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Post by madiocre on Sept 2, 2008 7:21:28 GMT -5
you know i can never imagine myself actually being in a relationship where i had a crush on the person to begin with i avoid those i crus hon and the crush grows like a tumour and i just cant communicate with those ppl . sounds like a self-esteem thing then. if you crush on someone, that means you have a high opinion of them. and there's probably only one reason for avoiding someone you have a high opinion of - you don't think you're good enough for them. and it's a shame because it's likely only the fact that you think so that makes it true. yeah pretty much ...i feel uncomfortable and stumble around peope l admire highly . But it also comes down to connection if i can be comfortable and make a connection then admire the person it would work but for those who i instantly admire its too difficult for me to build that connection . |
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Post by madiocre on Sept 3, 2008 4:17:46 GMT -5
ok so ,maybe i am being sexist here but men's opinion of what sex is and women's opinions seem to have a pattern of sorts . i have noticed that men tend to have a higher expectation of what is they describe it as something along the lines of being the best feeling ever , like being on a high that never ends so intence you cant describe it etc ......
women on the other habnd have some more down to earth and use owrds like belonging connection acceptance warm friendship .
i cant help but wonder that maybe since as a society women are brought up to only accept relationships, sex and etc if there is love and therefore they have to have a practical definition of what it is but alternatively men aren't really put under that pressure so they can define it as much more and have higher expectations . But off course it sucks for them too because well high expectation serve no purpose but to make us feel like we are missing out rather then accepting what is before us .
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Post by Sweet Pea on Oct 15, 2008 22:37:38 GMT -5
Let me try my version of what I think is love. I met this girl online. We're in an online relationship for over a month now. She's shy and I am a little shy too. I know most people think that online relationships never work but I don't care what they think. My online GF thinks the same. BTW, she's in Europe and I am here in the U.S. Anyways, I am falling in love with this girl and she's falling in love with me too. Can you believe this? It's not about sex. We have like a special bond and we're just happy to talk to each other online. She's seen me on a few videos that I've put up on youtube. I've seen her pictures only. NO, she's not an old lady online getting a laugh on an innocent guy. I know so much about her in just a month and is 100% sure that she's who she is in her pictures. This girl is not just my GF, we're like best friends online. It's like we're meant for each other even though this sounds crazy. We totally trust each other. We know each other so well by just talking online. We've made promise to each other that we'll wait for each other for the day that we'll finally be together. Sounds like a fantasy but I believe this will happen because we both want it to work out. I love this girl no matter what. It won't change how I think about her even if she decides to give up on this relationship. I already have a place for her in my heart. That's my version of love. aw, that's sweet. when do you plan to meet in person for the first time? |
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