Sick and tired of judgements x

[florencexo]

I'm starting to get really upset that people perceive my shyness as rudeness and then being ridiculed as being rude which makes my shyness worse, i don't ignore people when they talk to me i smile and respond as best as i can but I'm just not that great at conversation, i wish i was but i get so nervous, some people keep insulting me and throwing judgments at me which are far from the truth and i can barely stick up for myself because i feel so humiliated, i just want to be able to get along with others, but as i said earlier being insulted makes me close off even more,please help? xx

[Karen]

I can relate, when I was growing up, I was told a bunch of times: "I thought you were stuck up when I first met you." I was always bewildered by that, I never wanted to come across as stuck up or cold, I was just too shy to interact much.

Sorry you're having a hard time with this Florencexo, no one has the right to ridicule or insult you. Its perfectly understandable that being treated like that will make you close off more, being judged harshly would make anyone react that way.

If someone is doing this to you, I would say take some time to consider whether or not its someone you want to spend your time around.

You can try telling them, 'I'm just really shy' when they say things like that, most people will be understanding. Also, I think it gets better with time, the people you hang out with will get to know you, and see that you're not rude.

Welcome to SU Florencexo!

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I agree with Karen, if you just say you're real shy most people will be understanding. I personally haven't met anyone that gave me problems once they figured out I'm just real shy, but still nice.

One thing I have to ask is are they mostly other women who are mean to you?

Women can be vicious to each other, especially towards a shy attractive woman. At least that's how things seem to be for my sister.

So I'm saying you might just be so pretty that you're intimidating to other women and the only way they can deal with it is by insulting you.

[florencexo]

Thanks guys you've really helped, It is good to know that someone understands . Yeah, i usually tell people that I'm shy but some others say stuff still, :/ i think that they will come to understand in time, hopefully

It is a mixture between boys and girls, but i agree women can be very vicious towards each other. x