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Post by Geraldo on May 26, 2003 6:39:36 GMT -5
Hi. My name is Geraldo, I'm 19 and painfully shy. I play football for a pub team. The team is just back from a midweek break in Liverpool, We played a few games of footy and had a few beers.
I hated it. I was the butt of the jokes the whole time. It got so bad that the night we went to a nightclub I just walked around and around in circles the whole night.
Then on the way home on the coach I just looked out the window the whole way home. I've never felt as low as this in my life.
I knew this was going to happen. I should never have gone in the first place. I was wondering, what is the worst you have ever felt because of your shyness?
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Post by g3netix on May 26, 2003 11:11:53 GMT -5
i stay away from places where i know theres a chance i can get mocked
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Post by moogle on May 26, 2003 11:14:46 GMT -5
it's kind of hard for me to say the worst i've felt because of my shyness, because it has become very closely tied to my depression.
i have come very close to killing myself a few times, but that was depression-related.
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Post by Twice-Shy on May 26, 2003 11:33:53 GMT -5
I've had too many shyness related problems to mention but probably the worst was when it was a factor in my seperation.
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Post by g3netix on May 26, 2003 16:46:34 GMT -5
yeah i know how u feel moogle, but i would never kill myself, i cant put my family thu all that
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Post by spitzig on May 26, 2003 21:16:27 GMT -5
My worst depression was not related to my shyness. It was about the first girl I fell in love with. My depression about my shyness usually comes about over things that no one thinks about, but me. Maybe I'll see some couple, particularly enjoying each other, and get depressed because I don't see that as likely for me. One bad time, I overheard some friends complaining about their problems with the women they've dated. I wish I could have problems with women I've dated.
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Post by moogle on May 26, 2003 22:50:48 GMT -5
now that i think about it, my shyness is probably more related to anxiety..which is related to depression.. i guess it's just a big messed up circle.
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Post by spitzig on May 27, 2003 0:19:45 GMT -5
Isn't social anxiety the psychological term for shyness?
Oh, I seem to get depressed often when I go to a club. Not neccessarily then. Sometimes a day or two later. It's just a good opportunity to remind myself that I'm a social retard.
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Post by moogle on May 27, 2003 9:17:01 GMT -5
a lot of people with social anxiety will actually have anxiety attacks.. it's much worse than being shy.
and there are more anxieties than social.
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Post by spitzig on May 27, 2003 13:06:30 GMT -5
a lot of people with social anxiety will actually have anxiety attacks.. it's much worse than being shy. and there are more anxieties than social. You mean the anxieties that get you depressed are not only social ones? |
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Post by inkysoftwhispers on May 28, 2003 10:23:59 GMT -5
I was jus wondering whether everyone here has been seriously depressed at some point...cos,well I've been shy for so long,and it always bothered me,but not enough to get me really down.
But since about christmas everything's just been awful. ...so I was wondering whether it's inevitable that shy people will get depressed.
That's the only reason that I stumbled accross this site btw. I never really thought about finding other people like me before. So I guess it's good in a way. Wohoo.
Oh no sorry I think I've been spouting rubbish. This probably doesn't make any sense.
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Post by Twice-Shy on May 28, 2003 11:16:29 GMT -5
I have suffered from depression related to my shyness for a number of years. Like you, it would come on and last a few months and then go.
I learnt that when I felt it coming on I woud take myself down to my doctor's and he would prescribe me with an anti-depressant to pick me up again.
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Post by inkysoftwhispers on May 28, 2003 11:42:10 GMT -5
I went to the doctor about depression for the first time last week.She was lovely and gave me some antidepressants. Hopefully feel better soon. I'm sure if we weren't all so shy we wouldn't get quite so down  how unfair. |
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Post by g3netix on May 28, 2003 16:33:31 GMT -5
i dunno if ive ever been depressed? what happens when ur depressed, where does it hurt
i dont care about my shuyness i just get on with my dull life and hope it improves, fat chance hehe
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Post by moogle on May 28, 2003 16:42:36 GMT -5
it can hurt everywhere or you can be so numb that you don't feel anything. you don't feel like doing anything or talking to anyone. it's like nothing matters anymore and you just want to give up. i guess it's like despair, but it can last for weeks or months or years.
this isn't a clinical definition, just how i feel.
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how unfair.