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Post by altaira on Jul 12, 2004 22:24:14 GMT -5
I find my shyness is a liability in the workplace. More than a few times (but not always) have been told to speak more loudly that I'm quiet, timid, and recently (the "shy" word was actually used Because my shyness prevents me to bond with my supervisors, I've never been promoted. On the other hand, I haven't stayed with one company long enough (one year is the usual length) to get promoted. May I have tips and feedback on how others here present themselves at work? Thanks!
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Post by altaira on Jul 12, 2004 22:26:05 GMT -5
Because my shyness prevents me TEXT with my supervisors, I've never been promoted.
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Post by altaira on Jul 12, 2004 22:26:28 GMT -5
Because my shyness prevents me from bonding with my supervisors, I've never been promoted.
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Post by aux2 on Aug 28, 2004 9:45:24 GMT -5
The workplace is my major place to deal with shyness. I've been here for almost three years & still don't talk too much & feel streesed when I see others talking in a group & I'm left out. Part of that is that I don't usually like the content of their conversation, but I know what you mean about not bonding. I feel like I should be able to joke around more or at least have a few conversations with people, seeing how I've been around them for almost 3 years now. I wish I had more advice right now, but I'm just begining to seriously try to deal with this problem of shyness/social anxiety after 20 years or so. Good luck & God bless.
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Post by glenn miller on Aug 29, 2004 9:08:12 GMT -5
it is hard for me to.
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Post by nycallevon on Oct 5, 2004 20:56:15 GMT -5
Thanks for your input and God bless you too I'm checking out hypnosis books from the library, also trying to start my own business while pursuing my dream of being a professional actor and writer.
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Post by human on Dec 31, 2004 13:08:31 GMT -5
It is tough isn't it ? I have been shy my whole life, and I don't know what to do about it! It hurts me most when am at work, most of the time am so quiet so others think that I don't want to chat with them; and when I gather my guts and go chat with someone I can't look them in the eye, and so they don't feel confortable talking to me. I even feel that I create a bad atmosphere inside the office ! Which makes me realy sad Don't know what to do! I'm very successful in my work, but very unsuccessful with my colleagues! Am realy a nice guy and my family and my dear friends loves me so much, but at work I feal isolated !
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Post by Medici on Jan 1, 2005 19:29:25 GMT -5
Somehow I've never been shy at work. I think I know what it is. I just have very little regard for the people at work as they are scum sucking mutants. So I have maximum confidence in the workplace. In fact I have to restrain myself from being too assertive.
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Post by Cassava on Jan 2, 2005 1:34:26 GMT -5
At work I am okay - although there are occasions when I blush as we have a few characters who don't seem too bothered what they talk about (catch my drift) as long as they are talking.
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Post by Kitten on Jan 2, 2005 19:23:11 GMT -5
I think my shyness has been a big factor in why I'm not as successful as I should be. Actually, I recently got a promotion so this job is the first job I've actually had a position of power (comparitively, I'm not an executive or anything) but I've always held low-level jobs and have never really connected with my supervisors on a professional level. I used to go to work, do my job, and hardly interact or go out to lunch with people. Even with my current job where I got my promotion, Im very nervous that I'll screw up due to my social anxiety and won't be as assertive as I need to be.
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Post by glenn miller on Jan 6, 2005 7:48:08 GMT -5
same here. probebly why i dont have work. i try. liek for interviews. but does not work
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Post by Alecto on Jan 6, 2005 19:43:46 GMT -5
I do have a problem with shyness at work also. I've been at my job for about 3 years, Most of my co workers are nice to me and all. There's just one that really bugs me about it
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Post by Boblouie58 on Jan 8, 2005 0:40:19 GMT -5
Been there and done that! Hey! it sure is hard to overcome the shyness part but after a while, if you will quit worrying so much about what could happen, if you don't do it right (we all need to learn from our mistakes as everyone has made them at one time or the other), you move on. Sometimes you will need to be a bit more assertive yourself in either getting into a conversation or starting one of your own. People in a workplace setting, do their jobs, but to relieve much of the stress of everyday living interact with other employees in the office or on the job. To get ahead usually takes 2 things into consideration: 1) doing a good job at whatever task(s) is requested from you and 2) being loyal to the company...putting the company 1st ahead of your "own" wants. Remember you work for them; not they work for you. Good luck, as it worked for me after I realized it was sure better to join them.....join into the group even if I didn't particularly like what was said.
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Post by meow on Jan 14, 2005 6:40:19 GMT -5
May I have tips and feedback on how others here present themselves at work? Thanks! i find keeping my head down, working hard, doing a good job, and rarely speaking works for me. the few times i do open my mouth i tend to put my foot in it.
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Post by wakeryder on Jan 16, 2005 10:49:22 GMT -5
i usually dont speak and work hard
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