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Post by cyclopse on Nov 1, 2007 19:01:26 GMT -5
I think it works in many ways. It could be that maybe another person see you with someone and wonders. It can also be that your more confident about yourself maybe not even knowing directly you are. One thing is that it gives you something sort of to talk about or be noticed by someone. If a girl sees you with someone or ask you about your relationship that sparks interest. Alot of people the first step in getting someone attention is to make them wonder or be curious about them.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 1, 2007 19:37:48 GMT -5
i don't always believe men when they say they have a gf. sometimes they just say it because they believe it will make them more attractive to women.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2007 19:15:36 GMT -5
can we be sure that you weren't just more confident around women and giving them more opportunities to communicate their interest in you...hmmmm?  Yeah, I find it hard to believe that women could smell the relationship on you, and that was what made them interested, lol. Unless women were hitting on you while your girlfriend was with you, I just don't buy it that that's the reason they were attracted. When you're in a (good) relationship, you're basically getting constant validation that you're a worthwhile human being. You feel good about yourself; you smile big, not because you're being friendly, but because you're thinking of your partner; you don't care quite so much what other people think about you, because the one person who matters most will make you feel great again the next time they tell you how much they love you.  The kind of radiant optimism and confidence a person gets while in a relationship-- it *is* attractive. Confidence begets more confidence begets attraction. Though I can also see how a guy getting a girl can perhaps pique some women's interest sometimes. I remember there was a guy in high school, I think it was, who I found completely unappealing, in looks, in manner--and I got the impression that he wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. And then one day, I saw him getting lovey-dovey with this normal-seeming, very pretty girl, obviously his girlfriend. It gave me pause and made me think, wow, I guess that means he must have something going for him after all. I didn't find him any more appealing, but it definitely changed the way I thought of him. I can see how a woman might notice a guy for unexpectedly having a girlfriend, and then in noticing realize that the guy might be cool after all, on second thought. I wouldn't expect many women to actually take it beyond a second thought, but there will always be those few who'll hound after what they want without regard to any established claims.  Either way, though, I agree that generalized confidence is far more important than "proving yourself" by getting a girlfriend. Well if I was more confident cause i had a GF then you can say a woman was more attracted to me because I had a GF. But also now that I am recently single,, I still have that confidence in me. A "Player" friend of mine said that a woman don't want a man that nobody wants. And I believe its true, when I was with my gf she made little hints to me to improve my appearance and stuff,,, like buying me a nice watch, some clothes and even cologne which I never wore before. I asked her why, and she said so I make a good impression. I didn't take it as a bad thing, some of her hints were good things that I needed to improve on,, like things nobody else would say to you. So I think being with an attractive girl, other women would say Hmmm I wonder what makes him so good? It makes the person more intresting. |
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Post by Naptaq on Nov 11, 2007 18:57:56 GMT -5
I've heard about this once. A guy was telling some guy about how girls react at disco's. If he came alone none of the girls would even notice him, but when he came with a girl all of a sudden girls that (seemingly) didn't even look at him before, were now (secretly) watching him.
I would imagine that this is not true for all women, as this thread shows, but I know that this "theory" is definitely true for a significant precentege of people.
"Woman don't want a man that nobody else wants" yeah that sounds like a true statment and it would apply to us men too. Now of course there will always be exceptions of this "rule" and that's just how it is.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 11, 2007 19:16:56 GMT -5
I've heard about this once. A guy was telling some guy about how girls react at disco's. If he came alone none of the girls would even notice him, but when he came with a girl all of a sudden girls that (seemingly) didn't even look at him before, were now (secretly) watching him. if they're watching him secretly, how does he know?  |
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Post by Naptaq on Nov 11, 2007 19:56:17 GMT -5
I've heard about this once. A guy was telling some guy about how girls react at disco's. If he came alone none of the girls would even notice him, but when he came with a girl all of a sudden girls that (seemingly) didn't even look at him before, were now (secretly) watching him. if they're watching him secretly, how does he know? oh my god.. well you know some girls will look away if you give them eye contact when they're watching you.. that kinda thing |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 12, 2007 2:11:34 GMT -5
if they're watching him secretly, how does he know? oh my god.. well you know some girls will look away if you give them eye contact when they're watching you.. that kinda thing hmmm...my, that does leave a lot of room for interpretation doesn't it? |
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Post by Naptaq on Nov 12, 2007 12:28:39 GMT -5
oh my god.. well you know some girls will look away if you give them eye contact when they're watching you.. that kinda thing hmmm...my, that does leave a lot of room for interpretation doesn't it? not much. they're either watching the guy or not |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 12, 2007 12:51:32 GMT -5
hmmm...my, that does leave a lot of room for interpretation doesn't it? not much. they're either watching the guy or not i dunno...gosh...i can't tell...is he lookin' at me or not...hmmm...he doesn't look at me long enough to be sure...sigh...okay, wait...he definitely looked at me...i wonder what that means...is he lookin' at me just cuz i'm a moving object...why does he look away so quickly...does it mean he likes me or does it mean he's afraid i'll think he likes me...oh man... |
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Post by Naptaq on Nov 12, 2007 14:50:29 GMT -5
gee does he like me or is there something on my nose, maybe i look funny, maybe i've got something in my hair.. was he looking at me? she looks fat
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 12, 2007 17:27:16 GMT -5
gee does he like me or is there something on my nose, maybe i look funny, maybe i've got something in my hair.. was he looking at me? she looks fat does he think i'm too fat? or does he like that i'm fat? or maybe, he thinks i'm too skinny? or maybe he just thinks i'm freakin' weird cuz i'm standing here staring at him! ;D |
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Post by cyclopse on Nov 13, 2007 1:40:01 GMT -5
I was at a bar this past weekend and thier was this girl thier with this guy. She probably sat 4 seats over from me and all night she was looking at me at one point she was starring. The guy looked over once or twice but he didnt say anything. To be honest alot of guys came up and talk to her with him thier so i guess i could take that for what its worth.
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Post by shyguy98 on Nov 13, 2007 11:51:16 GMT -5
I think its that women are attracted to guys that are popular
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Post by theinfiniteabyss84 on Nov 13, 2007 13:12:14 GMT -5
I think its that women are attracted to guys that are popular Yep, that's it. I know I am only attracted to popular guys who are tall dark and handsome, have a fabulously paying job, drive fancy cars while buying me expensive gifts. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 13, 2007 15:45:34 GMT -5
I think its that women are attracted to guys that are popular Yep, that's it. I know I am only attracted to popular guys who are tall dark and handsome, have a fabulously paying job, drive fancy cars while buying me expensive gifts. yup...i have an invisible second eyelid that covers my eyes until i'm given diamonds...so basically i cannot even see any guys unless they are wealthy! ;D no no no, that's not the right theory. how the 'law of attraction' actually works is that men want to be popular, so they're watching all the popular guys all the time and the gals who flock to them...all eaten up with envy, of course. other females don't even get on their radar...the guys don't know what they're doing and they don't care. they don't even know they're alive. the reason is that men are all about competition with each other, and they just use women in their bid for popularity (read: power)!  |
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The kind of radiant optimism and confidence a person gets while in a relationship-- it *is* attractive. Confidence begets more confidence begets attraction. 
