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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 30, 2018 18:10:21 GMT -5
Thank you strawberry!
It was Susan who texted me that, just to confirm! Idk if she was for real asking me out or if she was just curious to know, but I just ignored the message and she hasn't come back to it since.
I know what you mean about petty bs though, Susan dosen't care less about it and just wants it to stop, but Brenda is just really into it!
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 30, 2018 17:37:12 GMT -5
Heartbroken - someone took advantage of my kindness, found someone better and moved on. Whilst right now I'm feeling upset, there is a part of me that understands that at least I know they are not perfect and can try to slowly let go and move on. But right now............ need a good hug from my fellow Shybies. I'm sorry to hear this Zoe, I hope everything works out good for you :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 27, 2018 14:06:02 GMT -5
***another update****
She just texted me 'would you go out with me or not' plz help me
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 27, 2018 14:00:52 GMT -5
*Update*
Well today the friend I've known for along time (let's call her Susan) has been messaging me some pretty strong romantic hints today. Fisrt of I've never seen her as sort of a person who was really interested in dating or even dropping romantic hints.
Well I guess I should talk about the hints secomd, they're pretty damn blatant. She sent me alot of hearts gifs through instigram. I then said that's alot of hearts to that she replied with 'hahahah' and then 'do you know what hearts mean?' to which I replied 'Yes love' she then sent me a photo with 'I LOVE YOU' on, to which I replied 'As a friend I guess' to which she replied 'maybe'. Susan hasn't said anything more about it now.
Ok so let's confirm one reason why I'm confused, Susan has autism (not to say that she's any less of a person because of this) and it's sometimes hard to tell if this is serious hints, if she means something else or if she's just jokeing (I don't have autism or anything similar). Now she has told me her crush before, and it wasn't anyone I really knew at all. This bit comes as a surprise to me, but I just don't really feel like I want to go out with Susan, I dotn know what it is, but I just don't really want to. I do have a freind that I really want to go out with (not alex), but I think I'll be dead before I have enough confidence to ask her out.
Well that's about it, I'm sorry if this seems a bit stupid or tedious. Does anyone have advice??? Or have I interpreted this whole thing wrong (I'm do this all the time) and of course thank you for reading it means alot!!! :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 26, 2018 18:11:05 GMT -5
Just to add a quick side note to this, I know it may seem a little weird that most of my friends mentioned here are female and that I'm male, but somehow it's just the things are at the moment and I do have male friends,however most of my friends are female. I think I'm just a bit of a weirdo who has nothing in common with anybody so yeah, I'll stop talking now.
Thanks again to anyone reading this thread :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 26, 2018 18:07:51 GMT -5
Well Matthew - and welcome to the forum, by the way. You've got quite a dilemma there. I don't usually come in and give advice because most of the time I seem to misunderstand what the problem is and this time probably will be the same. That said, I have to say (just my own opinion though of course), I don't think you should let your friends dictate to you who you should talk to and I appreciate and agree with what you said in that regard. This other girl "Brenda" doesn't seem like she's on the up and up based on what I've read from your post. Of course I could be wrong. Like I said, I am not very good at giving advice on these things. I'm sure there will be others in here that can advise you better than myself. I hope you will have a chance to talk to her and see if anything happens - even friendship-wise. I appreciate that you don't want to risk losing your other friends - the ones that tell you not to talk to her. I just hope they're not saying that out of some jealous motive (or similar) but actually do have your best interest at heart. I really wish I could be of more help, sorry. From what I've read from your post Alex seems like a cool person. Again, I don't think you should have to choose between your friends and making another friend. Even if she doesn't end up being a girlfriend, it's always nice to have a friend to talk to. And to me it just doesn't seem right that friends should cut their friendship with you just because you talk to someone different (another person). P.S. Don't worry about the parentheses - I do that also. You should see my facebook entries lol. Apologies to you if I've misunderstood the content in your post (it seems to be a problem with me, that's why I say that). Hi audio, Thanks for taking the time to read my esay, seriously thanks so much. Just to confirm they don't want me to talk to her because Brenda had a fall out with Alex's friends and her and they don't want me to talk to her because of that. I know I should hate her for that, but I'm just kinda glad that Brenda finnaly getting told some sense by people and it's just Brenda that keeps on initiating arguments with him anyway. Thanks for the advice, I'm just gona keep on being friends with Alex and if she asks me out (I doubt it but maybe) I'll say yes. If my friends don't like it guess they're not really my friends :/ Thanks again for reading my post and giving advice so quickly I really appreciate it and I'll post an update if anything happens. P.s I know what you mean about not understanding things properly, I usaly compleatly misunderstand the meaning of what people say in conversations, when texting and also when people make comments on my social media. Thanks again :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 24, 2018 18:01:14 GMT -5
Well here we go, I've kind of thought this girl in form fancies me for a little while now, however talking to some people when I was preparing a presentation today (ugh I hate presentations, it didn't go too bad though acctualy) and they said that they were pretty certain that she fancies me and were curious to know if I'd say yes if she were to ask me out. Well this is when the dilemma comes in, you see my friends hate this girl, and have told me not to talk to her (I still do it's not like they can dictate who I will be friends with) well if I say yes, I'm pretty sure our friendship will be over. I have no other groups I can go to really, I mean sure maybe I could ask to hang out with one of friends outside the group, but I'm way too awkward to do that, I mean I don't want to bypass like my only chance to get a girlfriend, but I also don't want to sacrifice most of my friends to do this. I mean it's pretty unlikely that she will, since she seems pretty shy too and there's no way I'll have the confidence to ask her out, but I just need a solution planed inc case this does happen. Does anyone have any advice??
