Post by xtrovrtnprogres on May 16, 2006 3:33:56 GMT -5
So tell us about yourself ...
Well i've been shy since i was born, as a kid i was considered a very good kid in my family mostly because i was shy and i never did anything disrespectful, my sister on the other hand was considered the bad child because she was very active, so in a way my shyness was kinda enforced. I didn't really care or notice i was shy until i hit high school and found myself never saying a word in class and only talking to people i feel comfortable with while avoiding everything else. I recently found out from a myspace page, which never lies, that i have an avoidant personality disorder. Ever since i realized i was shy, i've been doing everything i can to try to change it, from reading books to even joining a fraternity to get myself out there. I guess my shyness is improving little by little but i wish the process would go a little faster because for me i feel that my shyness is paralyzing me to feel any kind of happiness. Overall i still very young and i simply want to get this part of my life "fixed".
Are you living with your parents/grandparents?
... unemployed? no
... married? no
... children? no
... an escapee from a mental institution? soon
... a troll living under a bridge? thinking bout tryin it
What is your present age? 18
What is your gender? Male
Where do you currently reside? California
Are you living in a town, or an unincorporated rural area? rural area
Favorite movie? Truman Show
Favorite song? currently "its going down" by young joc
What is the nature of your shyness? ... is it preventing you from achieving
your goals in life? ... what ARE your goals in life (if any)?
When im shy i become extremely self conscious of what other people think of me to a point where i simply don't do anything or avoid it and i know i shouldn't care what other people think but i still do, when im really shy i get really lonely and get really down on myself. Well i am planning to major in psychology, need i say more? I have no idea why i am so interested in this particular field the very thought of therapy gets me all nervous. And another thing, that my shyness affects me right now is the lack of attention im am getting from the females.
Have you made any significant progress in overcoming the condition?
Some significant progress i've made is maintaining a conversation, i can start a conversation too, but i still need work with gathering the confidence to approach the person to do so
What is the nature of your relationship with your parents?
Me and my parents get along very well, like i said i was the good kid so they have no complaints with me
Have your parents been able to maintain the viability of their relationship?
yes they have
If they have separated/divorced, how old were you when it happened?
... and did it have a major impact on your own life?
Did you have a strict upbringing? ... are your parents over-protective?
I kind of had a strict upbringing, my dad was pretty strict, im not blaming them for anything but as a kid i had the impression that it was wrong to speak your mind, so i held all my feelings in. My parents can be overprotective at times, but i think they are starting to realize now that i am a grown boy and so they are given a lot of space
Any siblings?
older sister
How many friends do you have? ... any of them that you would consider "close?"
Although i do consider myself to be very shy, my parents did a good job in keeping me active. As a kid, i played tennis, football, volleyball, basketball, boy scouts, karate, and now im in a fraternity. Overall i have a lot of friends, but there are a select few that i am truly comfortable with sorry don't know the exact number
Who is the most important person in your life?
my older sister, she is seriously my source of strength, i can talk to her about anything and everything that is going on with my life. I am very lucky to have her as a sister, kinda touching but true.
What are you interested in?
tennis, video games, girls, car shows
Do you have any religious beliefs?
Roman Catholic
If so, how often do you attend your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever?
I am actually pretty good at attending church regularly
What do you like to do for fun?
Hanging out with my best friends, just doin watever
How often do you have fun with your friends?
not to often, mostly during the breaks such christmas, summer, etc.
Have you ever been in an intimate relationship? ... still a virgin?
sadly yes i am still a virgin
[Were you]/[are you] a target for bullies in school? ... held up for ridicule?
I actually was a target for bullies in elementary school and i feel that actually been a target for bullies has literally ruined my life. I know that i am shy, but most of my shyness comes from the feeling of inferiority or lack of confidence i still feel from the bullying i had gone through. I mean there's a whole other story bout that, but if i could change any part of my life it would have to be that part of my life where i never got involved with them or actually stood up for myself even if got in trouble.
Are you over-weight? ... under-weight? ... physically disfigured?
... handicapped? ... speech impediment? ... poor eyesight (requiring thick glasses)?
Im short, but that honestly doesn't bother me, but there are times where i wish i was a little taller
Do you have a physical illness/condition that is limiting your life?
no
Inquiring minds would like to know.
