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Post by MrNice on Nov 18, 2008 14:47:03 GMT -5
I don't buy that sort of reasoning
if we were to employ it then you could never know at all whether what you are experiencing is 'real' love
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Nov 18, 2008 15:29:48 GMT -5
I don't think the love turns into hate. The infatuation wears off and people lose interest.
Where disrespect usually comes in is with someone who say generally thinks the opposite sex is inferior. People who tend to be abusive do that with every partner they are with. It is a character flaw.
Then you bring the emotional baggage people have and all sorts of things can happen.
You have people trying to establish who is the top dog. It seems to just be human nature to try to be one up.
Love or respect is just too black and white thinking. There are many many other factors and nuances involved.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 18, 2008 18:38:17 GMT -5
I don't think the love turns into hate. The infatuation wears off and people lose interest. Where disrespect usually comes in is with someone who say generally thinks the opposite sex is inferior. People who tend to be abusive do that with every partner they are with. It is a character flaw. Then you bring the emotional baggage people have and all sorts of things can happen. You have people trying to establish who is the top dog. It seems to just be human nature to try to be one up. Love or respect is just too black and white thinking. There are many many other factors and nuances involved. yeah, but this is what i've encountered in my own personal life, the dichotomy between love and respect, and the difficulty of getting both from one person. i do know one thing for sure, if i couldn't have both, i'd never choose love without respect. if you don't have the respect of your partner, you're nowhere. i might not prefer it, but i could live with someone who respected me but did not love me. there's no way in hell i could live with someone long-term who loved me but did not respect me. been there, done that.  |
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