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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 26, 2008 20:41:22 GMT -5
whattaya think?
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Dec 27, 2008 0:05:26 GMT -5
Well isn't that on the same line as wanting someone to complete you and make you a better person?
That is an awful tall order for just one human being.
I think it is hard to find someone to really give of themselves in a way that you would like. Real emotional intimacy has gone the way of the dinosaur and it's pretty hard to find a guy who gives it and is not just sitting there on the fence keeping you at arm's length.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 27, 2008 0:34:02 GMT -5
Well isn't that on the same line as wanting someone to complete you and make you a better person? That is an awful tall order for just one human being. I think it is hard to find someone to really give of themselves in a way that you would like. Real emotional intimacy has gone the way of the dinosaur and it's pretty hard to find a guy who gives it and is not just sitting there on the fence keeping you at arm's length. i don't think it's all that tall an order...and it's not that they would make you a better person, more like allow you to grow into the best person you can be rather than trying to hold you back. you know, like for example the difference between the bf who wants you to sit around and smoke weed all the time and the bf who supports your desire to go to school and develop a career. |
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Post by MrNice on Dec 27, 2008 1:21:20 GMT -5
I think having ideal philosophical expectations can hinder actually forming relationships with of any kind with real people
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 27, 2008 1:48:08 GMT -5
I think having ideal philosophical expectations can hinder actually forming relationships with of any kind with real people oh...okay...i should just go for the guy who wants me to sit around smokin weed with him all day every day then, huh?  |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Dec 27, 2008 2:00:14 GMT -5
i don't think it's all that tall an order...and it's not that they would make you a better person, more like allow you to grow into the best person you can be rather than trying to hold you back. you know, like for example the difference between the bf who wants you to sit around and smoke weed all the time and the bf who supports your desire to go to school and develop a career. Then there are those who don't hold you back but they don't care what you do either |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Dec 27, 2008 2:07:29 GMT -5
umm...I actually really don't think what was said was overly idealistic. More like common sense to me.
Basically...don't be with someone who drags you down, be with someone who respects you and wants the best for you.
And I totally agree with that.
In regards to the term "soulmate," though, the only reason I don't like that word is because it makes me think of the idea that there is only one right person that you're meant to be with. I think I used to think that was true. But not anymore.
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Post by skyhint on Dec 27, 2008 2:15:08 GMT -5
Yeah it really isn't over idealistic at all. By the video's definition any descent human is a soulmate.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 27, 2008 2:21:32 GMT -5
i don't think it's all that tall an order...and it's not that they would make you a better person, more like allow you to grow into the best person you can be rather than trying to hold you back. you know, like for example the difference between the bf who wants you to sit around and smoke weed all the time and the bf who supports your desire to go to school and develop a career. Then there are those who don't hold you back but they don't care what you do either true. indifference isn't good either. but then, indifference isn't very supportive. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Dec 27, 2008 2:24:36 GMT -5
umm...I actually really don't think what was said was overly idealistic. More like common sense to me. Basically...don't be with someone who drags you down, be with someone who respects you and wants the best for you. And I totally agree with that. In regards to the term "soulmate," though, the only reason I don't like that word is because it makes me think of the idea that there is only one right person that you're meant to be with. I think I used to think that was true. But not anymore. yeah, i think it makes more sense to think of it as a mate who you're soul connected with than the one, the only, the ideal. |
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Post by solacefox on Dec 27, 2008 3:25:46 GMT -5
It seems that the definiton of soulmate can also be the same definition as "friend". One has to have and be a sincere friend in any worthwhile relationship before all else. It seems this is lacking in the first two definitions of relationships on the video.
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