you should tell her how you feel. I think I would apologise for feeling that way lol and tell her that I would understand if she didn't feel the same way, the last thing I'd want to do is mess up the friendship etc but I wanted to be honest with her etc... Ok not too good. Now desert survival on the other hand...lol. Sorry, I think you should be brave. Sometimes you have to take a risk to get what you want. I guess it could screw up the friendship but what if she felt the same way? Hopefully if she didn't then you could still maintain your friendship. Nergh, I dunno. Good luck whatever happens. |
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 6:59:26 GMT -5
From my parking spot to her drive way is 812.2 miles
the only reason i know this is cause last time i went home thats the first place i stoped to see her.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jun 24, 2005 12:06:56 GMT -5
From my parking spot to her drive way is 812.2 miles the only reason i know this is cause last time i went home thats the first place i stoped to see her. That is cute. ;D I guess all you can do is find out how interested she is and stay in touch. 800 miles isn't that far(try 11,000 lol) but there has to be mutual interest in keeping things going. |
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 14:23:44 GMT -5
Thanks PnoopiePnats. She doesnt have the internet so I have to go with snail mail which in the military is so slow i could walk the 812.2 miles and hand it to her myself. though i would be very exhausted. Unless im overseas then the mail would definatly be quiker cause me swimming long distances doesnt work. I just finished the letter so ill post it be for I send it to get everyones opinions.
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 14:35:43 GMT -5
Here's the letter:  Leah, i have really thought hard about it lately and i keep ending up at the same conclusion. i have never felt this strongly about anyone whos crossed my life till i started to know you.you have always reassured me that i am the type of guy most girls really want to date. you even said i was the guy you would date, but you had a boyfriend. now that you dont have a boyfriend and are dating around to find the perfect guy for you, I'm 812.2 miles away. now i wont have the chance of a lifetime to treat you how a real women should be treated. i needed to write this letter to you because I need to set my feelings for you free instead of keeping them bottled up. also i heard a song today saying tell the ones you love that you love them today, because before you know it, it will be to late. even if you dont have any feelings toward me I'll have to live with that. i hope that this doesnt effect our friendship in a negative way. no matter what you think of this letter, I'll be your friend atleast forever. My phone is always turned on and able to recieve messages. So if you want or need anything you know what to do. Remember that i will take on the world for you. PS No one falls in love by choice its by chance. No one stays in love by chance its by work. And no one falls outta love by chance its by choice |
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Jun 24, 2005 14:44:21 GMT -5
That was a beautiful letter Jjmcrun. I don't know about her but that letter would've totally touched me and made me melt lol. SHe's so lucky to have a friend like you . I especially love that quote at the end. |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jun 24, 2005 15:00:55 GMT -5
Here's the letter: Leah, i have really thought hard about it lately and i keep ending up at the same conclusion. i have never felt this strongly about anyone whos crossed my life till i started to know you.you have always reassured me that i am the type of guy most girls really want to date. you even said i was the guy you would date, but you had a boyfriend. now that you dont have a boyfriend and are dating around to find the perfect guy for you, I'm 812.2 miles away. now i wont have the chance of a lifetime to treat you how a real women should be treated. i needed to write this letter to you because I need to set my feelings for you free instead of keeping them bottled up. also i heard a song today saying tell the ones you love that you love them today, because before you know it, it will be to late. even if you dont have any feelings toward me I'll have to live with that. i hope that this doesnt effect our friendship in a negative way. no matter what you think of this letter, I'll be your friend atleast forever. My phone is always turned on and able to recieve messages. So if you want or need anything you know what to do. Remember that i will take on the world for you. PS No one falls in love by choice its by chance. No one stays in love by chance its by work. And no one falls outta love by chance its by choice wow that is beautiful! If I got a letter like that, I would be very pleased. If she writes back and LJBFs you, I would almost want to drive over and personally kick her arse. lol BTW she REALLY needs a puter and internet access. |
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 15:21:39 GMT -5
wow that is beautiful! If I got a letter like that, I would be very pleased. If she writes back and LJBFs you, I would almost want to drive over and personally kick her arse. lol BTW she REALLY needs a puter and internet access. not really sure what LJBFs is  care to explain |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jun 24, 2005 15:24:44 GMT -5
not really sure what LJBFs is care to explain It means Let's Just be Friends. It is what happens when someone isn't interested romantically. |
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 15:30:23 GMT -5
I understand what lets just be friends mean my brain wasnt really working to find out what the LJBF ment. but id suck it up and still be friends with her because theres no sense in throwing a way a good relationship cause im falling in love and she isnt
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Post by jjmcrun on Jun 24, 2005 21:37:29 GMT -5
I've put the letter in the mail box, thanks to the support from panda and pnoopiepnats. Ill up date this when i get her letter back.
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Post by Speedracer on Jun 24, 2005 22:21:17 GMT -5
good luck jjmcrun. ive done this before with a girl actually. but later i got the uh "LJBF". lol. that is a good letter you wrote and you did the right thing.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jun 27, 2005 21:58:05 GMT -5
if she says "LJBF" should i just give up on her or should i continue to be her friend do you want to still be her friend if there is no chance of romance? |
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