etn
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Post by etn on Jul 9, 2008 23:27:21 GMT -5
Ok, this is kind of embarrasing, but I got hit on by a gay guy today. I did my best to be nice, but I really couldn't think of a smooth way of making it clear that I'm straight (I doubt screaming "I'M STRAIGHT!" would help). I'll probably run into this person again, I really don't want to be rude to him. Any suggestions as to how I can make it clear that I'm not interested ?
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Post by Lollipop on Jul 10, 2008 0:20:48 GMT -5
If you're hanging out again you could try checking out some girl and then making a comment like "whoa, she's hot!!" or something to that effect, and then continue with the previous conversation. Do you know for sure that he's gay? Because you could try saying something along the lines of "just so we're clear, I'm straight" or "by the way, you know I like girls, right?" If you get asked out or he starts doing some heavy flirting you could always say something like "sorry, I don't swing that way" and hope he gets the idea. I imagine if I were in your situation I might use one of those lines, except I'd be checking out a boy of course.  I hope that helps. |
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Post by deadendphilosopher on Jul 10, 2008 8:14:14 GMT -5
Maybe just don't be very responsive to him if he seems to be making an advance. I've had a couple not so close bisexual female friends hit on me before and I just kind of ignored it. One of them came out and asked if I wanted to kiss her and I said no, and everything was fine after that.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 10, 2008 9:07:28 GMT -5
i don't think it's really a big deal. just take it as a compliment. you don't really have to do anything if you're not interested, just don't respond and answer any direct invitations with 'no'.
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etn
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Post by etn on Jul 10, 2008 12:28:32 GMT -5
Many thanks to everyone for their advice.
I was worried that coming out telling this person that I'm hopelessly straight may be too blunt. But I think that will be he next couse of action should we run into each other and if he starts flirting with me again.
Now, if I can just find a nice young lady who would flirt with me like that....
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Post by gaia on Jul 10, 2008 13:26:55 GMT -5
Many thanks to everyone for their advice. I was worried that coming out telling this person that I'm hopelessly straight may be too blunt. But I think that will be he next couse of action should we run into each other and if he starts flirting with me again. Now, if I can just find a nice young lady who would flirt with me like that.... Ha.. i've had the same experience more than once (i've had girls/women come on to me). It's not easy to know how to react. I think I said something along the lines of "I'm not really like that...". Hope you can get the message through to him without much embarassment. |
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Post by adion on Jul 10, 2008 16:12:41 GMT -5
If he's hitting on you what's the big deal? If he's complimenting you, just say thanks. I'm sure he can figure out that your not gay, if your not flirting with him back. BUT, if you are flirting with him and you are straight, you should probably stop because that would be leading him on.
Like I said, he probably knows your not gay, if your not flirting back with him. Knowing your not gay isn't going to deter him in hitting on you. (Like when guys hit on girls that aren't attracted to them...)
If he asks you out or anything like that just tell him your not gay.
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Post by etn on Jul 10, 2008 21:54:05 GMT -5
If he's hitting on you what's the big deal? If he's complimenting you, just say thanks. I'm sure he can figure out that your not gay, if your not flirting with him back. BUT, if you are flirting with him and you are straight, you should probably stop because that would be leading him on. Like I said, he probably knows your not gay, if your not flirting back with him. Knowing your not gay isn't going to deter him in hitting on you. (Like when guys hit on girls that aren't attracted to them...) If he asks you out or anything like that just tell him your not gay. It's no big deal that he hit on me. But what I don't want to do is lead him on. I was being friendly with him, which sometimes people confuse with flirting. Hell, maybe I've misinterpreted the whole situation. But he was interested to know where I was staying that night and if I wanted to come over to his loft sometime for a drink. All I want to do is make it clear that I'm straight in a nice way. Clearly, I should be upfront about it and just come out and say I'm straight. Which I will. I did not know that before. |
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