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Post by pink2010 on May 19, 2011 21:29:22 GMT -5
I don't want to admit this to myself, but I have developed romantic feelings for a guy. He is very friendly and caring. He knows that I am shy and quiet. I only see him two days a week, so I am both nervous and thrilled to see him. I can tell that he likes me too by the way he stares at me and I catch him looking. As a shy person, I try to rehearse and think of ways to talk to him. I could ask him about the weather or compliment him, but the last thing I want to do is flirt with him. I want to be his friend instead. What should I do to improve this friendly relationship without flirting?  |
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Post by Scotty on May 19, 2011 21:49:44 GMT -5
Why do you only want to be his friend?
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Post by pink2010 on May 19, 2011 21:57:56 GMT -5
Because I don't know how he feels about dating.  |
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Post by Scotty on May 19, 2011 22:03:48 GMT -5
But you would like to date him? You said you had romantic feelings. And you believe he likes you too. You should go for it.  I would say first off, try to talk to him more. Then if it's going well, see if he'd want to hang out sometime. And see how it goes. |
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Post by pink2010 on May 19, 2011 22:08:18 GMT -5
I'm going to try to talk to him more and then ask to hang out with a group of friends ;D
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Post by Scotty on May 19, 2011 22:09:33 GMT -5
Awesome!  Let us know how it goes. |
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Post by pink2010 on May 19, 2011 22:11:46 GMT -5
Okay I will! Thanks  |
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Post by spinky on May 20, 2011 6:11:29 GMT -5
As a shy person, I try to rehearse and think of ways to talk to him. I could ask him about the weather or compliment him, but the last thing I want to do is flirt with him. I want to be his friend instead. What should I do to improve this friendly relationship without flirting? I think you've answered your own question, pink. Talk about the weather, interests etc. A friendship is a great foundation to build a relationship upon. Saying that, it sounds as though he's already checking you out, and you may already have an automatic pass to the 2nd base as he is interested in something more than friends. The Art of Platonic is difficult. Good luck, and most of all, ENJOY ;D |
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Post by putter65 on May 20, 2011 6:44:15 GMT -5
Talking about the weather can be boring though.
I like it when women take an interest in my hobbies / interests.
Or questions such as 'what are you getting upto at the weekend ?' or 'How are you ?'
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Post by pink2010 on May 20, 2011 13:01:15 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice, putter! The next time I see him, I will definitely ask questions. He's interested in basketball, so our conversation can be based on that. |
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Post by putter65 on May 23, 2011 9:04:08 GMT -5
Let us know what happens |
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Post by Sweet Pea on May 26, 2011 1:44:04 GMT -5
tick, tock, tick, tock....
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Post by pink2010 on May 27, 2011 10:05:35 GMT -5
I didn't get the chance to talk to him this week. I'm having trouble approaching him. Sometimes, my nerves take control and it gets harder to walk up to him and simply talk. Ugh! I'm getting frustrated... |
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Post by putter65 on May 27, 2011 10:31:27 GMT -5
we've all been there !
We all get nervous, a few deep breaths and I'm sure you will be fine !
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Let us know how it goes. 
