yeah - I wouldn't need experience if I said something thats in agreement with your point of view
if its a contradiction then experience plays a huge role all of a sudden, but of course there is not enough experience in the world to satisfy someone that disagrees
You're not really getting the point. You've made the claim that you're "pretty much always right," and that things are "obvious" to you when other people comment on complexity or ambiguity. This isn't about whether your advice is right or wrong. I know tons of people whose relationship advice I disagree with, but who don't try to act like they "know," and therefore don't get asked for credentials. It's all about the way you present yourself--and you present the majority of your assertions as,
this is the way it is.
It's just like back in the other thread when you stated, "extra weight is unattractive," period. No taking into account of other people's preferences, just: this is the way it is, and anything different is just some kind of weird anomaly. I was looking through Craigslist just recently, and noticed that for every couple of guys who stated categorically, "there is no such thing as a big beautiful woman," (actual quote; and this isn't referring to the guys who just said, "I'm not attracted to heavy women"), there'd be one guy advertising for a BBW specifically.
It wouldn't change my opinion of you or your methods, but your singleness certainly raises an interesting point. An absence of evidence isn't necessarily evidence of absence, as they say, but... it's not a point in your favor, you see. If the
Rules writer's marriage had stayed strong, that wouldn't have meant her book was actually any good; and just because her marriage failed doesn't
necessarily mean the book isn't filled with brilliant advice. But if she's making controversial claims about men (being easily manipulated or molded into the perfect man), it definitely damages her credibility a bit.
The scenarios in which people are chasing hopeless crushes for long periods, I assume you're referring to. Yes, most of the time your advice there is fine--basically "make a move now or give up" kind of stuff. I'm not saying, and have never said, that
everything you say is wrong and misguided, though you do like to paint it that way and then argue about the times when no one had a problem with what you said.
Projecting? From what you've said, your social life
is mediocre. So is mine, yes. It's not necessarily a problem. I assume the lack of a bustling social life is why most of us are here in the first place. You therefore don't see a lot of people here acting like social gurus.
Now here's the thing. No one runs around saying, "I have all the answers," now do they? It's an attitude. It's the way you present yourself and your advice.
You once informed me that I *did* indeed fall for cocky/funny behavior, but that I just wasn't aware of it, or that cocky/funny somehow applies to any flirtatious conversation, which I am simply incapable of accepting. I'm sure you're sick of my bringing that up, but I'm not letting it go. When you blatantly tell someone that they don't know what they want, and that
you do, you're implying that you have some kind of special and uncommon insight. And that's not the only time you've implied as much.
Then that's not really what I'm talking about, now is it?
Are you forgetting the arguments about women liking "cocky-funny?" Your insistence that fat is just plain unattractive? The fact that you
constantly tell guys that niceness is incompatible with meeting women?
This is the "controversial" stuff I'm talking about. And then you trot out the advice that guys take a peek at seduction websites to get more of the same. You may have read the article that Anna linked to, but it seems you really didn't get it. Many of the main points closely echoes the criticisms people on this site have leveled at both certain of your own assertions and at seduction sites in general. But you seem to have this idea in your head that people who complain about seduction sites are just being politically correct or don't want to accept that women's minds are such simple devices, or something.
Yup. Glad you were able to admit it; shame you had to cry spite and bullshit first.
A good principle to stick to. And that goes for advising women on their weight, as well.
And some people are going to question that confidence when your conclusions fly in the face of their own experiences as one of the people you've drawn conclusions about. That's just the way it goes.
And lastly, I'm saying again... Some people are capable of extracting good advice from the seduction sites, because under the crap, there is some good. Mostly nothing you can't get from a mainstream article on dating advice, but still. And some people
think they're capable of extracting the good stuff, but they get mixed up and absorb the crap along with the good. To paraphrase the article a bit: If you do look into seduction stuff, don't get too deep into it. Talk to people outside the Community regularly--like, all the time, and have them share their views on the things you read. It might just keep you on the sane side of the line, lol. And don't just blow them off immediately even if they say something that the Seduction sites warn you is incorrect or merely conformist. If other people talk into cliches, instead of scoffing at them, try to get them to explain what they mean and why they say it. Take precautions and don't get... "weird."