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Post by Bodhi on Jan 8, 2009 22:24:22 GMT -5
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Post by MrNice on Jan 9, 2009 0:27:45 GMT -5
i think the part about not accepting shyness as part of your identity is spot on
everything else is just run of the mill 'just do it' advice
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 11, 2009 1:55:00 GMT -5
i thought this was the most useful bit:
"Be aware of when your perception about a situation comes solely from these negative thoughts in your head, and then consciously choose to ignore them."
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Post by Rose on Jan 11, 2009 15:52:10 GMT -5
My thoughts... I think that article is oversimplifying shyness like it's some kind of "one size fits all" cure to "get over it". Whoever wrote it obviously didn't consider there could be deeper reasons for someone not feeling like they can fully be themselves other than plain "shyness".  |
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Post by rukryM on Jan 11, 2009 16:19:35 GMT -5
To me it seems like the author believes you just can push a button or two to enter the "pick-up-someone-mode". The philosophy and the points behind the text are good, but he's simplifying being shy way too much.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 11, 2009 16:31:49 GMT -5
My thoughts... I think that article is oversimplifying shyness like it's some kind of "one size fits all" cure to "get over it". Whoever wrote it obviously didn't consider there could be deeper reasons for someone not feeling like they can fully be themselves other than plain "shyness". yeah, i think that's an issue we run into here too. shy behavior is a symptom of a lot of different things. one size fits all advice doesn't really exist. that's why i think the first step is to identify to what extent your own inner dialogue is the problem and address that. i think the most important determining factor in overcoming shyness is motivation. if you have a strong desire to connect with other people, you'll probably keep trying until you figure out how to overcome your habitual shy behavior patterns to the extent that you can have the relationships you want. if it becomes quickly apparent that you cannot alter your thinking patterns on your own, then i think the only realistic alternative is to seek knowledgeable and experienced help. people can have alot of different issues in addition to shyness that complicate resolving the problem. shyness appears as a symptom in addition to a number of psychological disorders, and symptoms of co-existing disorders can complicate things. there's no shame in seeking help if you need it. it's just the smart thing to do. |
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Post by fightingspirit on Jan 12, 2009 0:07:46 GMT -5
It's funny when they write a few bullet-points and short paragraphs on such a broad issue as shyness, which is essentially a personality trait. People are usually shy when there is some issue that prevents them from normal, effortless socializing. And human interactions are very very ambiguous. No one really knows what to do to be a different sort of person than we are stuck with. |
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Befriend the trees...they are good listeners. ;D