Post by withoutanickname on Jun 3, 2013 9:38:42 GMT -5
Hello everyone I would like to ask you for opinions. I have this acquaintance who is shy and whose behavior I don't understand and thus, I'm not sure what to think. Doesn't he want to be my acquaintance but doesn't know how to hint it to me? Please, help me.
He: -looks away first when catches me looking at him (surprisingly, he smiled once but he looked away anyway), -avoids being in the same room with me (in a group), -little eye contact during a conversation, only quick glances from time to time. -he stood me up twice but then we somehow met and he assured me he would find the time to help me if I needed (was it just out of politeness?) - a person told me that he looked away quickly as he was caught looking at me (by that person). I was told he happened to look at me a few times, - the strangest two things: 1) when I came into a room, unexpectedly, and looked in his direction he looked up and instantly looked away when our eyes met 2) once, when we were alone (talking), I started to say sth and looked at him and he wasn't looking at me. He then looked up to listen to me and saw that i was looking at him. He looked away very quickly. What do you think of this behavior?
Yeah, I'm a bit confused too. Most of that list sounds like pretty common shy behavior. I'm guessing he just doesn't want to face the possibility of rejection or of things not going well. Maybe a slight chance he's unsure about getting close to you.
The only way to know for sure is to hack into his brain and decode the goop inside. WTF does that mean? I dunno, I just wanted to post something...
Last Edit: Jun 15, 2013 2:34:32 GMT -5 by Stranger
Post by withoutanickname on Jun 16, 2013 17:44:12 GMT -5
Hi Thank you for your replies. I suppose that by 'stood me up' I may have unintentionally misled you thus I apologize for my mistake. No, we didn't agree to a date (like in a romantic way). I'll try to specify the situation. As this guy appears to be nice he has happened to help me a few times. The 'stood me up twice' happened during one of those situations when I asked him to help me, he said ok and then I suppose he forgot about it. Although, he did help me sometime later and, as I wrote, he said he would help me again if I asked.
Hmm, so are you asking whether he might like you in a romantic way?
It's hard to be sure, but I think if he did then it's unlikely he would have forgot, and probably would have gone out of his way a bit to help you out. At least, given that he did apparently forget, you certainly can't be faulted for interpreting it as disinterest.
If you're just asking whether or not he likes you as a person, I don't see any indication that he doesn't. He probably would've tried hard to get out of helping you if that were the case. Maybe he was looking at you secretly because you reminded him of someone. Or he thought you looked interesting, lol.