Alone at a party

[hhlomaxx]

Hi. How many of you have been to a big party or club surrounded by people but have fealt so alone. I 'll tell you what I hate the most - You tell your best friend that you are leaving and they cant understand why - Eventhough they see you in a corner (or in my case it was the bar) sitting alone. Most nights I would have been better off staying home.

[Nick]

that has happended to me so many times. If im with my close friends i love every moment being out with them. If I'm out with a few people out of work who i dont know that well i feel terrible. I just clam up and cant relax. I become a different person. Now, I try not to get myself into that situation in the first palce. If the ones out of work as if im going out i say no. Better to do that than put myself through torture all night.

[Valerie]

;DYeah-I think the best thing to do is to take risks. If you have a bad time, make sure you have a way to get home early. Drive yourself and meet people there. I used to be terrified of clubs and parties. Parties, I no longer attend(because I don't drink or smoke) and clubs I only go to every once in awhile. There are other more entertaining things to do. Talk to you all later.

[unionjackattack86]

"Sometimes you can be surrounded by people but still feel as lonely as hell" that quote is so true, yeah i've been in the same situation at partys, I tend to blend in to the background.

[PhrozenOracle]

Yeah only two days ago i was at this party and I felt like i stuck out like a sore thumb thankfully a friend came who i wasn't expecting and i felt a little easier

[Stewpot]

I find watching others & people watching fascinating, maybe others should try to see what & how others react in full flow.

[unionjackattack86]

I've never really observed people at partys other than the ones I like but I do a fair bit of it in college as my college group is only small and were all on a self improvement course so we have to really.

[spike]

I would do almost anything to get out of going to a party. Usually I lie.

[Michael1973]

I talked myself into going to a party by myself a few years ago, thinking I could meet new people there. BIG mistake. I stood in the middle of the room, too terrified to approach anyone, and not one new person came up and talked to me. What a waste of an evening...

[unionjackattack86]

The only reason I go partys is to get drunk as I don't dance or anything and I never intend on hooking up with a girl as I don't have a first clue about how to so I just get drunk, I open up alot more when i'm drunk as well, i'm no where near as shy.

[moogle]

i never go to parties. on new years eve, my boyfriend wanted me to go to one. i didn't want to, even though he said he wouldn't leave me alone. he ended up going by himself, saying he'd probably be home early. he didn't get home until 6 am, i cried the whole time he was gone. i know i don't have any friends, and i know it's wrong for me to want him not to have friends either, but it's just how i feel. i don't actually do anything to interfere. i don't know where i'm going with this..

[spitzig]

In college, parties varied. I was in a fraternity, so knew all those guys, friends with most of them, and good friends with a lot of them. If my fraternity was hosting a party, there were usually a lot of my brothers there, so it was often fun. I'd largely just hang out with them. When I drink, I think I tend to get even more introverted, though.

[S]

You know the saying "dance like nobody's watching"? Well that's me when I'm at parties because I know so few people there it hardly makes any difference what I get up to, I won't see the people for months afterwards and they'll forget.
If the music they're playing is bad I don't know what to do and sit in a corner. I like the music and I like the feeling of being able to dance in a party atmosphere but I go home on my own and life goes on as normal. Maybe I'll bump into someone who was there but I won't even talk to them and ask them if they enjoyed it.
It's better than staying at home though.

[shysteven]

that happens to me all of the time! i usually get drunk and get my nipples out. it drives the girls wild and you're sure to make friends! ;D

[moogle]

if i got my nipples out at a party, i think i'd get more than friends
i went to a party last week. it was hard taking to people at first, but i relaxed after a while. one of the guys brought his girlfriend with him and she didn't know anyone, and he just left her sitting by herself (jerk). that's when i realized it could have been worse.
and i did go over and talk to her.