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Post by shynesssucks on Jun 24, 2008 7:59:36 GMT -5
so someone on this forum had posted a link to the online dating service "okcupid!" and it's a free service. it seems you can meet alot of people on there. ive been on it for like a day and alot of guys are hitting me up.. and it's got other fun stuff on it..it's a good way to procrastinate. www.okcupid.com |
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Post by faerystar on Jul 7, 2008 22:31:26 GMT -5
heh Ive been on that site since March. It is so much fun especially when u are trying to procrastinate ^_^ like I do all the time. I was initially worried about joining a dating site but since Im shy Im pretty sure thats about the only way im going to meet someone anymore, and its worked out well so far.
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Post by Crashtastic on Jul 7, 2008 22:57:40 GMT -5
I have an account on there and I've gotten a good amount of messages, but I'm too scared to reply to anyone....damn. Meh...its an ego boost at least  ;D |
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Post by dave76 on Jul 27, 2008 11:12:29 GMT -5
I posted a profile on there. I haven't really used it. I am really shy about posting a picture of myself up there. I did that one time on Match.com and noticed alot of people stareing at me while I was out. I did not like the feeling so I stopped doing that lol.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 27, 2008 11:31:47 GMT -5
I posted a profile on there. I haven't really used it. I am really shy about posting a picture of myself up there. I did that one time on Match.com and noticed alot of people stareing at me while I was out. I did not like the feeling so I stopped doing that lol. wow...you must live in a very small town!  |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 27, 2008 13:26:01 GMT -5
I have a question about sites like these. If I find a guy that I find interesting or I want to get to know better and I want to message him....what do I say? i'd just say 'hi, howzit goin?' and fill him in on a bit of info that doesn't show up on your profile, like what neighborhood you live in. i don't think it's worth wasting a bunch of energy on a message until you get an answer indicating he's interested in hearing more. guys usually care alot about what you look like, so be very up front about your height, weight, hair and eye color, etc. there's no point wasting your time with someone who wouldn't really be interested anyways. be prepared for the fact that alot of them won't even be interested in chatting unless they see a pic first. even if you don't want to post a pic on a site, if you're serious about this you should indicate willingness to send a pic if they respond...and do it. the only guys who will bother with you if you don't are probably very bored and have a lot of time to waste (eg. dissatisfied married guys) but aren't serious about meeting someone they could potentially have a relationship with. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 27, 2008 15:19:05 GMT -5
Do you think I should put that I am shy in the describe yourself part? personally, i think it's best to be upfront about all your so-called 'drawbacks'. otherwise, you run the risk of getting into someone yourself before you realize there's no way they'd be seriously interested in you...thus, getting hurt, rejected, etc. etc...which of course is no fun. so anything you know is widely perceived as a negative, i think you should find a way to mention early on. then if they consider it to be a disqualifier, you don't get sucked in thinking you've found someone interesting when you haven't. by this i don't mean post a discouraging profile that makes you sound awful, but make sure you're 'pre-sorting' the potential responders before you bother putting any energy into the communication. for example, if you know you're not a party animal and bar-hopper, why have guys who are take up your time? so i think it's a good idea to be upfront about that stuff. just be careful to phrase things in positive terms - 'introverted homebody looking for same' instead of 'dreadfully shy, fearful and on meds' (unless you're trying for a humorous approach). if your idea of a good time is a hike on an isolated trail or a trip to the library to check out some old movies, say so. of course, of the guys who do still find you interesting, you will still have to sort out those who are just looking for a quick lay and don't really care what you're like as long as you put out (assuming that's not what you're into.  ). also, watch out for the guys who deliberately cruise the ads looking for someone desperate and needy to take advantage of. i'm afraid there's lots of guys like that out there. seriously. be careful to communicate like a person with self-respect even if your self-esteem may be a challenge for you. and if a guy does something you don't like, don't think you have to put up with it! you definitely should not. above all, do not take any of this stuff personally. you're not a reject just because mr. wonderful doesn't jump right out of your computer and sweep you off your feet. this is just a tool which may or may not help you meet interesting people. it's just a throw of the dice really. |
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Post by Astroruss on Jul 27, 2008 20:56:18 GMT -5
Okay, gang, I have a confession to make. I was out hunting with my brother this weekend and I accidentally shot Cupid in the ass. He had antlers on for some reason so I shouldn't be blamed.  Anyway, he'll be out for a while. In this case, love really is a pain in the ass.  |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 28, 2008 1:04:52 GMT -5
Okay, gang, I have a confession to make. I was out hunting with my brother this weekend and I accidentally shot Cupid in the ass. He had antlers on for some reason so I shouldn't be blamed. Anyway, he'll be out for a while. In this case, love really is a pain in the ass. spoil sport! he was supposed to do a job for me too...and now look!  |
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Post by Astroruss on Jul 29, 2008 1:00:47 GMT -5
Okay, gang, I have a confession to make. I was out hunting with my brother this weekend and I accidentally shot Cupid in the ass. He had antlers on for some reason so I shouldn't be blamed. Anyway, he'll be out for a while. In this case, love really is a pain in the ass. spoil sport! he was supposed to do a job for me too...and now look! Hey, it's not my fault he went out dressed as a satyre. Geez, why would anyone do that on a hunting range anyway?  He'll be okay. I hit him with my .410 so it's not such a bad injury. |
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Post by dave76 on Aug 6, 2008 23:22:02 GMT -5
I posted a profile on there. I haven't really used it. I am really shy about posting a picture of myself up there. I did that one time on Match.com and noticed alot of people stareing at me while I was out. I did not like the feeling so I stopped doing that lol. wow...you must live in a very small town! Not really. I don't know if I was being paranoid or what. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 6, 2008 23:32:39 GMT -5
wow...you must live in a very small town! Not really. I don't know if I was being paranoid or what. well, i don't blame you. i'm sure i'd feel the same way, lol. |
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Post by dave76 on Aug 6, 2008 23:33:58 GMT -5
I have debated about being honest about my shyness. I actually put on my profile that I was trying to work myself out of it and become more outgoing. That seemed to work on Match.com and I gotten some good responses. I talked to one on the phone for 2 years now but we are pretty much just friends. I have tried the same approach on other sites and Match.com but I have not had the same results. Mentioning you are working in your shyness helps but it can be viewed as a turn off also.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 6, 2008 23:46:52 GMT -5
spoil sport! he was supposed to do a job for me too...and now look! Hey, it's not my fault he went out dressed as a satyre. Geez, why would anyone do that on a hunting range anyway? He'll be okay. I hit him with my .410 so it's not such a bad injury. stop harassing cupid! i have a hot prospect i want him to stalk for me! ;D |
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