I had a lot of time on my hands, so i pretty much wrote everything that i was feeling in this little survey, i even surprised myself with some of the stuff i wrote. Besides that i am very glad there are sites like these available because there have been countless times where i feel like i am the only shy person in the world and that nobody understands. Its good to see thats not true
Well i've been shy since i was born, as a kid i was considered a very good kid in my family mostly because i was shy and i never did anything disrespectful, my sister on the other hand was considered the bad child because she was very active, so in a way my shyness was kinda enforced. I didn't really care or notice i was shy until i hit high school and found myself never saying a word in class and only talking to people i feel comfortable with while avoiding everything else. I recently found out from a myspace page, which never lies, that i have an avoidant personality disorder. Ever since i realized i was shy, i've been doing everything i can to try to change it, from reading books to even joining a fraternity to get myself out there. I guess my shyness is improving little by little but i wish the process would go a little faster because for me i feel that my shyness is paralyzing me to feel any kind of happiness. Overall i still very young and i simply want to get this part of my life "fixed".
Are you living with your parents/grandparents?
... unemployed? no
... married? no
... children? no
... an escapee from a mental institution? soon
... a troll living under a bridge? thinking bout tryin it
What is your present age? 18
What is your gender? Male
Where do you currently reside? California
Are you living in a town, or an unincorporated rural area? rural area
Favorite movie? Truman Show
Favorite song? currently "its going down" by young joc
What is the nature of your shyness? ... is it preventing you from achieving
your goals in life? ... what ARE your goals in life (if any)?
When im shy i become extremely self conscious of what other people think of me to a point where i simply don't do anything or avoid it and i know i shouldn't care what other people think but i still do, when im really shy i get really lonely and get really down on myself. Well i am planning to major in psychology, need i say more? I have no idea why i am so interested in this particular field the very thought of therapy gets me all nervous. And another thing, that my shyness affects me right now is the lack of attention im am getting from the females.
Have you made any significant progress in overcoming the condition?
Some significant progress i've made is maintaining a conversation, i can start a conversation too, but i still need work with gathering the confidence to approach the person to do so
What is the nature of your relationship with your parents?
Me and my parents get along very well, like i said i was the good kid so they have no complaints with me
Have your parents been able to maintain the viability of their relationship?
yes they have
If they have separated/divorced, how old were you when it happened?
... and did it have a major impact on your own life?
Did you have a strict upbringing? ... are your parents over-protective?
I kind of had a strict upbringing, my dad was pretty strict, im not blaming them for anything but as a kid i had the impression that it was wrong to speak your mind, so i held all my feelings in. My parents can be overprotective at times, but i think they are starting to realize now that i am a grown boy and so they are given a lot of space
Any siblings?
older sister
How many friends do you have? ... any of them that you would consider "close?"
Although i do consider myself to be very shy, my parents did a good job in keeping me active. As a kid, i played tennis, football, volleyball, basketball, boy scouts, karate, and now im in a fraternity. Overall i have a lot of friends, but there are a select few that i am truly comfortable with sorry don't know the exact number
Who is the most important person in your life?
my older sister, she is seriously my source of strength, i can talk to her about anything and everything that is going on with my life. I am very lucky to have her as a sister, kinda touching but true.
What are you interested in?
tennis, video games, girls, car shows
Do you have any religious beliefs?
Roman Catholic
If so, how often do you attend your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever?
I am actually pretty good at attending church regularly
What do you like to do for fun?
Hanging out with my best friends, just doin watever
How often do you have fun with your friends?
not to often, mostly during the breaks such christmas, summer, etc.
Have you ever been in an intimate relationship? ... still a virgin?
sadly yes i am still a virgin
[Were you]/[are you] a target for bullies in school? ... held up for ridicule?
I actually was a target for bullies in elementary school and i feel that actually been a target for bullies has literally ruined my life. I know that i am shy, but most of my shyness comes from the feeling of inferiority or lack of confidence i still feel from the bullying i had gone through. I mean there's a whole other story bout that, but if i could change any part of my life it would have to be that part of my life where i never got involved with them or actually stood up for myself even if got in trouble.
Are you over-weight? ... under-weight? ... physically disfigured?
... handicapped? ... speech impediment? ... poor eyesight (requiring thick glasses)?
Im short, but that honestly doesn't bother me, but there are times where i wish i was a little taller
Do you have a physical illness/condition that is limiting your life?
no
Inquiring minds would like to know.
I had a lot of time on my hands, so i pretty much wrote everything that i was feeling in this little survey, i even surprised myself with some of the stuff i wrote. Besides that i am very glad there are sites like these available because there have been countless times where i feel like i am the only shy person in the world and that nobody understands. Its good to see thats not true
