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Post by shypsychologyguy on Mar 24, 2005 23:26:40 GMT -5
My senior year of high school my best friend turned against me and told me and others that I was a failure and bad person because I did not have a girl friend . One day he sarcastically asked me who I was going to prom with in front of a few females which sucked really bad because I hate feeling pitied by others I just bottled it up and never let it out but I want to be nice when if I see him again but I see him as a threat and punk. I dont want to be his friend though . I can see why he was so hurtful because he had a bad home life. He was my only close friend and we at one time played in a rock band together.
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Post by Max Power on Mar 25, 2005 17:58:39 GMT -5
Years ago, when I was in high school, I would've said something like, "Well, I have a few girls in mind that I am going to ask... it'll be a surprise." If he makes a smart remark like, "Who, you're sister, ha ha!" I'll simply say, "No, your mom. And tell her to bring the Trojan condoms... I don't want to make another mistake like your father did!"
And simply walk away as the girls laugh at him.
In all seriousness, he had no right to embarrass you like he did. I probably would've lied about the whole thing and said I had someone in mind to ask and if he wanted to know who it was, I would say it was a secret. In other words, I'd try as best as I could to change the subject. I would confront him on it and if he can't accept your position, then it's time to move on, or distance yourself somewhat and reflect on what you have with him and if you want to continue to be friends or not.
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Mar 25, 2005 23:28:19 GMT -5
Yeah he was good friend and encouragment for the 6 good years I knew him, but senior year he developed anger towards me. one day I just said dont talk to me your not my friend we nearly got into fist fights
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Mar 26, 2005 21:24:44 GMT -5
Im not gay so I dont think it had anything to do with that . I got a leadership position that he wanted so it was jelousy.
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Mar 27, 2005 20:04:42 GMT -5
yeah I said that just for clarity. I understood where you were coming from. I hate the term homophobia because it is overused by psychologists . When a researcher questions causes and alternative therapies for gays he is usally labeled homophobic. Scientific inquiry is not homophobia.
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