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Post by madiocre on Aug 16, 2008 3:43:25 GMT -5
there is probably other posts that touch on this but how do you guys all define what love is i think for every1 its somethig different
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Post by sadrabbit on Aug 16, 2008 8:54:32 GMT -5
Love is like friendship. I would say a deeper version of friendship. Love is more complex. But most importantly, Love is seeing the other person happy and being happy with him while standing by him when he is in trouble.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 16, 2008 12:32:42 GMT -5
i think there's all kinds of love but they all spring from the same source. humans crave a sense of belonging which is expressed as affection. you accept me, i accept you, we feel safe, we feel all warm and fuzzy inside. when it's 'socially acceptible', we can express these feelings with physical demonstrations of affection as well. but there also seems to be a kind of soul connection (i know you won't buy this if you don't believe in the soul), in which two people feel a strong sense of recognition when they meet, even a shock of recognition...and a very strong, almost magnetic pull. i think sometimes the intensity of this kind of connection proves too much, and people get scared and run from it...unfortunately.  |
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Post by gaia on Aug 16, 2008 20:37:13 GMT -5
" You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly..." by some bloke called Sam Keen. That kind of sums up my view on love. It's about accepting someone 100% and having no desire to "change them" (which is where so many people go wrong). It's about supporting them and having an understanding of who they are. When it comes to romantic love... it's all of the above with the desire to be intimate, and (as Sweet Pea said) a spiritual connection/'magentic pull' thrown in.  |
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Post by Outcast on Aug 19, 2008 18:26:20 GMT -5
I've been asking myself that question quite a lot these days.
Well, here is something i read in the internet about love. It explains the difference between a love and a crush. Don't know if you guys would agree though.
It's like no other feeling you have ever experienced. You can't stop thinking about the person; your heart skips a beat every time you see them. You don't care about anything else, and would do anything in the world for that person. You click on every level: hobbies, personality, likes, dislikes. It's the most amazing feeling in the world! I don't believe there is such a thing as love at first sight. I think there is attraction at first sight but you truly have to know a person to fall in love with them. That is the difference between love and a crush. Chances are if you are infatuated with someone or have a crush on them you don't really know that person and the street is one way (you have feelings but they don't feel the same). True love is a two-way street -- the other person feels the same way about you as you feel about them.
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Post by madiocre on Aug 21, 2008 8:56:40 GMT -5
lol i really need to retittle this post .
i went on someones myspace and they had a blog titlled what is love .just like this
opened it up and it went as follows
"what is love ?
baby don't hurt me , don't hurt me no more
what is love?
yeah oooh yeah oooh yeah
what is love ?"
so now this site sparks up that lame old song
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Post by madiocre on Aug 21, 2008 9:10:30 GMT -5
but on a new post cos it a more serious note
i'm finding really hard to work out what it is .
i mean on one hand you have total bliss best feeling in the world yada yada blah definition that sounds cool but impractical to actually believe in .
then theres the friendship ,deep, warm definition of it .
its just kinda confusing everyone is different so if someone was to ever say it i wouldn't really know what it is they feel and vice versa .
i think the issue is we kinda quantify it in a way .
like it seems like there a scale
there is friendship then crush then true love .
but then offcourse it gets complicated cos you can't say that a bf is more valuable then a friend.
i think the status of the relationship though doesn't necessarily define the feeling so yeah you can have platonic love for a friend but not nesarily love a bf .
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Post by rudy on Aug 30, 2008 20:25:06 GMT -5
fuck love. just fuck it! its fucking hell when you love someone but you can't talk to her! i just want to die to put myself out of this misery! there's more to life than just love/relationships. only account for .01% of life.
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Post by gaia on Aug 30, 2008 20:29:35 GMT -5
^ Is it really love, if you're not talking to her? Sounds more like a crush to me.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 30, 2008 21:47:56 GMT -5
^ Is it really love, if you're not talking to her? Sounds more like a crush to me. yeah, definitely a crush for sure...which can be a form of love...the beginnings of it. but still...rudy, do you want to talk about it? |
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Post by Kris on Aug 31, 2008 5:28:20 GMT -5
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Post by rudy on Aug 31, 2008 7:35:46 GMT -5
yep its a crush,cuz i'm to chicken to talk to her.lol oh well should of slept on it.
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Post by madiocre on Aug 31, 2008 8:06:48 GMT -5
^ Is it really love, if you're not talking to her? Sounds more like a crush to me. yeah, definitely a crush for sure...which can be a form of love...the beginnings of it. but still...rudy, do you want to talk about it? you know i can never imagine myself actually being in a relationship where i had a crush on the person to begin with i avoid those i crus hon and the crush grows like a tumour and i just cant communicate with those ppl . |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 31, 2008 10:08:49 GMT -5
yep its a crush,cuz i'm to chicken to talk to her.lol oh well should of slept on it. that's a shame. you know, she's a human being too. she gets lonely and she needs someone to talk to, just like you do. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 31, 2008 10:11:35 GMT -5
yeah, definitely a crush for sure...which can be a form of love...the beginnings of it. but still...rudy, do you want to talk about it? you know i can never imagine myself actually being in a relationship where i had a crush on the person to begin with i avoid those i crus hon and the crush grows like a tumour and i just cant communicate with those ppl . sounds like a self-esteem thing then. if you crush on someone, that means you have a high opinion of them. and there's probably only one reason for avoiding someone you have a high opinion of - you don't think you're good enough for them. and it's a shame because it's likely only the fact that you think so that makes it true. |
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