Guys and Gals

[strawberrysweetie]

Not sure where to post this, but wanted to share...

I find this pretty amusing anyway.

"If guys were like girls..."

and

"If girls were like guys..."

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I think it's true that girls tend to talk about relationships the majority of the time....which can be interesting, I admit, but, I find I've always had trouble with this myself...I mean, if you've never been in one, how can you talk about it constantly? I could only really ever be the listener. Even when you're very young, girls would always talk about crushes, and I was WAY too shy to ever talk about that. I'd even hold back when I made some friends my first year here at college. Any other females relate to that? I always thought that relationships being a main topic of conversation, or even just gossip in general, to be a reason I've had trouble forming/keeping friendships. I just never felt comfortable with any of it. The high energy of them also was never something I could do, being shy and holding back all the time and all. Of course not all females are like this, but it does seem common among the popular crowd, or the ones that you notice.

Anyone else have any thoughts/comments regarding these vids? Do you think the vids are fairly accurate for each gender and do you fit the stereotype? I thought I'd create a new thread for this to see if any sort of discussion would evolve. If not, oh well, lol. I think it's interesting anyway.

[Farouche]

Strawberry -------------
Anyone else have any thoughts/comments regarding these vids? Do you think the vids are fairly accurate for each gender and do you fit the stereotype? I thought I'd create a new thread for this to see if any sort of discussion would evolve. If not, oh well, lol. I think it's interesting anyway.

Very interesting indeed! I wonder sometimes if being a social outsider may have a dulling effect on certain types of social conditioning, or if shyness may be partially a result of a kid not feeling like they have many interests in common with their peers, and being unwilling to fake that interest (which I'd say is one type of social survival skill, disingenuous though it may be).

The girls-acting-guys video definitely reminded me of the way certain of my male family members relate to each other and their friends, lol. And I’m sure I’ve overheard snippets of conversations like the guys-acting-as-girls one. I agree that you could probably say those conversations are accurate and typical of a certain type of college guy and girl, but there are so many variant flavors of guy, girl and mixed groups that I don’t know if I could say that the too-girliness of fellow girls or the too-guyliness of guys could of itself explain why I personally have trouble making and keeping friends.

I s'pose I hit certain elements of the stereotype, though I didn't relate personally to the clip. I guess my style is sort of girl-generic + dork-girl + pseudo-geek, and the proportions vary based on circumstance. I’m always interested to hear about who’s dating who or who’s getting married, and I’m game if girl or guy friends alike want to chat about a relationship dilemma. Not so much if they just always want to pick apart their partner’s perceived flaws or talk trash about their other friends or something. Friendly or harmlessly scandalous gossip is interesting to me, too (anything damaging doesn’t get far with me or the kind of people I tend to gravitate toward), but there’s usually only so much there to talk about, unless one or more of the participants is a serial dater or they live a fascinatingly dramatic and action-packed life. Actually, that's probably a real problem: I don’t do enough stuff to have many crazy stories. That's likely a hindrance to shy conversators of either sex.

I definitely do think sports are hella boring as conversation fodder, but I like the idea of playing video games in near silence, even if my game play gets slammed, lol. I just can’t see myself asking someone to come hang out and play video games, but I’d do it if I thought they'd be interested.

Can you imagine what you would like to talk about with a group of friends, Strawberry? Have you overheard or heard of any conversations or interaction styles between either gender that have made you wish you could participate?

[strawberrysweetie]

Apr 24, 2010 18:02:31 GMT -5 Farouche said:

Can you imagine what you would like to talk about with a group of friends, Strawberry? Have you overheard or heard of any conversations or interaction styles between either gender that have made you wish you could participate?

lol...I'm afraid not, not really anyway. I'm really so boring and uninteresting, nothing going on my life, that I find I pretty much have nothing to talk about anyway.

To the second question, I don't know what to say really.

I either feel comfortable with people and enjoy them, or I don't.

I don't know...it's a lot easier to point out what I don't like, can't relate to, than what I would like to be. Maybe I don't know how I really am since I've been on my own for the most part for so very long. I hardly connect with others on a group level....only ever had one group of friends ever and even then, it wasn't a cohesive, normal group really. *shrugs*

One other thing I find kind of funny, though...was the haircut thing. I remember once, I had gone to talk to a friend and it must've been like 10 min. later I finally said something like..."Did you do something different with your hair?" I realized she'd gotten highlights and a cut. She just gave me a weird look and laughed and said something that I can't remember, but she seemed somewhat offended, I think. Things I just generally don't care too much about so don't notice it as quick I guess.

I suppose, though, you could say I sort of wish I was like the stereotypical girl....just seems like it would be easier to meet people and become friends. I just don't get how some people seem to be able to go on and on and on talking non-stop. Can't exactly help it if I'm not that way, though.


** Actually, you know what? It just occurred to me again. Forget adulthood. I want to be a kid again....just run around town, riding bikes, playing at the park, trying to not have a care in the world. Drama and complications of adulthood do not appeal to me, lol. Sadly, there's no going back. And I never felt I was there anyway.

[HybridMoment]

I can't watch the videos (slow internet), but I can definitely relate to not being able to interact with people that gossip about relationships.

It seems around middle school age girls seem to go boy crazy and are constantly talking about who is dating who. I've heard guys talk about it too, but they were usually talking about what ever girl they were planning on asking out.

I don't mind talking about it with other people if they happen to ask my opinion, but I would feel mortified if they wanted me to talk about who I liked. I suppose now it wouldn't matter though, I don't even get crushes anymore. It would probably be awkward to explain my ambivalence towards relationships to anyone. Right now everyone that knows me just thinks that I hate people.

[madiocre]

It interesting now i have a bf i get to see what its like when guys hang out... to a small extent. It suprised me that they have a few times bought up the topic of shopping for stuff particularly sports clothing . My friends and i never discuss shopping despite mentioning we dont really find it fun.

i guess they do bag each other out lots but i do that with my friends too. I guess we do talk relationships a bit more but we talk about SEX and hot guys more whereas my bf says for men in his experience they dont talk about sex because it feel awkward getting competitive/ or turned on by other men.