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Post by Bodhi on Jan 10, 2006 12:05:26 GMT -5
A strange thing happened to me. Its started when on myspace this girl added me as a friend out of the blue. She seemed cool on her profile so I approved the add and didn't really think anything would come of it, considering I was already talking to another girl online and didn't want to start juggling girls. Well the very next day I decide to go to the bookstore because there was a book I wanted. Well when I'm leaving I walk by two girls in the store and I look at the one and suddenly a flash of recognition goes through me, its the myspace girl. I kind of looked at her a second and then walked on, she didn't notice me. Well this kind of freaked me out, but then I started to become realistic and say, no that is another girl, you've only seen her picture so how could you really tell it was her. I of course went home and looked on her profile and still couldn't tell 100% if it was the same girl. So I let it go a day, but last night I looked at her profile again and curiosity got the best of me so I messaged her saying I saw a girl that looked like her at the borders the other day, it wasn't her was it? This morning she sent me back a message and said she was at the borders at that time and day, so it was her. Now I'm almost thinking, is this fate or something. I know its stupid, but what are the chances that I see her there? We do live in the same town, but Allentown is fairly large. Also I don't usually go out that much, it was unusual I decided to go to the bookstore that day. I know I'm crazy, I guess I've watched too many movies about fate and such. Also I really like this other girl I've been talking to online, so I don't think it would be right to start talking to a new girl. Although she does live in my same town and meeting would be extremely easy. Also I have seen her in person now and thought she was cute. I don't know, I'm confused now. Please talk some sense into me.
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Post by MrNice on Jan 10, 2006 12:41:09 GMT -5
it doesn't matter how many girls you TALK to or HANG OUT with. Most likely you are not the only guy these girls are considering and you should have the same mindset.
you are not even remotely close to being in a relationship to start thinking about juggling.
just ask this girl out.
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Post by zaab on Jan 10, 2006 12:51:28 GMT -5
A strange thing happened to me. Its started when on myspace this girl added me as a friend out of the blue. She seemed cool on her profile so I approved the add and didn't really think anything would come of it, considering I was already talking to another girl online and didn't want to start juggling girls. Well the very next day I decide to go to the bookstore because there was a book I wanted. Well when I'm leaving I walk by two girls in the store and I look at the one and suddenly a flash of recognition goes through me, its the myspace girl. I kind of looked at her a second and then walked on, she didn't notice me. Well this kind of freaked me out, but then I started to become realistic and say, no that is another girl, you've only seen her picture so how could you really tell it was her. I of course went home and looked on her profile and still couldn't tell 100% if it was the same girl. So I let it go a day, but last night I looked at her profile again and curiosity got the best of me so I messaged her saying I saw a girl that looked like her at the borders the other day, it wasn't her was it? This morning she sent me back a message and said she was at the borders at that time and day, so it was her. Now I'm almost thinking, is this fate or something. I know its stupid, but what are the chances that I see her there? We do live in the same town, but Allentown is fairly large. Also I don't usually go out that much, it was unusual I decided to go to the bookstore that day. I know I'm crazy, I guess I've watched too many movies about fate and such. Also I really like this other girl I've been talking to online, so I don't think it would be right to start talking to a new girl. Although she does live in my same town and meeting would be extremely easy. Also I have seen her in person now and thought she was cute. I don't know, I'm confused now. Please talk some sense into me. Yeah but the fact is that nothing conclusive has happened with the Brooklyn girl. You haven't met her which is a HUGE factor in whether you will hit it off in the long run. A real person in front of you is a whole different thing than an online entity. Furthermore, the Allentown girl is not yet defined either. There is no need to eliminate possibilities at this point. Explore any and every one that comes along and see how you feel. You don't know what's going to happen in either case, so it would be foolish to dismiss either one at this point. And, in the long run, it wouldn't be fair to the Brooklyn girl if you shut yourself out to other people. If you don't explore your options how will you truly know if the Brooklyn girl or anyone else is a better match than the other, and if you don't find this out you may end up resenting her in the long run. Yeah, fate is a funny thing. I will say that if you're a smart guy or girl and you live in Allentown and you want to go to a book store, which intelligent people often do, you pretty much have Barnes and Noble or Borders and Borders is the superior bookstore, so that increases your chances of running into this person. I met a girl all the way across the country on vacation. We were on the same adventure tour together and we hit it off almost immediately. She lived within 30 miles of me (she was a Brooklyn girl and I was living on Long Island). After the tour, we were booked in the same hostel. She was a travel writer, something I hoped to be, and she ended up getting a gig for me. When we got back to the hostel, they had lost my reservations so she let me stay in her private room in the same bed as her. We dated briefly in New York, but she moved to Germany shortly thereafter. So that felt like fate at the time. I don't know. I think I reconciled it by concluding that sometimes two people think so much alike at times that they often find themselves in the same places taking part in the same things even at the same times. Maybe its not supernatural but its something that should be taken into consideration.
