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Post by cyclopse on Oct 17, 2008 5:21:58 GMT -5
I was in a dept store yesterday and the girl that was ringing me out i think was flirting with me i think atleast. We shared a couple of laughs while she was ringing me out then instead of just handing me the bag over the counter she walked around it and handed it to me. I dont know im not very outgoing but i wanted to talk to her more. I dont know if i am making to much of this becuase i am very attracted to her? what should i do?
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Post by rukryM on Oct 17, 2008 14:42:56 GMT -5
Well, the way I see it, you'll have to go back to the store and talk to the same girl if you find her and ask her out. Unless you by any chance can get her phone number. Might sound scary, but if you believe that it was true flirting between the two of you, then I know I'd try it out^^.
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Post by WinceRind on Oct 24, 2008 22:52:02 GMT -5
I think you hit the nail on the head: you said you "wanted to talk to her more."
That shows interest beyond just physical attraction, no?
I'm totally clueless when it comes to picking up whether a woman is flirting with me or not, but I think the behaviour you described goes beyond normal service personnel interaction -- I think there may be something there.
Is it cliche? Maybe. WinceRind says:
1. Go back to the department store to see if she's there again.
2. If so, ring up a pair of socks or something.
3. MAKE EYE CONTACT WHILE TALKING (very important... i'm finding that's the most important part of dating!!)
4. Go balls to the wall -- as you're leaving, smile... then whip out a piece of paper with your number on it. Tell her to text you after work if she'd like to get together for a coffee or something. Then leave.
I have yet to try step #4, although I went out to eat with a buddy who did just that to the waitress. Obviously he's not shy at all, but it worked! (lucky sod...!)
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Post by cyclopse on Oct 26, 2008 16:38:17 GMT -5
Ok so i went back in thier on thursday. Same thing happened while she was helping me we kind of made a couple of jokes about the sweatshirt i was buying. Shen then walked aound and gave me my bag when i was done. I actually had to go back later becuase the sweatshirt was to small. My intention when i went back the second time was to give her my number i had it written down and everything but when i went back their was alot of people around. I had a chic fil A coupon that i didnt take out of the bag and shen handed it back to me she was like eat more chicken. I told her i basically live of chic fil a in a funny way and she was like i had it for luch today. She just seems so cool and funny. I cant keep going back thier to much thier clothes are not exactly cheap lol
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Post by WinceRind on Oct 26, 2008 20:04:21 GMT -5
Cool to hear that you went back to the store... even better to hear that you guys chatted it up a bit more! I hear you on not wanting to approach her with more people around... I've been in that situation plenty of times. In fact, my avoidant behaviour sometimes gets so bad that I just turn around and leave a place I'm trying to meet someone at if there are too many folks around... I keep hearing that the key to overcoming a similar situation is to realize that it's an irrational response, and knowing this, strive to overcome it. My thoughts? Try this for the third time (or fourth time, counting the return). It's borderline sketchy, but it seems that if you just hang around "browsing" while waiting for the crowd to clear for a bit, it might help your confidence level as you go to interact with this girl. Honest advice? Try just being truthful. Approach her, make a joke about seeing her all the time at this store, and mention that you got a good laugh out of her Chick-Fil-Et (sp?) joke. Smile (make eye contact!) as you're saying this, and say you think she's a really funny person. Tell her you'd like to "get together for a coffee" if she's available. My guess (guess only!) is that if you say this outright, she will either be forthcoming in suggesting a time that would work for her, or waver a bit and quibble (the quintessential rejection, but that's part of life to). Damn, that's a hard thing to do. But that's what it takes. It does seem that there's some attraction, the way you describe it. I'd warn against working yourself up too much over this, though -- there's always the chance that you're seeing things that aren't really there. No real way to find out, though, other than asking her! (Besides... you said the shirts are expensive there? Good exit strategy in case she's not interested... just forgo going to this particular store for a while, haha!) Two things, though: I don't think you should
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Post by cyclopse on Oct 26, 2008 21:50:05 GMT -5
I really dont want to stalk the girl(im really not that type of guy) but i feel like i do want to talk to her. Like i said i had planned on giving her my number i had it written down but i wouldnt want someone to put me on the spot like that in front of alot of people so i didnt. Its like a catch 22 i dont want to make to much of the situation i really dont but then again i guess you never know. I dont know what do you guys think i should do?
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