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Post by Moderator on Jul 6, 2005 8:18:25 GMT -5
Thankyou for your reply Mary. Yes i do agree that if you want to have a verbal brawl then PM's and email is where you should be doing it. But we all know one of the members of this board takes great pleasure in annoying everyone else with endless rants in posts. However that just makes most of us sleepy ;D. P.S i'd be a mod but i annoy people as it is lol Maxine, You are welcome.... I started a thread under the "Announcement" category. By all means.... enter your name there. Hey... none of us are perfect. If we were, we would not be in this world. All any one can ever do is to try the best with what they have to work with. So... for what it is worth.... If you feel like you want to, give it a try. Thanks, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Jul 6, 2005 7:50:21 GMT -5
Yeah Richie's back!!! And as far as obscene or aggressive posts go, surely most of us are adult enough to handle them ourselves, personally i can't see what exactly he done wrong, as far as i'm concerned there are people who are far more aggressive than Richie. And yep we need more mods....and a warning system. One last thing, if i offend anyone with my posts , please pm me and let me know. Maxine... you are totally right as far as folks should handle it on their own. Here, once again, in the public board isn't a place to have a verbal brawl. We need to carry on.... hopefully, we are back on the right track. Have a good day... Mary
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Post by Moderator on Jul 6, 2005 7:14:34 GMT -5
I had a soft taco, as far as eats go.
My son has been pestering me... he loves pets (his BD this Saturday, he will be 7). At present... he is head over heals to get a "newt".
Re-thinking the post requesting some more moderators... I will start a thread where anyone that is interested or those who think someone else would be good.
That is a pretty good idea about the system where the rules are known and then there is a chance for the person to correct their behavior.
Richie... I do hope you can stay on with us. But, a SHY board is not a place for aggressive behavior. I should have given you the option upfront to make the decision to act appropriately. Posts that I had read were really out of line and I acted abruptly, which is not typically my style. But, I can not see a few people's arguments making it unbearable for an entire community. As stated... there are chats, emails, heck... take it out to the alley if you wanna have a verbal attack. Please... NOT HERE!!
Cheers, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Jul 5, 2005 20:59:52 GMT -5
Hello All...
First of all... I banned Richie. The reason was because there have been posts that were uncalled for and not proper in the environment we are trying to preserve here.
I am not trying and do not intend to be unfair to anyone. Everyone must feel that they can make a post without something being made from that post, when it is apparent the individual is attempting to find help by coming here to be part of our group.
The bottom line is that we need to focus on the forum and maintaining a positive and constructive place for those looking for a "safe and positive forum".
All people have opinions. That is not a bad thing. And that includes anyone and/or all on the board.
All people must get along in a public environment. When there are disagreements to a excessive magnitude in the future... I am expecting those individuals to take up that argument elsewhere. Private chat, email, in a forum that is driven by negative behavior.
1) I will reinstate Richie, with the understanding that he and (anyone/everyone else on this forum) that may thrive on a negative or rude/crude/mean environment...
You need to find another place to satisfy those needs! This is not the place and it will NOT be tolerated.
2) I am also requesting that we instate some more moderators. The goal is to have moderators that frequent the SHY Forum on a regular basis and truly care about the board and it's members.
The way I would like this to happen is... please submit your desire to be a moderator and/or "elect" another person as a moderator by submitting an email as follows:
Subject: New Moderator
Addressed to the following email address: admin@shyunited.com.
We will take suggestions for moderators until say, midnight of 07/18/05.
Then we will strive to vote for those folks, we as a group feel would represent the group best.
I don't want to restrict the board and it's posters, with the exception of their obsessive flaming, arguments, rude/crude/lude/mean posts, etc.
Depending on the number of moderators that are suggested...we will determine how many moderators will be brought on board.
Thanks for your understanding in the matter.
Have a good evening...
Sincerely, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Jul 7, 2005 22:24:15 GMT -5
At one specific point in my life... I help to boost my confidence when I enrolled in college.
Just prior to that I felt as though I could not do anything right (partially due to treatment of my ex).
I had been out of high school for 7 years and it was really kind of scary, at first. I mean... I wasn't in the study mode I needed to be in.
Once I got over the initial shock of the change of environment... I began to realize I wasn't nearly as stupid as one in particular led me to believe.
Actually, I was able to look at my accomplishment and know that I could feel proud of what I was really able to do.
My point is... approach something that you feel would be an accent to You, as a person. That will make you feel better about yourself and there fore boost your confidence.
As Always, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Jul 12, 2005 19:21:44 GMT -5
When I went to it it says that I do not have permission to access the area. Did you ask for/receive the password to enter from a mod? If not... that is why. PS... I just PMed you. Mary
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Post by Moderator on Apr 25, 2005 21:50:29 GMT -5
Well... that does seem reasonable. As far as Guests stirring up stuff. In order to post you have to register as a member, now. Could take some getting used to for some. Me included... I forgot to sign in and it wouldn't let me post either.
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Post by Moderator on Apr 21, 2005 21:13:33 GMT -5
So... Can any of you think of a good reason someone would need more than one user id?
Maybe there is... I just am curious what that may be.
Thanks, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Apr 21, 2005 18:43:45 GMT -5
Actually no difference at all. Just a bad excuse. Our family has been taking turns with illness, etc.
I suppose it is like anything else in life... once you take that initial step, it gets easier.
As Always, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Apr 21, 2005 18:24:09 GMT -5
Hi Mary! We've been wondering when you were gonna come out of your Shy United shell! I have been in that shell for a large portion of my life. Guess you could say I have become comfortable with it. No really... I have come to the forum, just not been posting. But, I do feel that the above is an issue. You guys have a Good Evening.... As Always, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Apr 21, 2005 17:59:23 GMT -5
Hi Everyone....
