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Post by tigger66 on Jul 4, 2005 8:56:41 GMT -5
Hi All
I recently started a job three months ago,,thing is every morning we have to sit round a table, discuss the previous days work and the day ahead. This to me is a nightmare, we sit round a square table, 16 of us, and im getting to the point where i am gonna quit my job just because of this. I am good at my job, and the prospects are good, but the fact i have to socially interact with these people every morning and again at the end of the day makes my life hell...does anyone else have to go thru something similar?? Weird thing is, once i get outside and travel around doing my job i am ok with customers. It s like i dont want these people to get to know the real me..the anxious, the foolish, the shy me..a lot of people who know me would be very surprised to learn that i was that way, but now i feel i am getting to my breaking point, especailly over the holiday weekend where all i have done is think about going in on tuesday morning....beam me up Scottie............i wish i could disappear somewhere....i am building this up so much,,i have listened to hypnotic, relaxation tapes, bought a book yesterday..nothing is seeming to help...im a real nice guy with a good sense of humour yet all my life i have been plagued with this anxiety, low self esteem issue and now it s about to lose me my job,,,,,,,,,,,,,,any help or comments would be appreciated,,
tigger
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Post by Speedracer on Jul 4, 2005 9:15:43 GMT -5
i have a similar situation where i work. we have a cafeteria but all the guys that work with me sit outside on big picnic tables with other people. i normally sit with them, but i just sit there and eat and i dont say much of anything while everyone else is carrying on a conversation. i hate sitting inside because i feel boxed in.
i have a harder time with groups, but i usually can talk to the person next to me about something and carry on a convo with them or if its just me and someone else sitting there im fine. maybe you could try that.
but dont quit your job over something like that. i think you would regret that even more.
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Post by wagnerr on Jul 11, 2005 21:21:14 GMT -5
This to me is a nightmare, we sit round a square table, 16 of us, and im getting to the point where i am gonna quit my job just because of this. Don't blame yourself; everyone hates meetings.  Yep, customers are much preferable to managers and their bs. I know this kind of thing is tough for shy people. Meetings are bad enough, but opening up to coworkers, strangers, is even worse. It's really, really tough, even for regular, non-introverted people. Thing is, you shouldn't feel like you must open up to your co-workers. They don't have to know all your feelings and thoughts. Nope. Not at all.  You have to keep a certain distance with those you work with. They need not know everything about you.  |
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Post by chemistry on Jul 20, 2005 11:26:27 GMT -5
tigger At these meetings, it's just business right? Or do they have an open forum afterwards where you can discuss various issues? If it's the latter, you don't really have to talk about yourself if you don't want to or you can make up a story if you'd like just to keep them off guard. I've done that in the past. Chem |
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Post by wonkothesane on Aug 30, 2005 10:19:17 GMT -5
Yeah work meeting are just the worst- serriously make you fell like a tool. Regardless of whether your good at your job, do you like it? You would give up a lot by just quiting over these- if they make you fell that bad then a word with your manager/supervisor, if you think they might actually be sympathetic could be one approach.
I hate the happy corporate family bullshit- but then again I've hated every job I've had!!! so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice on this one- Good luck anyway, I hope you get a balanced solution
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Post by lily on Aug 30, 2005 18:28:09 GMT -5
Hi All I recently started a job three months ago,,thing is every morning we have to sit round a table, discuss the previous days work and the day ahead. This to me is a nightmare, we sit round a square table, 16 of us, and im getting to the point where i am gonna quit my job just because of this. I am good at my job, and the prospects are good, but the fact i have to socially interact with these people every morning and again at the end of the day makes my life hell...does anyone else have to go thru something similar?? Weird thing is, once i get outside and travel around doing my job i am ok with customers. It s like i dont want these people to get to know the real me..the anxious, the foolish, the shy me..a lot of people who know me would be very surprised to learn that i was that way, but now i feel i am getting to my breaking point, especailly over the holiday weekend where all i have done is think about going in on tuesday morning....beam me up Scottie............i wish i could disappear somewhere....i am building this up so much,,i have listened to hypnotic, relaxation tapes, bought a book yesterday..nothing is seeming to help...im a real nice guy with a good sense of humour yet all my life i have been plagued with this anxiety, low self esteem issue and now it s about to lose me my job,,,,,,,,,,,,,,any help or comments would be appreciated,, tigger I feel for ya. I've screwed these kinds of situations up pretty bad at times in the past. I think being 'in the spotlight and on the spot' just made me anxious and made me act out of character sometimes. I think it's best to focus on being friendly, keeping a smile on your face, saying as little as possible - until you get more time to grow comfortable with your role in these meetings. |
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