Peck on the cheek

[brightestdark]

If a guy who says he is 'reserved' gives you a peck on the cheek would this mean he was interested?

If you're male, would you give a female a peck on the cheek if she was just someone you knew, or would you only give her a peck on the cheek if you liked her? How do you greet members of the opposite sex (if you've only met them once or twice, but chatted a couple of times via email)? Not necessarily on a date, but at any time.

I met up with this guy and am wondering if he is interested in me, or was just being polite. He says he's reserved though. It wasn't a date, but a sort of meeting. However he also twittered about our meeting (not naming me personally) with a :-) Maybe he was just being polite... Is giving a peck on the cheek more personal/flirty than a regular hug? He was sat down and personally didn't need to get up and give me a peck on the cheek - but he did. If it was me who was sat there, I probably wouldn't have got up because I am shy. I'd have just said 'hi'. Maybe he's not as shy as me. Guys - would you give any girl a peck on the cheek? Or only cute ones?

I guess it's hard to tell. Just wishfully thinking!

[strawberrysweetie]

...it's so slow around here lately ....hopefully some of the guys will offer up their opinions...

I thought I should ask, though....is this guy from a different culture? Some cultures do that 'peck on the cheek' thing as a friendly greeting to others...

[brightestdark]

He's from England.

I know people in Europe are more likely to do the kiss on the cheek thing, but I don't think us UK people do it so much. If it had been the opposite way round and I'd been sat down and he'd come in, I wouldn't have got up and given him a peck on the cheek. Maybe that's just me (as a shy female). Maybe he has more confidence than me. I don't know if he is polite and does this to others that he meets or what...

[gaia]

Oct 14, 2009 2:41:47 GMT -5 brightestdark said:

I know people in Europe are more likely to do the kiss on the cheek thing, but I don't think us UK people do it so much..

Definitely not. Unless it's family members, and your mother forced you to give them kisses as a child.
This guy is more than likely interested in you.

[zerosum]

I say interested Good luck!

[brightestdark]

Thanks. Well I guess I might find out soon. I decided to email him and ask him to an event in a couple of week's time. Now I'm scared incase he says no! Why do these ideas always seem good at the time and then once you've hit 'send' you regret it!? lol

[strawberrysweetie]

Oct 14, 2009 19:32:53 GMT -5 brightestdark said:

Thanks. Well I guess I might find out soon. I decided to email him and ask him to an event in a couple of week's time. Now I'm scared incase he says no! Why do these ideas always seem good at the time and then once you've hit 'send' you regret it!? lol

ooo...good luck!

[brightestdark]

Well he ended up replying this morning saying thanks but unfortunately he can't make it as he's busy then. Grrrr. I dunno whether that was an excuse 'cause he's not interested or he is genuinely busy. :-( Typical - I hardly ever like a guy and then when I finally do it goes nowhere. :-( I think I'm gonna give up trying now...

[zerosum]

Oct 15, 2009 17:10:10 GMT -5 brightestdark said:

Well he ended up replying this morning saying thanks but unfortunately he can't make it as he's busy then. Grrrr. I dunno whether that was an excuse 'cause he's not interested or he is genuinely busy. :-( Typical - I hardly ever like a guy and then when I finally do it goes nowhere. :-( I think I'm gonna give up trying now...

Ah..sometimes I find it hard to read other people too. I end up thinking too much and it makes me worried and stressed out. That's me all of the time haha.

Don't over think it. As you said, he could be genuinely busy on that day and really can't make it. Don't give up because of this! If it was a friend, you wouldn't give up on them if they said that they were busy on a certain day, would you? It'll be okay. You can't judge whether this will go anywhere or not from this. Maybe it will, maybe it won't, but don't let this knock you down.

[brightestdark]

Thanks. I do think I have hideous luck though. I get all these guys I'm NOT interested in but as soon as I like one something goes wrong. I swear I'm jinxed. Oh well, I'm gonna leave it now. Probably won't see him again for ages as he is often working in London and I'm in the Midlands.

[Astroruss]

Oct 16, 2009 11:34:22 GMT -5 brightestdark said:

Thanks. I do think I have hideous luck though. I get all these guys I'm NOT interested in but as soon as I like one something goes wrong. I swear I'm jinxed. Oh well, I'm gonna leave it now. Probably won't see him again for ages as he is often working in London and I'm in the Midlands.

Physical distance isn't so much of an issue anymore; you can meet up with him with a nice quick train ride.

Now, why do you think you have hideous luck and a jinx against you? I'm sure that you don't. Anyway, it sounds like he likes you and that you have a good chance with him. Just keep being how you were when you met him, he liked that it seems.

[airburst]

What does it mean that he's "reserved"? Does that mean he's already in a relationship?

[gaia]

Nov 4, 2009 3:03:07 GMT -5 @airburst said:

What does it mean that he's "reserved"? Does that mean he's already in a relationship?

No. Reserved in social situations.. it's a bit like being shy, only it's more socially acceptable and usually doesn't plague the person experiencing it.

[brightestdark]

Oct 19, 2009 14:42:46 GMT -5 Astroruss said:

Now, why do you think you have hideous luck and a jinx against you? I'm sure that you don't. Anyway, it sounds like he likes you and that you have a good chance with him. Just keep being how you were when you met him, he liked that it seems.

Thanks. Well, I say hideous luck because it's been almost 15 years since my last proper boyfriend. Since then whenever I have liked a guy they've either been in a relationship, lived too far away and not seemed interested, or something like that. That said, I'm really picky and there aren't many guys I'm interested in. But when I do start to like one I usually find out he's in a relationship or he gets a girlfriend shortly afterwards. Although of course am shy so often don't make it really obvious I like the guy. The last guy I really liked, that I met in Jan, we met up 3 times and then he decided he was still in love with his ex, who was a glamour model!

I've started a new thread about the guy I'm talking about in this thread though - see the 'good person comment' thread! I'm talking about the same guy as the one who gave me this peck on the cheek.