Not necessarily for love but friendship. Internet, real life, whereever, i don't care.
There are nice girls literally everywhere. Instead of looking for them in bars or at parties, look for them in libraries, bookstores, museums, music stores, etc. Try to take your focus off the flashy one's who are knocking themselves out to get your attention (and everyone else's) and notice the quieter ones in the background more.
Try volunteering for something where you might meet them. Greenpeace and the Red Cross come to mind.. somewhere where you might find like minded people.
You could also take classes where you know there might be large numbers of them.. yoga, cooking, public speaking, etc.
Now I just need to take my own advice.
I'd suggest the internet, but so many of them who post personals online just seem to be.. well... wacko? Then again I'm sure they feel the same about us.
Of all the online dating sites, I like hotornot.com the best simply because you can search by their keywords, which is nice to narrow down your choices to say.. introverts, for example. Best thing to do is make your own profile and post it, because many shys and introverts won't post theirs, but they will search through them to look and see who's there. Be brutally honest and let people know what you are looking for right away.
I actually thought I would score higher then I did, then again I could have probably used a better picture too. It doesn't bother me. I'm busy enough working on myself much less trying to find someone else.
I haven't had much luck there.. just browing the listings I'll notice 95% of them have the words "party" or "outgoing" in them... go figure huh.
Last Edit: Dec 12, 2004 20:57:52 GMT -5 by Derrick
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I can't imagine meeting people there. Actually walking up to a stranger and chatting to them is a big no no for me. My ex gf I met at work cos at least you get to speak to a person and it's not "out of the blue."
Going to classes sounds like a good idea (although my crappy shifts at work doen't make that possible) and going to some sort of club/guo might work (although I wouldn't ant to go out anywhere by myself and I can't think of anyone who would want to go with me.)
Someone mentioned hotornot? I might join that for a laugh and see just how bad looking I really am.
Post by theinfiniteabyss84 on Jan 9, 2005 19:24:13 GMT -5
Nice girl right here!
I don't know where to meet nice guys. I can't just go up to a guy somewhere and start talking to them. And I don't go to bars, but I don't think that is the best place to meet them. So, the reason why I am, and probably will always be, single.
the quieter ones in the background more.
Thats me! Although noone ever notices the quiet girl in the background. Guys don't come up those kind. Thus, I am still single.
I know how you feel. i am a single 36 year old male and find it very hard to aproach a women with out getting very anxious about it. things would be so much easier if women aproached guys. I noticed when out that girls seem to ignore shy and quiet types proabaly thinking they ae no fun, which is not always true. I was wondering the same thing where is a a good place to meet nice girls who are not party animals all the time etc.. i dont know if its just me but i find women worse when it comes to chatting to quiet guys in the south where i am.
A suggestion that comes to mind is an internet message board on a topic that you are interested in. If you participate on the message board regularly, people will get to know you. That can lead to emails / private messages, as well as chatting with a number of those people in a chat room. The internet can be an excellent place to meet people if one uses common sense.