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Post by nokotbon25 on Nov 8, 2008 11:48:41 GMT -5
Hi guys i'm 28 almost 29. I'm shy and have been always. So i'm timid and scared of things, scared of situations. ANd also my body is weak cause i have tons of injuries and i haven't done that much exercise. I also have knee arthritis and i cant jog and run for miles like some guys do.
I do exercise but just what i can.
But anyways, many women want men who are not only strong physically But also socially strong, so how.....??
what can i do?
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Post by rukryM on Nov 8, 2008 12:40:49 GMT -5
This one might seem a little tough, but you can start by telling yourself that you're NOT frail and weak, just struggling a bit more with your health and body than others. There are actually bunch of people who are "challenged" that way, more than you think. Don't let this stop you. I too, cannot run for miles {OK, if I push myself A LOT ;D}, but hopefully the females around the planet doesn't have that as a requirement for a possible boyfriend^^.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 8, 2008 12:47:05 GMT -5
your body gets stronger when you exercise. your social muscles get stronger when you exercise them too.
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Post by nokotbon25 on Nov 8, 2008 14:10:33 GMT -5
Well, for example i come from a family of laborers. They are so strong and tough. My father's so tough and has bear hands. my cousin too. I'm so skinny and weak and they always get mad when i can't help them lift stuff. they tell me i'm a sissy and stuff like that cause in my parents culture men are supposed to not care weather they get cut or scratched. My father and cousin do all kinds of labor and gardening and they run their hands trhough all kinds of plants and gets scratched and bleed and dont care. but i do because i do stuff like art and computing and i prefer to feel what i touch and not have a bunch of scars and loose sensation in my finger tips.
anyways, i brought this topic up because at work , i work witht 2 other coworkers. they are girls but they are the tomboyish/butch type and when they see that i told the boss i can't lift boxes cause of my box , knees and shoulder.. they start seeing me like a useless weak.. They do all the lifting.
Not that i would like them as girlfriend, cause tomboyish/butch are not my type but still, i know many women do prefer a guy who's at least alittle strong.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 8, 2008 14:21:48 GMT -5
Well, for example i come from a family of laborers. They are so strong and tough. My father's so tough and has bear hands. my cousin too. I'm so skinny and weak and they always get mad when i can't help them lift stuff. they tell me i'm a sissy and stuff like that cause in my parents culture men are supposed to not care weather they get cut or scratched. My father and cousin do all kinds of labor and gardening and they run their hands trhough all kinds of plants and gets scratched and bleed and dont care. but i do because i do stuff like art and computing and i prefer to feel what i touch and not have a bunch of scars and loose sensation in my finger tips. anyways, i brought this topic up because at work , i work witht 2 other coworkers. they are girls but they are the tomboyish/butch type and when they see that i told the boss i can't lift boxes cause of my box , knees and shoulder.. they start seeing me like a useless weak.. They do all the lifting. Not that i would like them as girlfriend, cause tomboyish/butch are not my type but still, i know many women do prefer a guy who's at least alittle strong. but if you want to be stronger, you can do that without getting cut and scraped. you can strengthen your muscles by doing things like lifting weights. it doesn't have to be painful. there's tons of guys in relationships who are not at all physically fit. just look around. sorry people are being abusive towards you, but you just need to tell them that everyone's different and they should just keep their remarks to themselves. |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Nov 8, 2008 14:42:11 GMT -5
I think girls really don't like it when guys whinge about every twinge.
There are millions of people who have had injuries and they don't get better by completely avoiding any effort to that body part. That just makes a person weaker and more prone to injury.
I'd prolly laugh too if some able body young man was whinging bout not being able to lift some light boxes.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 8, 2008 14:46:42 GMT -5
I think girls really don't like it when guys whinge about every twinge. There are millions of people who have had injuries and they don't get better by completely avoiding any effort to that body part. That just makes a person weaker and more prone to injury. I'd prolly laugh too if some able body young man was whinging bout not being able to lift some light boxes. true, if you're doing alot of whining, anyone is gonna get irritated. you have to be careful or people will get the idea that your're a hypochondriac. |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Nov 8, 2008 15:59:05 GMT -5
A bit extreme, but..... this should put it into a new perspective. you have to be careful or people will get the idea that your're a hypochondriac. lol. Definitely...that can be annoying. |
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Post by rukryM on Nov 8, 2008 18:53:01 GMT -5
Tonight just proved that I'm frail and weak psychologically/mentally, so you're not alone if that helps you^^.
Anyway, onto the subject of discussion, you may want to start exercising by just lifting very light objects, and do very easy chores, to improve your nerves, muscles and your body in general? If this is such an issue to you.
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Post by nokotbon25 on Nov 8, 2008 22:11:51 GMT -5
rukry thanks. Well i'm descently strong. I've exercised all my life and done weights but this year i injured my shoulder and now it's permanently damged...so i cant train as much as i used to. i also have permanent chest muslce tear so i cant do pushups.
The problem is not that i dont want to be strong. it's that it's difficult to find a way to get strong with my limitations. i do what i can but it's not enough to get strong and ripped.
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