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Post by aforgottenmemory on Jan 10, 2006 12:52:32 GMT -5
I agree with Isdima! There's no harm in getting to know other girls while you still like one in particular Think of it another way. Even though you already like someone, you still aren't going out with them. Unless you're dating the girl you like already, I see no harm in getting to know the new girl
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Jan 10, 2006 12:59:40 GMT -5
Me and the girl im intrested in on myspace went to guitar center on the same day but we didnt cross paths
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Post by feyish on Jan 10, 2006 15:35:42 GMT -5
fate? what is fate? fate doesn't exist(except in movies, like you said ), but coincidence does and coincidences don't mean a thing.
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Jan 10, 2006 17:30:42 GMT -5
I believe in fate but you can only truly understand it looking back quite a bit at the antecedants and results.
for instance my preecher went to one college saw drug paraphenellia in a parking lot and decided to switch colleges.
the girl he met as his wife had a soccer scholarship for a totally diferent college but broke her leg (could no longer play) and ended up at the same college as him.
he was playing in a band and they needed a singer. She showed up at a practice and low and behold she was in one of his classes but they had not met each other yet.
then they moved from up north to where I live and were two weeks away from moving back when they met my preecher who told the about a temporary job opening . That preecher then has a heart problem and has to be replaced by the pastor im talking about.
that tells me that life is unpredictible and anything can happen at anytime.
he had never talk on the phone to a girl until then . That encourages me.
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Post by arianna7 on Jan 10, 2006 20:57:33 GMT -5
...sometimes two people think so much alike at times that they often find themselves in the same places taking part in the same things even at the same times. Maybe its not supernatural but its something that should be taken into consideration. That's very close to the way I think about the whole fate issue. It could be an overlap of intention between you and someone else that causes an unexpected connection. Somehow your mental or even physical energies correspond at a given time. Similar events have happened to me, and I think more than mere coincidence would account for. It may not be supernatural, but there are still things about space-time that aren't understood, and also many mysteries about the depths of the human mind. I agree, Bodhi, that it wouldn't be in any way disloyal or cheating to contact the myspace gal. You never know...
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Post by MrNice on Jan 10, 2006 21:47:27 GMT -5
yes fate is real all the events that happened in my life have lead me to make this post isn't that weird?
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Post by iroseiroared3 on Jan 11, 2006 2:13:51 GMT -5
Yeah sometimes I wonder if it's fate or not but then things happen that are too weird to explain otherwise. I do think your situation was a little weird too. Just like you said that you both live in Allentown (only an hour away from me! hehe), but you rarely go out and it's a decent-sized city and what are the chances you'd both be at the same place at the same time like that, the day after she added you... that's like when I went away on a bus trip from here to Chicago.. met a woman my previous trip while I was in California.. and then on this trip to Chicago I meet her again on the bus.. although she was sort of living on the bus and I traveled a lot, what are the chances of seeing the same person on the way to Cleveland who I met in a bus terminal in San Francisco? Very strange. About your girl situation, since fate has already started showing itself to you, I'd just go with the flow of what already is happening.. if this girl from Borders is meant to be, the other girl you're talking to will fall away and the Borders girl will come more clearly into the picture. You'll have to let us know what happens.
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Post by lonelyheart on Jan 11, 2006 9:23:56 GMT -5
k.. nice to know. no girls add me on myspace.
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Post by Some Guy on Jan 11, 2006 10:10:46 GMT -5
k.. nice to know. no girls add me on myspace. Didn't you only just get a myspace? Give it time.
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Post by shypsychologyguy on Jan 11, 2006 13:04:37 GMT -5
no girls or people add me either except goths and people with bands.
heres fate (I actually believe it was a freak low probability coincidence)
my cousins live in jacksonville and once or twice a year come to Pensacola usually unannounced. My family went to a mexican food restaurant and they were there at the same time. Considering the number of mexican food restaurants in Pensacola and the time frame for which to go to one in the day Id say that was pretty unproble. But I dont thin it was fate cause nothing else happened as a result.
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Post by Samantha on Jan 11, 2006 14:52:24 GMT -5
The chances are you have bumped into her many times but never realised because she was just another face in the crowd.
Have you ever learnt a new word and then heard it all over the place? It's like that.
Yes it's weird timing but hey it has to happen to somebody right? It's statistically unlikely that one person will win the lottery but it will happen eventually. Actually quite often. Imagine how many people meet others on myspace from their home town? It is likely that eventually two of them will see each other the next day. Just so happened to be you. Well that's what I believe anyway lol.
The main point is stop thinking about all this and if you want to talk to her, talk to her. You don't have to fancy someone before you talk to them. Stop thinking about everything so much!! ;D
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Post by arianna7 on Jan 12, 2006 16:01:46 GMT -5
yes fate is real all the events that happened in my life have lead me to make this post isn't that weird? See-- didn't I tell you all? Everything is connected.
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