The title of the article was: Introvert, insecure or neurotic? you better stay single! People who are introvert, insecure or neurotic are almost certain to have bad relationships. Those were the two first lines of the article. He also said- and i agree on that- that you cannot change a person. --->But cant a person evolve from new experiences in his life ?? I believe that if you are introvert or shy or insecure it is hard to loose that feeling. For me...my shyness-introversion is something that comes and goes..i m single and i can imagine that that can be difficult in a relationship, but impossible ?? I m not sure if a relationship with an introvert is better for an introvert or an extravert. The extravert can be maybe too overwhelming for you and might get crazy himself over your introversion. But an introvert and an introvert ? it can be good coz you can feel maybe more comfortable, but you cannot 'learn' from the other his social skills. ??? What do you think ? Any reactions on this ? The article was from a professor in psychology at a university in the netherlands.(january 2003) Note this: there were many reactions on the board from that website. A lot of people were shocked about it, and there were people who agreed with him: they said for example that it is very tyring to be in a relationship with an introvert-insecure person because they take all your energy.
i don't like to generalize when it comes to relationships and the kind of people that will work well together. it all depends on who the two people are, and how hard they are willing to work to have a good, loving relationship. even if it is more difficult for introverts to find a lasting relationship, i think it's always worth trying.
From the title of the article it sounds that the author is trying to make a few waves. I have to say that I don't agree with much of what he says. I had an introvert / introvert relationship for 6 years and they were the best 6 years of myn life.
Positive website for people who are shy and/or are interested in self-help.
I agree with Moogle and Shane. I think it entirely depends on what other qualities the 2 people have. Being introverted/extroverted is only part of it. I don't think people who are opposites are likely to have a long-lasting relationship, although of course it does happen. And it is more difficult for an introverted person to meet and feel comfortable with new partners. However, I think it fairly insulting for it to be said that an introverted person will drain all your energy away. You might as well say that an extroverted person is draining because they will be seeking attention all the time. It just depends on the individuals. Also I don't think most people want relationships in order to learn, but merely to be happy.
Last Edit: Jun 8, 2003 14:03:01 GMT -5 by Mildman1
Shyness and introversion are not the same thing. I can see how it would be trying to be in a relationship with someone who was very insecure, but a person can be insecure and extroverted, too. I don't see how this would be any less trying.