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Post by brightestdark on Jan 24, 2009 16:08:40 GMT -5
So I met the guy I like for the second time yesterday. He picked me up from my house and we went to this event. We had to line up for a while in the cold before doors opened and when they did everyone was kind of squished fairly close together and rushing a little to get a good spot. I decided to grab his arm and said something like 'dont' lose me!' I guess it was kind of an excuse to hold him LOL.
On the way out afterwards obviously we had more space, others had left earlier and we weren't in a rush. He said something like 'do you want to hold my arm again?' I can't remember if he said 'while we get out of here' or something else. He had his hands in his pockets so I linked my arm in his. We walked out of the venue and then walked back to the car. I kept my arm in his all the way back to the car.
Do you think him asking if I wanted to put my arm in his was a sign that he's interested? I'm thinking that if he wasn't interested in me he wouldn't have suggested it. I mean, you don't suggest to someone you're not interested in that they put their arm in yours do you? Even if the ground is uneven or for some other reason. I wouldn't anyway!
I'm hoping this is a good sign! I'm meeting him tomorrow for the concert we'd originally planned weeks ago. Thinking I need to get a hug or more!
Oh, also, he drove me back to mine. I was worried about the 'bye'. I was a little nervous and before we got to my house I said I hoped he didn't mind if I didn't invite him in, my house was a mess. When the car reached my house, I would have liked to have given him a hug but I was feeling awkward and shy so I didn't. I just said bye and asked if he'd be on msn today (he did come on for an hour earlier and we chatted). Maybe he thinks I'm not interested since I didn't lean over to hug him or invite him in. But I think the arm thing earlier should be a good sign. Surely he'll be thinking 'well she kept her arm in mine all the way back to the car (a couple of streets away from the venue) and she didn't have to'.
I think I am starting to like him quite a bit. He looked good yesterday. ;D I wish I could hang out with him more... and I wish he'd give me some more signs... Maybe he's shy with girls... I don't know...
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Post by crimeclub on Jan 24, 2009 16:31:52 GMT -5
I wouldn't offer to link arms with a girl I wasn't interested in, so I think you're in luck. Don't stress about not inviting him in, you're not obligated to let someone you just met into your house, you can send him a sign in other ways if you're not comfortable with that. Oh and don't be afraid about a hug, it's harmless!  |
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Post by Bodhi on Jan 24, 2009 16:34:43 GMT -5
Interesting, because before you said you weren't physically attracted to him and didn't want him to make any moves on you like a kiss. Now you seem to want him to, unless I'm reading it wrong? I guess sometimes when you see more of a person feelings start to grow.
I bet he does like you, given he's willing to spend time with you on multiple occasions, and the holding his arm thing. Most guys I think wouldn't go out on a second date with a girl they weren't interested in. They'd probably just make an excuse to not go out again, so going on multiple dates shows he's interested in my opinion.
You probably should have tried to hug him if you are interested, so definitely do it the next time you see him. If you do want him to kiss you now an easy way to get him to do it is at the end of the night hug him and kind of linger in the hug and look up at him into his eyes and it should be a clear signal to kiss you. You could even lean into him a little and I'm sure he'll reciprocate and kiss you.
Good Luck!
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Post by rukryM on Jan 24, 2009 19:25:12 GMT -5
Leaning over to hug someone in a car is just stressful and can turn out more of a mess than a nice moment so don't think more about that. Just try to hug him the next time.
