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Post by soulelectroluv on Nov 23, 2010 13:30:07 GMT -5
I was texting this guy back and forth.
He told me that he didn't like texting and I really don't like talking on the phone.
Despite that fact that he didn't like text, he tried to call but I've been so busy with school to even have a chance on the phone with anyone.
Anyways, I'm also extremely shy and I let him know that from the beginning. Now he is ignoring me completely.
Not to mention, he is in California and I'm not, he's (underground) famous and I'm just a college student. I don't low of myself but why not date someone in they same status?
He told me he didn't date famous people.
Anyways,
Why don't guys believe me when I say I'm extremely shy...I still have social anxiety even though I'm in college.
Also I haven't had a bf although I really want one, I need some1 to understand that forcing myself to be something I'm not only makes my anxiety worse.
The last text I sent him was basically throwing myself in front of a train.
I told him that I wanted him and then called him a few minutes later...not call, nor txt reply.
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Post by madiocre on Nov 24, 2010 7:57:57 GMT -5
i guess it can be hard to understand shyness.
For other people they are always talking saying what they think interacting putting the words together....24/7 It can be hard for them to understand that for some of us that thing they do all the time is hard. To them its a bit like cant she just say something...etc
This may seem unrelated but i was watching a video for uni about parents with children who are anaphalactic. they have deadly allergies to simple things like milk, peanuts or whatever. For outsiders it is trivialised because they eat those things all the time they are everywhere and so the parents just seem over protective when all they are doing is keeping their child alive.
Its just the way we are but it hard for those to empathise .
On another note though I'm curous how did you meet him?
perhaps he dosnt want to commit to long distance ? there could be a million different reasons why he didnt reply . It hurts whatever that reason is i say just put it down as experience and moveon .
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Post by soulelectroluv on Nov 26, 2010 22:04:00 GMT -5
i guess it can be hard to understand shyness. For other people they are always talking saying what they think interacting putting the words together....24/7 It can be hard for them to understand that for some of us that thing they do all the time is hard. To them its a bit like cant she just say something...etc This may seem unrelated but i was watching a video for uni about parents with children who are anaphalactic. they have deadly allergies to simple things like milk, peanuts or whatever. For outsiders it is trivialised because they eat those things all the time they are everywhere and so the parents just seem over protective when all they are doing is keeping their child alive. Its just the way we are but it hard for those to empathise . On another note though I'm curous how did you meet him? perhaps he dosnt want to commit to long distance ? there could be a million different reasons why he didnt reply . It hurts whatever that reason is i say just put it down as experience and moveon . I met him over the phone actually. I emailed him, telling him how much I admired his speech, he's an activist (can't say for what) and he called into this show the comes on at blogtalkradio. He told me to call him and gave me his number. I didn't call at first because I was so shocked that he wanted to talk to me one on one. After a few days, he asked for mine and I sent it to him. For som reason, he called at 2am and I got on him about that...he never called that late again. Anyway, I think he's talking to some1 else now...I removed him from my facebook because of how he just went from begging to call to completely cutting me off. We could've been friends. People think because you look a certain way that you're not shy or just playing with them. I just want give up sometime because I wasn't in love but Its hurts my feelings to be so disrespected. I didn't even plan on getting in contact with hinm again. He treating like I chased after him and he got sick of me. |
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Post by Nlayer on Dec 3, 2010 0:35:38 GMT -5
I don't mean to be rude or anything, but this California guy doesn't sound very nice. But I know how you feel. And madiocre has a good point. Some people just can't grasp the concept of being shy because they don't know how to relate. It sounds like it is not your problem but instead his problem. I'm sure he is missing out too, you seem like a nice person.
That's my two cents, anyways. =]
All I can really say is to learn from this situation and press forward. I'm sure someday you will find someone who will equally love you! It just might take a lot of time before it happens.
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Post by soulelectroluv on Dec 3, 2010 11:25:14 GMT -5
I don't mean to be rude or anything, but this California guy doesn't sound very nice. But I know how you feel. And madiocre has a good point. Some people just can't grasp the concept of being shy because they don't know how to relate. It sounds like it is not your problem but instead his problem. I'm sure he is missing out too, you seem like a nice person. That's my two cents, anyways. =] All I can really say is to learn from this situation and press forward. I'm sure someday you will find someone who will equally love you! It just might take a lot of time before it happens. Hello, thanks for your reply. Its okay, he ignores my calls/texts now so I just stopped all contact with him. Now he's not all that great of a person, I thought he would be because he's semi-famous (lol) but I guess not. I am glad that I have, just recently learned to tell people that I am shy. Its easier to weave out the real friends from the phony ones when I do this.   Thanks agian. |
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Thanks agian.