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Post by shyguy99 on Nov 30, 2006 0:41:27 GMT -5
I'm nineteen now and I'm still very shy. I think I will be this way forever. It's very sad, don't really have friends, never had a girlfriend and speaking in front of class is harder for me than sawing my arm off. I'm really worried about speaking on monday. Why am I like this? It's very hard to be a shy person. Talkative people have it soooo easy. It just makes me angry. Why the **** are shy people born? It's just not fair.
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Post by steppy on Nov 30, 2006 9:44:38 GMT -5
ye I went through the same thing at school, when i went to college i started to get a little more confident and now i work at a supermarket on checkouts. Working there has really helped me and has given me so much more confidence, i think it's because i have to talk to loads of people everyday that I have never met before, so now im not as bothered. Im 18 and have never had a boyfriend or been out on dates etc but i have started to think to myself when it happens it happens, and hopefully it will one day!
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Post by shyguy99 on Nov 30, 2006 12:32:04 GMT -5
Yeah? I had a job at Kroger for six months and I also had to talk to loads of people every day. It didn't help me be less shy though. Everybody knew me as the shy guy. It wasn't fun. Collage dosn't help ether.
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Post by lavigne on Dec 5, 2006 12:37:38 GMT -5
I am also a shy person especially when I was a child. School has helped me a lot. Though I'm still shy until now but not like before when I was a child. Maybe you should go with people who aren't that shy. It really helps a lot to mingle with these people so that you will be influenced by them. I know it would be hard since you would feel shy. But you have to think that nothing will happen if you would just permit yourself to be like that. I think you have to set in your mind that you want to improve and then, try your very best to mingle with people. _______________________ social skills Free Report reveals social skills secrets that work like magic. Get it here: www-socialskills.com/shyness Free Report reveals how to overcome shyness. Get it here: www-shyness.com/
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Post by shyguy99 on Dec 5, 2006 14:45:45 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice, my mom always says that, LoL. But I can't do that. I'm just not cut out that way.
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Post by frillow on Dec 6, 2006 1:06:24 GMT -5
It's not fair... life isn't fair.. but I sure wish it was. Hmm, when I try to mingle with outgoing people, it always ends up with them talking the whole time and me being practically mute... which is why I like talking to quiet people more. Talking to shy people has actually helped me lessen my shyness a little.
Another thing that's helped me in college is joining clubs, like those relating to my major as well as community service organizations, since I'm doing things with people with similar interests and don't have to ask them if they want to hang out or something. It's helped me become less shy in some situations... though I am still extremely shy most of the time. Grrr.
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Post by nokotbon25 on Dec 6, 2006 10:50:47 GMT -5
I'm 27 and still shy and i haven't changed even though i try. So what happens when you're shy at 27, you have all kinds of social problems . You don't wana be like me do you? so start changing
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Post by Scotty on Dec 6, 2006 17:21:05 GMT -5
I'm nineteen now and I'm still very shy. I think I will be this way forever. It's very sad, don't really have friends, never had a girlfriend and speaking in front of class is harder for me than sawing my arm off. I'm really worried about speaking on monday. Why am I like this? It's very hard to be a shy person. Talkative people have it soooo easy. It just makes me angry. Why the **** are shy people born? It's just not fair. I was the same at 19. A lot can happen in a few years. At 22 i'm a lot less shy than i was then, I had a girlfriend for almost 2 years, i have some cool online friends (still working on the offline side,lol). I don't have too much of a problem going up to strangers, work helped me with that, and when i was at college i wasn't too bad at speaking in front of the class (though i still sucked,lol.) So don't think that you are going to be this shy forever....things change when you least expect them to.
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Post by shyguy99 on Dec 6, 2006 21:11:20 GMT -5
Im glad to see that there are some people who understand me. Your right about being easier to talk to shy people, the problem is finding one because there aren't many. Anyway, Im really sorry nokotbon that your still shy.
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Post by melissaqu on Dec 18, 2006 10:14:57 GMT -5
Ironically I work as an Activity Leader in an Assited Living Facility for the elderly. I speak all day in front of them, but if it were people of my age or middle-age, I'd never be able to do it. I feel ok with the elderly, I'm not threatened by them at all. If I were asked to sit in on a meeting, I'd have to figure someway out.
Getting through high school was horrible, college wasn't as bad although I had rough spots.
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Post by huskydawg on Dec 29, 2006 7:41:32 GMT -5
It's a little late for this I guess but:
I had to do a few presentations last academic quarter. I just kept telling myself I am not inferior to the other students, we're all biology majors and we are all equal (despite my low GPA). I ended up doing about as well as I had ever done, I held my head up high and I didn't really mispeak or stutter much like I had done in the past. Of course, I had to use the powerpoint slides as a little crutch, but I didn't overdo it.
Just don't worry about how bad you've done in the past, I've seen other people mess up and I don't remember them badly for it. I never had a problem forgiving others for their mistakes; usually it's forgotten within a few days. You just have to forgive yourself, which is harder because you remember stuff that's happened to you and it sticks. It can be done though, because I have done terrible in presentations before.
Just prepare and research well and act like you're the expert at your topic and that you have something to contribute. Hope this helps. From your story we're similar in a lot of ways - I'm pretty isolated at the moment, after my good friends transferred schools. Hopefully I can expand my "I'm not inferior" theory into my normal life.
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Post by melissaqu on Dec 29, 2006 20:02:22 GMT -5
Talkative people have it soooo easy. I've said that countless times throughout school and so on. It makes sense to us, but is that really a trait that we'd want to have? A lot of people get annoyed with talkative people because they ramble on and won't shut up. In a way I think it's more respectful to be quiet because you might not be seen as a self-centered person. I do hear where you're coming from, so don't get me wrong. But It's good to be able to be quiet I've gone through all of the panic in school, and believe me, high school and college were the worst for me, even though I loved college. It's quite a breakthrough once you finish the obstacles and can move on. I'm nowhere near "moved on" but I'm on my way. So...how did the presentation go?
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Post by lavigne on Jan 4, 2007 15:47:05 GMT -5
There is nothing wrong with being quiet. But being shy, I guess, might be hard for a person. There is this feeling that you cannot express your ideas, emotions, or even opinions. Although there is nothing wrong with being quiet, you also need to be heard sometimes. You might have ideas that could be the solution to a problem. What you need then would be tactfulness. _______________________ shyness Free Report reveals how to overcome shyness. Get it here: www-shyness.com/self confidence Free Report reveals how to develop self-confidence. Get it here: www-confidence.com/
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 4, 2007 18:22:50 GMT -5
maybe we should just rename this place Spam United.
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Post by shyguy99 on Jan 4, 2007 22:27:07 GMT -5
My presentation? It went bad, I was shaking in my boots. The good news is I did it, and didnt cry or have to stop-that would have been humiliating. but thanks anyway.
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