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Post by james89 on Nov 28, 2005 2:22:27 GMT -5
Hi everyone! My name is James and I'm 16 and live in Texas with my mom and a sister. I've always been a little bit shy when I was little, but it was the kind everybody gets once in awhile. I never had any trouble talking to people and making friends throughout junior high. In the middle of my 7th grade year, my dad passed away, it was a complete shock to me, mainly because he was very healthy and never had any problems. Ever since then, I feel like I've shut myself out from everybody else. Its just not the same when your dad's not there to share your experiences with, when hes not there to support you in a football game, when hes not there to provide emotional support for all the drama that goes on in high school years. It sucks having to answer questions like "Where does your dad work?" or "What does your dad do?" as it just brings back unpleasant memories which I'd rather not have to deal with again. All my good friends have graduated and I only kept in touch with one of them. I don't know why but whenever I talk to people I don't know my mind goes blank, I can't think of anything to keep a conversation going, I just manage to stutter out a few "yea"s here and there. Its like I can't think of a topic that will interest them. Don't know if anyone else experiences this problem I'm hoping to meet some new people and get some advice . Sorry for all of that writing I will stop now lol
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Post by shytothebone on Nov 28, 2005 2:47:24 GMT -5
Hi and welcome to SU. Don't be sorry for all the writing keep it up! Sorry about your father. I'm sure there is someone here that can give you some good advice. Lots of nice people here. ;D I was in the 7th grade when I had a traumatic experience to. Losing someone close really hurts. Hard to move on. I have to ask one question. Have you seen a therapist? If you haven't seen a therapist you can talk to us. I know talking more about your problems and feelings can help a lot. ;D
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Post by BeatShyness on Nov 28, 2005 3:04:27 GMT -5
Hi. I've lost several family members over the years but none as close as my father. I have to agree, talking about it does help. Just think of it this way, your dad wouldn't want you to go through life shutting yourself out from the world like this. You still have your mom and sister to talk to atleast, right? My dad is currently out of state working for the next several months. So, I am without him for a while atleast. I miss him alot but I just try not to think about it. I just do what I have always done, live my life. Try going to local church groups or something to meet new people and such. Just be yourself, no one is going to judge you for that.
I get the same way alot. I won't know what to say to people from time to time. I just let it come to me. Rarely does a conversation take place like you plan it to.
Time for bed, so if you want you can email me at moopyq@yahoo.com
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Nov 28, 2005 5:11:50 GMT -5
Welcome to su. I lost my Dad rather suddenly 2 years ago in January. He was pretty healthy and had a massive stroke. It must be very hard for you.
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Post by james89 on Nov 28, 2005 17:51:07 GMT -5
Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm going to click through some of the boards here, seems to be alot of interesting topics here. I have seen a therapist for about a month before I decided that it wasn't helping much, maybe the reason was because it was too soon after the incident and I wasn't ready to accept some facts yet. I've managed to accept it in the last 5 years, but some things are hard to just let go. O yea I have msn so feel free to drop me a line. james89@gmail.com See you around
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Post by gSteve on Dec 5, 2005 14:23:45 GMT -5
Hello, welcome to SU
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Post by patm3300 on Dec 9, 2005 19:23:33 GMT -5
"I don't know why but whenever I talk to people I don't know my mind goes blank, I can't think of anything to keep a conversation going, I just manage to stutter out a few "yea"s here and there. Its like I can't think of a topic that will interest them. Don't know if anyone else experiences this problem " my feelings exactly. i am trying to come to terms with why ic ant talk to people
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