More context: (Don't worry about this bit it dosen't really matter)
My friend (I'll call her Brenda) had an argument or something with the girl who (potentially) fancies (I'll just call her alex) me's friend or something, and Alex rude to her and now they hate each other, personally I hate Brenda she's a drama queen and always has to have everything be about her (the only reason I hang around with her is because my other friend I hang around with is like best friends or something with her and it's the only group I can hang out in. There friendships pretty toxic tbh Brenda always trys to make her go everywhere with her and not hang out with me (It was worse last year when i spent many lunch hours sitting on a bench alone because she's always force her to go to this club)) (sorry that was like the longest set of parathesis ever) and basically me and Alex kind of suspect she's lieing about stuff (basically when ever she gets into an argument she makes up a lie, like last time she said that her step mum got diagnose with cancer, Alex asked how do you know, Brenda said that she just got a text, Alex asked to see it, she said that it was in Swedish and she wouldn't understand, Alex asked her to say hello in Sweedish and she couldn't, and she said the other day they were making fun of her because learning disibiltys or something which dosen't really make sense since they have learning disibiltys too (all only very minor though)). So I'm kinda stuck, and I thank you sooo much if you read the whole thing. Any advice is much appreciated, thanks!!! :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Jan 24, 2018 14:08:26 GMT -5
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Dec 13, 2017 17:45:01 GMT -5
Peole who constantly ring me 5 consecutive times (sometimes I just don't wanna talk)
Snap chat
Popular people (not celebrities, but popular people in my life)
Myself (sometimes)
Listening to the radio when they constantly play a song I don't like
Annoying repetative trends
Cheese
Rude or aggressive people
People who don't understand shyness
The royal family
Most sports
Fart jokes
Group work (because I always end up with no group and am ussaly put in a group of idiots who just want to mess around and do no work, plus it's just super akward)
People who act like idiots at school and try and be the 'class clown
Spicy food
Control freaks
People who call people who do something stupid or act dumb autistic (have a family member with autism and that's really not the case)
I think that's it for now
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Dec 8, 2017 17:33:22 GMT -5
Thanks :-)
We did do a performance the next year, However it was a bit boring and it wasn't really as good as the one before, and that was also my last year at that school so I didn't do any others unfortunately.
Do you have a school expiriance you'd like to share???
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Dec 8, 2017 17:31:13 GMT -5
I watched The Shinning the other week, really great horror film. Builds up subspence amazingly as the film goes on, it's not too scary and dosen't rely on jump scares to make it scary, which I really appreciated.
10/10 great film :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Dec 6, 2017 17:38:26 GMT -5
Hi, I thought it would be a good idea to have a thread where we shared/discussed our good or bad expiriance at school for anyone who goes to or has gone to school.
I'll start:
When I was in year 7 (grade 7), despite being very shy, I went to drama club, and a few weeks before Christmas we did a small audition for a performance (more about that later), and my group's wasn't great, However a few days later I was asked to fill in for someone in the chosen group who had been ill/dropped out. So I got the role of a reporter and we began practice. Now this performance was kind of a big deal for shy little me since it was a performance to the whole school (which had about 1000 students), which of course ment that everyone in the school (including teachers) would see it. This of course made me feel incredibly nervous and a little embarrassed (to emebarassed to tell my family infact). Then it was time for the performance. It started off with a monologue, and after some hesitation I began, the whole of the performance was a bit of blur after that (probably because I was so nervous), but according to my drama teacher I 'stole the show' and even the vicar at the assembly said I'd put lots of passion in to it. Afterwards I spent the next few days getting complements from students and teachers (who seemed quite supprised) which was kind of awkward, but also king of cool. I look back on this now and I'm still surprised today that I managed to temporarily overcome my shyness to do that.
So that's my story feel free to share your own expiriance on the thread :-)
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Nov 11, 2017 14:14:48 GMT -5
Thanks:-). People usally get to like me over time, in fact by the end of my time at my old school I had a reputation for being one of the nicest people there!
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Nov 10, 2017 17:58:18 GMT -5
My cat is scared of sneezes.
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Nov 8, 2017 17:51:51 GMT -5
I'm interested in joining, my username is: Ashes of burger king
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