how you dont have a girlfriend?

[cyclopse]

At work my fellow coworkers talk about how come i dont have a girlfriend. It's not in a negative way but i know they talk about consistently. I am 29 and yeah i would a girlfriend but i am shy. I guess the perception is that and then it turns into who can we hook the person up with and so on. Who knows

[nigella]

Ive had that but from female freinds who have said how come u havent got a girlfreind.

[madiocre]

I used to get that alot the whole o y dosnt she have a bf thing. i remeber having extended family thinking i was a lesbian simply because i didn't have a b/f. and i have had friends try to set me up it ended in tears. People are pretty stupid its not a simple thing . its not like you just go to a arket and chose one . most love things happen by chance and being shy makes the chances of finding ppl even lower .

[wakingdream]

Omygod yes. I get this question all the time: "Have you ever had a girlfriend?"
I don't like to answer it, because I don't like to admit my failure

People seem to think I'm gay as well because I've never had a relationship and never hit on girls.

[Jeremy]

I get this in various ways from various people. Some friends of mine are convinced that once I move into my own place (which I should finally be doing within the next month or two, all being well) I will have hoards of women beating a path to my door.

With another (female) friend or I see from time to time, she always asks me if 'I have my eye on anyone' or something like that. I've turned it into a bit of a running joke now with replies like "I keep telling Angelina that Brad is a ratbag and that she should divorce him immediately and come and live with me, but she's having none of it. I guess my restraining order would make it difficult...." That kind of thing. Bizarely, she seems to find it quite funny (That's my friend, not Angelina, in case you wondered).

[strawberrysweetie]

Jun 12, 2009 16:41:40 GMT -5 Jeremy said:

Bizarely, she seems to find it quite funny (That's my friend, not Angelina, in case you wondered).

Maybe your friend likes-likes you.



Anyway, I'm not entirely sure what people think of me for being single...and always having been single. I'm only 21, I guess, but still...

I do hate to wonder what my family thinks of me, though. It's quite odd compared to them.

[Jeremy]

Maybe your friend likes-likes you.

There was a time when I thought / hoped ths might be true, but as she's now six months pregnent and has a boyfriend 3 years younger than her (and she's four or five years younger than me), I think any chance of her liking anything about me other than my slightly weird sense of humour has just about vanished.

Ah, well, back to waiting for waiting for Angelina to give Brad the push I guess...

Anyway, I'm not entirely sure what people think of me for being single...and always having been single

I've had 13 more years than you to wonder the same thing!

[GoldenRose82]

I'm almost 27, and have only had one relationship. And that ended back in Jan 2001, so I've been single for 8 1/2 years now. It annoys me when my friends keep saying, "You need to get out and meet people and find someone." Another thing they always seem to end up telling me is, "I could probably hook you up..." It's not that I don't want a relationship, but like you said, it's hard when you're shy. Love is hard enough to find between people who are outgoing and are always meeting new people and making new friends. But me, I haven't even been able to make a new friend in about 3 or 4 years. If I can't even make a friend when I meet new people, how likely is it that I'm gonna meet someone and it turn into a relationship?

People who are outgoing get rejected a lot. People who are shy and have a hard time making conversation get rejected even more. Outgoing people don't seem to understand this fact.

[arizona]

Wait til you get to be 45 and single! Over the years, people have thought I'm gay because I'm not in a serious relationship, but it isn't so. It is just, not only am I shy, but I'm fat, I'm not good looking, and I'm intellectual (this last one is considered unforgivable by many!). It is hard to find someone with these handicaps. I have had some women tell me I'm a real catch...........but not for them.