Opinion on 'good person' comment wanted

[brightestdark]

The guy I like who has admitted to me in the past that he's quite reserved (not half as shy as me though, I don't think) recently has had work related problems. I don't want to get too into all the details, but I've helped promote his products over the last year or two. Haven't met him much - just a couple of times for an hour or so, to work on stuff. Anyway, I emailed him the other day and he told me some bad news regarding the company. He then thanked me for my support over the last couple of years and added 'You really are a good person in an industry of... not so good people'.

I'm wondering if this is just a comment as a friend/colleague - or if he may think more of me than just a friend.

Do you think if a guy tells a girl she's a really good person he is interested in her, or is he just talking as a friend/colleague and nothing more? Guys - if you told a girl she was a good person what would you mean?

I know it's probably hard to say. I guess I'm just wishfully thinking!

I'd like to meet up with him and get to know him more, but it's hard for me to make a move because I'm worried he does only see me in a 'business' kind of way and then I'd look a fool. I wish he would ask me out but so far he hasn't.

[airburst]

I think he was just talking in a friendly/business manner. When I show a girl I'm interested in her I don't just pay her friendly comments, I'll flirt with her, tease her and maybe even give her some physical touch. Since he's reserved he may be inexperienced with how to show a girl he likes her, so maybe that's his way of showing it, but I can't tell you what he's thinking.

You say he's reserved? If you're really interested in him I think you're gonna have to be the one who makes the first move (i.e. asking him out). I know that may be hard because of your shyness and guys are typically the ones to do the pursuing, but if he's shy there's not much of a chance of him making a move (this is coming from a shy guy's perspective BTW).

And the only way you're going to know if he likes you back, is to ask.

Good luck with your situation.

[madiocre]

Yea it has a friendly tone to me not a flirty one .
but if he is shy then who knows what it means. you should however only take it on face value. perhaps reply in a friendly way and express wanting to get to know him more?

[brightestdark]

Thanks for the replies. I actually emailed him a couple of nights ago to say Happy New Year etc and suggested we meet up for a drink when he's in the area (not sure when he's here as he seems to work away a lot now). He replied that when he's around it would be cool to meet for a drink and he'll definitely let me know when.

I'm thinking that's quite positive - although I suppose he could still just think of me as a friend. We've never met outside of the work situation though (other than when I bumped into him at an event in Nov and we just spoke for a couple of mins), so I'm curious to know what he thinks about meeting up with me for a drink, whether he may see it as a 'date' or just sees it as a friend thing. I'm sure he's been single for a while, so I wonder whether meeting a female will be a big deal for him, or not.

I guess I'll have to wait and see. He may have just said that and may not get back to me for another year now! I'm kinda nervous as I think we'd get on well and I'm hoping he doesn't keep me waiting too long.