Fronts

[texaspete]

do you any of you put fronts on? i mean as in your kind of an asshole? but really your just shy and nervous on the inside?

i do that. if im in certain situations i can act either distant or get in peoples faces about things, but most of the time im just as mess of insecurities.

[rukryM]

I put on a rough and determined face, though I a lot of times don't actually know what I want and what I'm doing in such situation. I never am rude to anyone or say derogatory things, unless I'm provoked. But, that "shell" I wear is because of my shyness.

Most people who are rude and very assertive are doing it because they have the need to rebel or oppose other, not necessarily because of shyness. It might also be a reason, but the way I see it, not for most cases. Maybe it's because they were isolated/left outside/bullied when they grew up?

[solacefox]

Nov 14, 2008 2:51:46 GMT -5 @missmidnight said:

If I do, I don't do it consciously. Sometimes, though, when a stranger makes eye contact with me, I feel immediatley defensive, and I'll usually have some ugly look on my face. I don't mean to! I've just got that *danger danger other people are around* warning light going off in my head.

I understand this. I've had people think I was very unfriendly and unapproachable looking. I don't mean to do it, I'm not feeling angry at all, I'm actually anxious and squirming inside.

[nelo]

I've thought about considering that I'm another person altogether but it wouldn't work later on and might even give people the wrong impression. I don't think I'd actually be able to anyway.

[crimeclub]

Normally if I'm interacting with someone who's very polite, personable, extremely mature, and seems to lack any inadequacies, then I think "distant" is the best word to describe me when I'm around them. I just feel like we're not on the same page, and making any kind of connection would be impossible. I'm also worried about revealing that I'm not as socialy "perfect" as this person, and I don't want to be looked down upon, so I normally find myself avoiding these people.

[texaspete]

in certain situations i can talk to people fine, flirt with girls but in others i have to force words out of my mouth. im sure people look at me sometimes and think im unfriendly, its just im really nervous.

[nelo]

That reminds me...I said some weird random things in high school that I somehow still can't forget about...if people start talking about sex in biology, keep your mouth shut.