Hope you are all doing good.
I was checking into another issue on the forum and notice there was one individual that had signed up under 3, if not 4 user names.
I personally don't understand why that would be necessary.
I would like your feedback on one person having multiple user names.
Thank You, Mary
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Post by Moderator on Mar 13, 2005 23:37:35 GMT -5
Hello Shy United...
Thank You, Shane for introducing me to all of your friends. I do appreciate it. I would have responded before now... but didn't realize this thread was here.
I must say, I really appreciate all the kind words of encouragement and response.
For what it is worth... I would like all of you to know that I have conveyed to Shane that I want him to continue on, as he sees fit.
It has become very apparent to me, that the site... has not just been a website to Shane. It is / has been a very important part of his life and I could not and would not take that from anyone. Plus, I know you would all miss him. I do own the site, but Shane and I will continue to communicate to try to improve the site for all of us. His and your opinions are very important to me!!
My intent is to try to continue on as Shane had begun. But, I would like to be able to make an impact on the site and help anyone I am able to, along the way. You see... as this is not just a site to Shane. It is more than that to me, too.
I was/am interested in the site, because I could perhaps... in at least a small way... make someone's life a bit brighter. Help to find alternatives to help us all. Plus, I knew that not only myself... but my husband and son are shy folks.
Let's see... where should I start.
I am 47 years of age. I live in the United States, in the state of Indiana. I am married to a man whom is 6 years younger than I. We have been together since 1989, married in 1992. I was blessed with a son, Mark Steven in 1998. He is 6 years old.
About 5 years back, I had lasik surgery to correct my vision. I had to walk half way up to say I could see the big E. Then May 30th, 2002 I had a jolt hit me. I was diagnosed with a disease referred to as POHS (Presumed Ocular Histoplasmosis syndrome)---> Say that 5 times real quick. lol To make a long story a bit shorter... It is quite similar to to Age Related Macular degeneration (a dark smudge in central vision). I had 2 surgeries on my left eye. I am legally blind in that eye, plus... they removed the lens from that eye. I personally feel that anxiety helped to bring it on. As, even though I had the "histo spots".. stress will only add to the situation.
I was born and raised by parents that would have been considered pretty strict by standards of the time. My parents... my dad, especially, had numerous health restrictions from operations he had through my early childhood. I had to be quiet often times in the waiting rooms, as back then they didn't permit kids under 14 up in the rooms.
My dad was a very good dad and husband. Although, he had always put high expectations on my elder sister and I. Years later, it had become apparent that his intent was to convey to always try my best. He would brag on us girls, but never to us. We would hear it from others, often times. My mother was always there for me... right to the end. She had a tough job and needed to be somewhat of a mediator between my dad and I. Especially as a teen. Cause, Dad was very protective, too.
I was always raised to be good to others, because that was the way to be. In growing up I had the hard lesson to realize that just because I am good to others... others don't always see things that way.
As a young girl in my teens and early 20's I strived to be what I considered a "late flower child". Reason being.. I was not old enough to be part of the original "peace, love, hippys, freaks, etc". I fit in there, because I always have and do believe in Peace / Love and really appreciated (love) beautiful flowers. I have always had a green thumb to grow plants, too. I really like all music, but am most fond of the rock in the 70's-90's. I would like to post a song on the site that I was able to download today, but need to figure out the best place/way to do it. The song is "True Colors", by Cyndi Lauper, from the 80's. I really do like many songs by several artists. The only thing I can't really get into is Opera.
In the early 80's, around my 24th birthday my Mom passed away. Then about 10 months later, my Daddy passed on, too. I was chosen, to be the one there for both of them. Meaning... I couldn't get my Mom to answer the phone or the door when I came to check on her. I had to break in to the house and found her. I buried my mom 2 days before my 24th birthday. Then 10 or so months later I was living back at home. Came home went looking through the house to find my dad. And did... in the garage.
Needless to say.. I was a total wreck for quite some time. Guess, you could say I was on the very edge. Between then and my Dad passing on.. my first husband left me to go back to his first wife (even though she wasn't a good wife the first go around).
I lived 8 years alone prior to my now present husband and I getting together.
I have always been: timid, soft-spoken, kind-hearted, brow-beaten, the underdog, introverted, and/or numerous terms that I feel they label shy folks with. I have always joked saying that they didn't know I could talk until I was in probably in 8th grade.
As a child I was "chunky", wore glasses from the time I was in 1st grade, painfully shy and quite. But, then accused of being a snob, when what the truth really was... I was scared to death to be any more outgoing.
Long about when I was 15 I slimmed down. I had gotten contacts when I was 13, even though my dad protested that it would hurt my eyes.
I have never felt comfortable in big crowds. I had always preferred to be more like in the audience, not on center stage. That made me feel very uncomfortable. I have the tendency to get closer to people when I like them.. than the average person. I didn't have bunches of friends. But.. as we would say "we were tight".
After loosing my parents, I found myself "adopting" people. In other words... I don't feel like one has to have the same parents to be family.
Through the years of life I have become more outgoing than I started. I am still a worry wart.... as they tell me. I used to tell my Mom... "Someone has to care". As, I didn't see it as worry in the same way as others opinions of what I feel.
Please forgive me, as I didn't intend on writing a book. It was apparent (and rightfully so) that you wanted me to tell you who it was that has entered your lives through this website.
I look forward to being a part of SHY. I am really so glad that I found the site and believe it is a positive step in my destiny, and hopefully yours. I would like you all to know that if you have any questions, suggestions, or ideas that you would like to discuss... I am all ears.
Once again... thanks to each and every one of you!!
PS... I need to figure out which picture I want to use, but I will upload one of myself so you will know more of who you are talking too.
As Always, Mary
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