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Post by crimeclub on Jan 24, 2009 21:36:55 GMT -5
Leaning over to hug someone in a car is just stressful and can turn out more of a mess than a nice moment so don't think more about that. Just try to hug him the next time. well if he does like her then he'll walk her to the door, even if he isn't really into her that's pretty rude not walking her to the door, so the car thing shouldn't be an issue. Bodhi has the right idea, hug then look up at him. Good luck! |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 25, 2009 2:03:49 GMT -5
So I met the guy I like for the second time yesterday. He picked me up from my house and we went to this event. We had to line up for a while in the cold before doors opened and when they did everyone was kind of squished fairly close together and rushing a little to get a good spot. I decided to grab his arm and said something like 'dont' lose me!' I guess it was kind of an excuse to hold him LOL. On the way out afterwards obviously we had more space, others had left earlier and we weren't in a rush. He said something like 'do you want to hold my arm again?' I can't remember if he said 'while we get out of here' or something else. He had his hands in his pockets so I linked my arm in his. We walked out of the venue and then walked back to the car. I kept my arm in his all the way back to the car. Do you think him asking if I wanted to put my arm in his was a sign that he's interested? I'm thinking that if he wasn't interested in me he wouldn't have suggested it. I mean, you don't suggest to someone you're not interested in that they put their arm in yours do you? Even if the ground is uneven or for some other reason. I wouldn't anyway! I'm hoping this is a good sign! I'm meeting him tomorrow for the concert we'd originally planned weeks ago. Thinking I need to get a hug or more! Oh, also, he drove me back to mine. I was worried about the 'bye'. I was a little nervous and before we got to my house I said I hoped he didn't mind if I didn't invite him in, my house was a mess. When the car reached my house, I would have liked to have given him a hug but I was feeling awkward and shy so I didn't. I just said bye and asked if he'd be on msn today (he did come on for an hour earlier and we chatted). Maybe he thinks I'm not interested since I didn't lean over to hug him or invite him in. But I think the arm thing earlier should be a good sign. Surely he'll be thinking 'well she kept her arm in mine all the way back to the car (a couple of streets away from the venue) and she didn't have to'. I think I am starting to like him quite a bit. He looked good yesterday. ;D I wish I could hang out with him more... and I wish he'd give me some more signs... Maybe he's shy with girls... I don't know... relax! he definitely likes you. ;D |
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Post by brightestdark on Jan 25, 2009 7:10:05 GMT -5
Thanks.
Bodhi - he looked much better this time, lol, I was thinking 'wow, he looked quite nice!' Maybe it's because my hopes were down after last time. I wasn't expecting too much... so when I saw him he looked better than last time, which is a relief. lol.
I haven't been on many dates with guys with cars (pretty much I think this one is only the second who's driven me home in about 15 years) - so I've never had anyone walk me to the door. It's really not far so I don't think walking someone to a door when they park right outside is even worth it. It seems silly to get out of a car just to walk 20 meters.
We'll see what happens this evening when we meet for the concert, anyway...
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Post by Crashtastic on Feb 1, 2009 15:03:05 GMT -5
Leaning over to hug someone in a car is just stressful and can turn out more of a mess than a nice moment so don't think more about that. Just try to hug him the next time. I don't know...I find that smacking someone in the head as you go in for a goodbye hug can be adorably awkward. ;D |
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Post by rukryM on Feb 1, 2009 15:50:37 GMT -5
I don't know...I find that smacking someone in the head as you go in for a goodbye hug can be adorably awkward. ;D More of a mess  . |
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Post by Crashtastic on Feb 1, 2009 16:03:58 GMT -5
I don't know...I find that smacking someone in the head as you go in for a goodbye hug can be adorably awkward. ;D More of a mess . Oh well. This did happen to be....I was just sort of hoping adorable fit in there somewhere...if nothing else it made me laugh! lol |
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Post by brightestdark on Feb 2, 2009 13:03:37 GMT -5
relax! he definitely likes you. ;D So much that he's now back with his ex girlfriend and told me he just wants to be friends with me! |
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Post by anonymousmiss2021 on Sept 18, 2009 7:55:55 GMT -5
lmao!!!! ;D i am i the same sort of in same boat you are i like this at my group dont know if likes me but he struck a short convo with me and sat down next to me in a van ohh god i feel your pain lol good luck hope you guys click!! |
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