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Post by casanova2 on Feb 2, 2012 13:43:47 GMT -5
Hi guys i am looking for examples of what a first message should be in an approach to a woman on a dating site.
I have tried quite a few this week yet no one has come back to me.
Am i doing it wrong?
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Post by Scotty on Feb 2, 2012 23:32:59 GMT -5
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 3, 2012 9:11:18 GMT -5
Well i a bit frustrated i wanna get a date going and i ain't getting anyone coming back.So makes me think i am doing somthing wrong.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 15, 2012 5:39:42 GMT -5
I beginning to think i am ugly.Though i have tried just saying hi how are you and that is working better than a long message.
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Post by ura on Feb 15, 2012 11:10:45 GMT -5
You have to remember that Girls get tons of messages from guys so they have the odds stacked in their favour, whereas a guy has to send tons of messages before he can even get a response, so all I can say is keep trying.
If you don't believe me register as a female on a dating site.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 16, 2012 2:33:04 GMT -5
I understand that but people have all ways told me i am nice looking guy.I now believe perhaps they were just saying it to make me feel better.Because if that was the case i wouldn't expect online dating to be such hard work.
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Post by jamesswfc on Sept 21, 2012 19:08:20 GMT -5
I beginning to think i am ugly.Though i have tried just saying hi how are you and that is working better than a long message. I don't think any men get a lot of replies on dating sites. Yeah 'hi how are you' works just as well as long messages. Long messages, tailored to them and their profile, is a waste of time - I've tried all sorts of approaches. If you're in the UK, I've found freedating.co.uk to be the best. I've had much more success on there, than POF, Smooch etc. |
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Post by wyntershy on Sept 28, 2012 18:31:17 GMT -5
I'm not sure about women getting lots of messages on dating sites. I'm a woman, been on a few sites over the last year.... I don't get any messages at all. I think for a real experiment, someone should make accounts as a BBW, a "barbie", a BHM, a "Ken" & see who gets the most messages. Got a feeling it'll be the "Barbie & Ken". lol.  Good luck Casanova2. I've learned that it really doesn't have anything to do with you. Try to not take the lack of messages as a personal rejection. Most of the time, it really isn't.  |
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Post by Crashtastic on Sept 29, 2012 15:08:15 GMT -5
The majority of the dating that I've done has been through dating sites. Most of the guys I have talked to or met up with have said that it is a bitch to get girls to respond to you and even when they do its a whole other hassle to get them to actually meet up. Depending on how active I am on there I can get a decent amount of messages. I will typically ignore most well because I'm too shy, or I don't think I really have anything in common with them, or if I don't feel up to it...or they are clearly looking to just hook up  There are sooo friggen many guys on there just looking to get laid. lol It also depends on what site you are looking on. Okcupid from what I understand has less options. People seem to have more success on Plenty of Fish and I hear Match.com is pretty good too but you have to pay for that one. Mainly with any of these sites you just have to keep messaging these women until one bites. It isn't easy for most of the guys on these sites. Unfortunetly, the girls do have the upperhand I've heard that a lot of the chicks are just looking to get laid, too! Someone that their friends and family...or any other guys they have in their life know nothing about, so they can just keep them on the side! Ugh, people... |
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Post by Crashtastic on Sept 29, 2012 15:17:40 GMT -5
I beginning to think i am ugly.Though i have tried just saying hi how are you and that is working better than a long message. Shorter does work better, I think. It doesn't hurt to write something with a little humor either but I know that can kinda put pressure on you to be thinking "oh no, now I have to be funny!" lol The best thing to do is not to put too much thought into intial messages. Like others have said you can just ask about what they are interested in...just keep it simple. |
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Good luck Casanova2. 
There are sooo friggen many guys on there just looking to get laid. lol