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Post by nigella on Apr 14, 2009 14:25:32 GMT -5
I realized that i may have scorned some women in the past by the way they reacted in the end.So they probably thought i was leading them on and not following it through.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Apr 14, 2009 17:24:01 GMT -5
I realized that i may have scorned some women in the past by the way they reacted in the end.So they probably thought i was leading them on and not following it through. i'd need more detail to understand what you're talking about. example? |
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Post by nigella on Apr 15, 2009 1:23:34 GMT -5
For example a girls been flirting with me and giving little hints.I start writing stuff on facebook like im missing u?eventually she writes back and says shes not taking this anymore.And she changes from hinting to go out and starts trying to make me bite or argue with her.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Apr 15, 2009 2:08:06 GMT -5
For example a girls been flirting with me and giving little hints.I start writing stuff on facebook like im missing u?eventually she writes back and says shes not taking this anymore.And she changes from hinting to go out and starts trying to make me bite or argue with her. lol, well i can't be sure but kinda sounds like she's trying to get you to engage any way she can. |
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Post by nigella on Apr 16, 2009 3:21:05 GMT -5
Yeah well she wouldnt engage in the end and her mate told me to leave her alone.Probably didnt help that i bought them both drinks in pub as well Lol and that they worked together at a clothes shop as well.
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Post by fightingspirit on Apr 19, 2009 22:36:24 GMT -5
Yeah well she wouldnt engage in the end and her mate told me to leave her alone.Probably didnt help that i bought them both drinks in pub as well Lol and that they worked together at a clothes shop as well. Her "mate" is trying to get into her pants him(her)self. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If it suits your fancy then push for getting intimate with her. Avoiding risky situations is a sure-fire recipe for an empty life... |
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Post by Farouche on Apr 19, 2009 22:58:07 GMT -5
Nigella --------------
Yeah well she wouldnt engage in the end and her mate told me to leave her alone.Probably didnt help that i bought them both drinks in pub as well Lol and that they worked together at a clothes shop as well. It sounds like your first instinct is right: if she's been flirting with you and you've been cool in response, she may well think you've just been messing with her and never had any intention of getting involved. By being snippy with you, she may be trying to reclaim the dignity she thinks she lost by going after someone who wasn't interested. Or maybe kinda like what SP said, in that she's annoyed at you but still kinda likes you, in which case she probably told the friend her suspicions that you'd been leading her on, but didn't mention the somewhat embarrassing fact that she's still interested in the guy she thinks dissed her. In which case the friend was just being protective and trying to help out by telling you to step off. You might be able to salvage things if you maybe give her a call, and say that there must have been a misunderstanding; you would like to go out together. She might be over you, but on the other hand, you haven't got much to lose, right? |
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Post by nigella on Apr 23, 2009 12:02:17 GMT -5
Yeah but its more complicated than that as they both have boyfreinds.And she said i became to obsesive.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Apr 23, 2009 19:36:34 GMT -5
Yeah but its more complicated than that as they both have boyfreinds.And she said i became to obsesive. sounds like you might have made her uneasy? not sure. things that make people uneasy that shy people sometimes do are following them and watching them but not really talking to them, not going out with them, or taking proper steps so you can get to know each other better. don't know if you think that applies in this case or not. |
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Post by nigella on Apr 24, 2009 1:37:50 GMT -5
No cos i derfinitley got to know this girl fairly well she would be talking to me at the bar all night.I think i might of got clingy or emailed her too much.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Apr 24, 2009 13:33:57 GMT -5
No cos i derfinitley got to know this girl fairly well she would be talking to me at the bar all night.I think i might of got clingy or emailed her too much. i hate to say it, but there's really no such thing as 'too clingy' when a woman is into you. it's only the period of time before she's into you when it can be a problem. how long have you known her? does she ever talk to you for long periods of time outside the bar? i think you should just ask her out, and if she says no in some form, move on to someone who wants to go out with you. if a woman thinks you're obsessed with her, she's probably going to think you're idealizing her and when you find out what she's really like you'll dump her. |
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Post by nigella on Apr 24, 2009 15:22:50 GMT -5
I did ask her out and she said i wasnt conviente so im not that bothered now just couldnt understand why she made the running in the first place.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Apr 24, 2009 15:28:26 GMT -5
I did ask her out and she said i wasnt conviente so im not that bothered now just couldnt understand why she made the running in the first place. really? she used the words 'not convenient'?  what did you invite her to do? |
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Post by MrNice on Apr 24, 2009 15:30:06 GMT -5
don't worry about it, it could be anything. who know what she is thinking
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Post by nigella on Apr 25, 2009 7:06:55 GMT -5
I had asked her out for a chinese.
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