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Post by ShyMode on Apr 22, 2004 14:15:50 GMT -5
is theri any signs she may give to let me know she might like me? or what can i do to show her im intereted in her?
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Post by Bashfulme on Apr 22, 2004 17:28:32 GMT -5
It really depends on the person. How shy is she?
When I was younger and had a crush on someone I was too shy to talk to them and I totally tried to avoid them. If she is like that, then it might either mean she doesn't like you at all or that she does like you. (very complicated)
Now I am a bit less shy and I have the courage to talk to the person I like. I usually flirt with them a lot since the reason I like them is because I am comfortable enough with them to do so. If she flirts with you and seems comfortable, I think that she probably likes you, although maybe she is very shy, I don't know.
I know that I would never like someone now that I wasn't able to talk to, and that I was too shy with.
I think the best way to know is to ask her yourself when and if the circumstances permit. It never hurts to tell the person how you feel because you probably like her don't you?
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Post by ShyMode on Apr 22, 2004 19:39:57 GMT -5
well she looked at me when she walked by a few times and i looked at her i mean i really cant tell if she is flirting
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Post by Bashfulme on Apr 22, 2004 19:47:58 GMT -5
So you haven't talked to her yet, right? Well I guess she probably isn't flirting. Who knows, maybe she is interested though.
Where do you know her from? Work? School? Since you know that she is probably shy, maybe it can help you to feel more confident because she is also shy like you.
Maybe say hi to her and gradually work up from that. Even if you don't say much, its okay. Perhaps you can ask what her name is and try to make a little small talk, show her you are interested. Definitly smile lots to show you're friendly.
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Post by ShyMode on Apr 22, 2004 20:50:11 GMT -5
the first few times i didnt say anything to her then i was walking outside and she was coming in and i said hi and she said hi. this is at work she has seen me look at her probaly a few times and i seen her look at me a few times i dont want to keep saying hi to her everytime i see her because it would be funny. <--(im way to shy)  |
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Post by sushiboat on Apr 22, 2004 22:14:23 GMT -5
When you pass her in the hall, it's perfectly acceptable to say hi. There is no limit on the number of times you can say hi. However, it won't get you very far.
Here is an idea for talking to her. Stop by her office or cubicle. Say hi and introduce yourself, including where in the company you work (e.g., accounting, human rescources, etc.). Say that you've noticed she just started work there. Ask how things are going. Find out whether she is new in town. Ask about her weekend (previous one or upcoming one, depending on which is closer). Listen for clues about what she likes to do for fun. Find out whether she is single.
Your goals should be:
1. Learn her name, and give her yours.
2. Be friendly.
3. Gather information about her.
Later you can invite her to do something. A group activity is a safe bet. Going out to lunch with another coworker or two is probably the easiest thing.
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Post by Irene on Apr 23, 2004 7:20:56 GMT -5
I agree with sushiboat. Going to her cubicle and introducing yourself is a good idea.
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Post by Alecto on Apr 23, 2004 12:15:12 GMT -5
I agree with sushiboat. Going up and introducing yourself is a good idea. Ask if she's new in town, How her weekend was etc.
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Post by ShyMode on Apr 23, 2004 18:34:32 GMT -5
thanks guys/ladies
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Post by thisface on Jul 9, 2008 21:36:40 GMT -5
As a shy girl here is what I usually end up doing when I like a guy or think he might like me. I usually try to think of things to say, which often aren't very noticeable since I don't talk a lot. Depending where I know the person from I'll say different things. It might just be so you are you going to such and such an event, or it might be about what school the person is going to. I tend to laugh a lot more around the guys I like, and I tend to get more nervous. I'm very happy around them though. I'll try to sneak a look at the guy I like, and will notice every time he comes around. If I can I'll try to say hi and get to know him more. If he looks towards me I'll look away either quickly or pretend to not even notice he's looking at me (to make it casual). My friends and family often discover who I like because when he's not around I'll start to talk about him a lot and drop hints, like it's too good a secret to keep. Sometimes the guys I like make be more daring and so I'll be willing to take chances and ask them on dates and all...even though a lot of the time those types of things end up making me sad since I get all caught up in the idea of the guy liking me, that when he doesn't I'm sad...and so keep in mind that sometimes girls will hie their feelings for guys and expect you to read their minds because they don't want to sound forward or end up being wrong and getting "hurt". It becomes sort of a game...trying to read the signs he shows and all. Everyone is different though. The people who posted above me had very good points ,I agree with them. They have very good advice. Be sure to keep saying hi to her, even if she doesn't like you, I'm sure saying hi is a very simple way of helping you and helping her to be friendly and nice to each other. Go on from there, get to know her more and maybe invite her some place some time if you become comfortable with it. Good luck!
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 9, 2008 22:19:52 GMT -5
wow...2004...i wonder if ShyMode is still around.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 10, 2008 0:41:53 GMT -5
i think from now on i'm going to express my liking of guys by something so overt it can't be mistaken....like a pinch on the ass. think there's anyway to interpret that as 'just being friendly'?
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 10, 2008 5:17:38 GMT -5
i think from now on i'm going to express my liking of guys by something so overt it can't be mistaken....like a pinch on the ass. think there's anyway to interpret that as 'just being friendly'? Weeeellll back when I was at school a girl did that a few times to me when walking home. I interpreted that as if she was just making fun and ignored her.. so yes it could be read differently..sorry  |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 10, 2008 9:01:15 GMT -5
i think from now on i'm going to express my liking of guys by something so overt it can't be mistaken....like a pinch on the ass. think there's anyway to interpret that as 'just being friendly'? Weeeellll back when I was at school a girl did that a few times to me when walking home. I interpreted that as if she was just making fun and ignored her.. so yes it could be read differently..sorry curses! foiled again! |
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Post by adion on Jul 10, 2008 16:16:34 GMT -5
wow...2004...i wonder if ShyMode is still around.  |
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